Originally Posted by rainbowmoon
how did you overcome your fears (and family's or DH/DP) before your UC? I am a little scared at times, but more afraid of a hospital birth (and another c/s) so that's what keeps me motivated..
I think it depends on what the fear is, like others have said.
Also, by taking responsibility for my own actions, and not relying on others to "bail me out" puts the whole event in a completely different light.
The "what if" factor did play a big role for us in the beginning.
What if something goes wrong?
I asked myself, what could go wrong? Then I try and find the solution, usually any problems that do arise are mearly unknowns that rely on patience and understanding. (like anything else in life.) And I found there is always more than one solution for problems that "might" come up.
Take for instance, the cord wrapped around the babies neck.
In the hospital environment (speaking from my experience) this is a B A D thing. Our 1st had her cord wrapped around her neck and this sent my Ex OB into a tissy to cut the cord BEFORE THE BABY WAS EVEN OUT!!!
Procedure, routine, necessary intervention, life or death! This is what we were told by the staff at the hospital.
Fast forward to today and our UC. Her cord was wrapped around her neck. We were not scared at all. We waited. Waited to birth the baby and let the cord unwrap as the baby exited at her own pace.
Chances are the cord had been wrapped for some time before the actual birth, because during the last few weeks, the baby's head settles into the pelvis, right? Not much room for movement, and besides, it seems to me that having the cord wrapped could prevent a prolapse because there isn't much slack.
Or... we could have slipped a finger under her chin and gently remove the cord, as she exited at her own pace.
I learned that this is commonplace and to anticipate it.
I guess I tried to anticipate and prepare for anything, even the worst. I looked at the fear as an opportunity to educate myself on how to handle anything that may come up. But I also trusted myself to do what I was made to do.
I also learned that most times, most mamas just "know" in their gut that something is wrong, if indeed something is wrong. So, at that point, should I have felt this way, I would have called 911.
As far as my family, it's none of their business how I birth my children.
(mind you, this coming from the baby of 5- so I must rebel. It's in my nature)