Oh thanks for letting me 'rant-n-run'.. I haven't been able to get back on line for a couple of days! But I really appreciate your comments... I'd usually throw out there that I plan on having my next baby at home, and they ask about whatever midwife, and I say, oh no, I'm just doing it myself, no doctor or midwife can get to me 'on time' in the hospital, so I doubt they'd make it to my house before the baby, so why bother? ....
The typical response is Oh NO.. You CANNOT do that without a midwife!! And of course the clean up is always one of the first points of debate.
Unfortunately, (maybe you can tell by all my mile long posts!) restraint is not something I come by naturally. I do think part of it is that I haven't done it before. I have no question in mind as far as my ability to birth on my own, but since I haven't technically done it yet, I don't have the walk to back up my talk yet.
I have three gfs due in October. One of them just told me that the medical types just told her that if there is anything positive on the "triple screen", you have to have your pg very closely monitored because of the high rate of m/c and stillbirth with those positives, even if the ultrasound shows that everything is okay. .... And the stress all of that monitoring is going to put on you and the baby? Whose going to be monitoring that?! She even made the comment that she has no idea how her first one made it into the world alive, since she had a postive AFP test, and they didn't monitor her at all. Of course, she was perfectly healthy when she was born, very naturally and at top speeds. Of all my gfs, this one frustrates me the most. She has brilliant births, fast, 'easy', everything just flies by with her labors, but she won't even consider the possibility of having a baby at home. Thinks I'm nuts, and that I'm endangering my dc, especially when it comes up that I would still go natural/vaginal for a breech baby, by even considering a homebirth. And yet we're still friends? How do women do it?
Anyway.. Thanks as always for your support and suggestions!