Thanks for all the advice and book recommendations. I am in the process of looking for the books around town now–I'll order them on-line if I can't find them locally.
I feel really good about doing UP/UC. In fact, I feel as though I have been let out of a cage and can breathe freely for the 1st time in ages. I started looking for a midwife on automatic pilot, but the more I have experienced, the less I wanted that. Moreover, all my nightmares about labor/delivery have stopped since I fired my midwife.
I hate to say it, but after my recent experiences, I feel like OBs and hospitals take on the old stereotyped role of father–overbearing, the authority figure everyone needs to obey, unbending, etc. The midwives take on the role of mommy–cooing at you and treating you with love and understanding, but like a little child and in reality giving you as little respect as the OBs and hospitals. Neither is what I want or need. I know what I want and need and what my baby needs as well.
So now I am committed to providing the care myself. I think I am going to track things like my weight, the protein and sugar in my urine and my blood pressure. But it's not because I am scared so much as that my weight and height of fundus are so far off. EVERYONE assumed until my sonogram that I was carrying multiples (I was about 6 cm larger than expectd and wouldn't be surprised if I were 9 or 10 cm over at this point) but I haven't gained as much weight as one would expect for a normal sized baby. I doubt I will have any problems, but if I do, I can go to a doctor and give them everything but the height of my fundus accurately. And if I don't seem to have any problems nobody will ever know about any of this but I will save it as a keepsake for the baby.
I also feel as though my bond with my baby is stronger already. It is as though now that I have stopped worrying about improper interventions and interference from others, we can focus on one another.