Originally Posted by afr2010
And about the legality of it, when a lady from the counties health department came over to do birth certificate work for my UC she was happier with the fact that I had a UC than a midwife.
Wow that's super weird! Why would they be happier about UC than a midwife attended birth? That makes no seance lol
I'm my case I've got a midwife with a birthing center. I live in a small apartment and I'm not sure if I want to bother neighbors with my birthing. With my first child I didn't really make noise till the pushing contractions but my lack of experience caused me to not put all my strength behind those contractions so they lasted 3 or 4 hours lol but now I know and would start going for it when they begin. I also realized with my first that if I DIDN'T scream I had even more power behind the push. So I'm wondering if maybe I am capable of quietly UCing lol
But anyway! So the midwife has a birth center but the fee is 1000$ and then a professional fee of another 1000$ I sure wouldn't mind saving that money. I also get state insurance for being low income, and this midwife accepts the insurance for prenatal care. I'd love to see her for prenatal care and save the cash that would cover what the insurance doesn't, and UC.
I've always loved the idea of UCing. It always seemed more real and more trusting in the Creator.
People of course always say "the most important thing is a happy healthy and ALIVE baby"
I feel that UCing is the way to have all of that! Plus a healthy happy momma! But I understand that death is real and possible.. In any situation. I'm certain the lost of a baby would be so so hard and painful but I wouldn't call it the fault of birthing alone.
As soon as (or maybe even before we new) I got pregnant I decided I'd just go with this midwife to apease family and just get through it but the more I think about it I want to UC. I think that type of birthing is just ingrained in me some how. And I want to experience it.
(Can't remember if I mentioned it above but I transferred 20 mins before she was born, in an ambulance, to the hospital. I was beggin for drugs and all the nurses said "oh honey you've gotten this far you can do it!" Lol)