Originally Posted by five_arrows
I too am expecting my fifth baby, (I am 29) and I want to do UP but each time I see the MW, they make the next appt, and I end up going. I really don't want to continue, its just this old habit that dies hard.
The last time I saw a MW, it turned out it was a HE, and (no offence to all the male MW's) but I felt SO uncomfortable and it wasn't for me. He also told me that next visit would be a GTT, and I just don't believe in them, mostly because I fail them. :LOL
But what do ya reckon your body is going to do if it drinks a cup of sugar???
I find they're ickier in the US than in NZ or the UK!
My main reason for continuing is to get 'proof' this baby is genuine and I will have less trouble getting a birth cert. I know in Australia, it can be very difficult to get one. I have heard so anyway.
So I am a wannabe UP! (& 25 or so weeks) & planning first UC.
Well, I don't know about Oz, but I will tell you, I had a tough time in Louisiana. They kept insisting on a note from someone "official" that I had had this baby. Because obviously, I couldn't be trusted to tell them that I'd just had a baby.
To back up, 1st I went to the main state office, & they said, "No, you have to go to the parish (county) office & fill out the papers there, & then they send them to me & I deal w/ it." When I finally tracked down the only woman allowed to handle birth certificates in the parish office, she said, "You should have gone to the state office, she's the one who handles it."
So, we argued about what proof I could give her, and she fianally accepted a note from the midwife saying, "I was giving her prenatal care. I saw her on the 11th, and when I saw her again on the 15th, she'd had a baby." But she wasn't very happy about it. She was also pretty miffed that I wanted her to accept my APGAR scores, etc.-- obviously, I couldn't possibly be able to determine such a thing for myself (never mind that I have a PhD, and I somehow don't imagine that she does!).
Anyhow, I did get it, but it ws pretty stressful. And to add to that -- she had sent something in so that the baby would get a social security card, but when I needed the number to file taxes, I couldn't find it (dh had moved it, of course) & thought I hadn't applied for one, so I went to Soc Sec to apply for one. They treated me like dirt ("What do you mean he's never seen a doctor!!), saying there had to be "proof" from a doctor, etc & his birth certificate didn't count. I asked why I didn't have this difficulty when I was out of the country & took the baby's birth certificate to the US consulate to apply for a passport & SSN at the same time, and they suggested I go to the consulate then (as if the US would have a consulate to itself within its own borders
). Boy was I relieved when dh turned up w/ the thing! I was actually going to have to apply for Medicaid, so I could spend hours waiting around in a doc's office, to get in an arguement w/ the doc about no vacs/"well baby" checks, in order to get the doc to write a note saying, "Yep, the kid exists."
So, now that I've vented a bit of annoyance, I guess I would say, "Yes, it might be a good idea from the point of view of "proving" the babe's birth. I am now that I recall all this, wondering what all those UP UC'ers do in this regard. Hmmmmmm.
And to Angie: Yeah, I'm into being free of interference, but not necessarily "toughing it out alone". Geez, they should at least see what you go through!
And I guess it is nice to share the process w/ someone who's got more idea what's going on than family members. Maybe I'll tell her what I'm planning toward the end, so as not to get blacklisted. If she refuses to see me after that, I suppose it would at least relieve me of the going "overdue" arguements & threats....