I can't give you any advice on whether you should go to a doctor or midwife while planning a UC, ( my opinon is don't and rather do some major soul searching for trust in yourself) but I do suggest that you go to the hospital and you ask for the waivers for the Vit K shot and the eye ointment now, and also go have a syphillis test, and gonorreaha (mispelt I'm sure..lol) test done at the beginning of your pregnancy, even if you know you don't have it. If a doctor thinks just by looking, that your baby may need the eye oinment because a "possibility of infection" then they have the right to give it with or without your consent. Make sure you keep the test results and your waivers in your purse (or on you at all times), and keep a copy as well in case they "lose them " at the hospital.
Another thing you'll want to consider, is finding someone to be there with your child during absolutely everything that is done...if you need your hubby by you then get your mom or sister or someone, to ALWAYS be with the baby, and pick someone you know is going to pick that baby up right out of the doctor's hands if they try any crap. Hospitals are not prisons, they cannot force any procedure on you or your child without a court order, and you always have the right to a second opinion even with one, unless it a life or death situation, in which case I doubt you'd be objecting to anything anyway. If they want to take the baby to the nursery because of "policy", first ask to see the policy in writing before they do anything (they have to oblige again unless it is life or death, which to the nursery never would be) then your "person" follows, and if they can't go in, then they demand the baby be kept in view at ALL times, and you also need to write somehting up to go in your file stating this stuff, so the docs and nurses know you aren't fooling around about your baby never, never being taken out of this "person's" site, unless by your request.
You do want to have a birth plan, but.. they are usually too long and detailed for the docs to read in a situation like an emerg. c-section. So write a "prohibited" list. List everything they are absolutely under no circumstances to do to your child, without your "explicit written consent for the specific procedure" and by the way DO NOT go signing waiver forms when you get to the hospital, they aren't required and they can't turn you away for not signing. They will tell you that you must sign, you tell them to shove it up there arses or tell you to leave (they won't). Make sure you also list what you consider to be a life threatening event, where you will alow the doctors to make judgemnt calls without your consent, such as not breathing after one minute of life, or choking, seizures, etc.
If you can't tell I am not one to take crap from anyone, and whether you're like me or not, you need to get yourself prepared for one big mighty bloody battle the minute you step thru those doors, don't think being nice to the staff will get you any special treatment, you're just another patient, and if you're loud enough and if you bring enough "legal" so to say, stuff to the table then they won't mess with you or your baby too much.
So that's how I would gaurantee nothing like the first time for you ever happens again.
Please keep in mind this is all in case somehting happens that you need to transfer, it could be something small like meconium but once you get to the hospital, small, big, it won't matter.
I encourage yo to really sit down and write ALL of your fears about birth, pregnancy all of it, and bring it to a few midwives, and talk it out, do research on your own, ask a bunch of questions, and then try to relax and realize that we 6 billion humans would not be able to sit here and chat about all this if the birth process were as trecherous as our society would like to think it is. RELAX, you;re a strong woman and no matter what happens, good, bad, fast, long, painful, exhilerating, YOU ARE IN CONTROL of how you react.
Hope this helps...lol feel free to PM me.
SORRY, I hadn't read you dont have a hubby, but replace with whoever you do have...