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#1 of 3 Old 08-16-2005, 02:02 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I would love more than anything to have an unassisted home birth, and my husband is (or would be) very supportive, as would my mom, who is a nurse. This seems so hypocritical because I am very supportive of a mom's choice to go for it UC, I think it's a wise decision really. But these thoughts are still there so here goes, if you lovely ladies could help me to dispell some of my concerns I'd be very appreciative. Thnx

1) Hemorraghing, if there is no one there trained to deal with it couldn't you very easily bleed to death. I know there are herbs, but what if I don't take to them. I hear hemorraghing is not uncommon in birth. (no bleeding problems with previous birth, but they're all different, ya know?)

2) Breech, I have heard for a breech you basically do nothing right up til the end then you push with every ounce of power you've got to get the baby's head out. Has anyone here been through an UC breech, were you scared?

3) I live about 35 minutes from a hospital, and that's going 55-65 mph most of the way. There is a fire station up the street, but this is a very small town (1,010 pop.) and they're mostly volunteer, and I have no clue about ambulances,I know it's rare to transfer via emergency transport, but what if?

4) If my baby or I were hurt I would feel like such a jackass for not just having a midwife that might have prevented it all.. and if my baby were to die, which I KNOW IS SOOO RARE, I could never forgive myself.

there are a bunch more, but these are my main concerns in there order of annoyance to me

I know most of problems come from my own insecurities, but maybe I am making a much bigger deal out of this than I should, as I have said hundreds of times, we wouldn't be sitting here chatting if birth didn't work, and I believe it does, just not for me...lol (not funny really, it's how I feel)

My previous birth went great, except for the midwife being there interfering, so the decision seems obvious but I would hate to have these fears hold me back from relaxing and listening to my body during labor.

I dont' know what to do, advice??
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1) Hemorraghing, if there is no one there trained to deal with it couldn't you very easily bleed to death. I know there are herbs, but what if I don't take to them. I hear hemorraghing is not uncommon in birth. (no bleeding problems with previous birth, but they're all different, ya know?)

2) Breech, I have heard for a breech you basically do nothing right up til the end then you push with every ounce of power you've got to get the baby's head out. Has anyone here been through an UC breech, were you scared?

3) I live about 35 minutes from a hospital, and that's going 55-65 mph most of the way. There is a fire station up the street, but this is a very small town (1,010 pop.) and they're mostly volunteer, and I have no clue about ambulances,I know it's rare to transfer via emergency transport, but what if?

4) If my baby or I were hurt I would feel like such a jackass for not just having a midwife that might have prevented it all.. and if my baby were to die, which I KNOW IS SOOO RARE, I could never forgive myself.
1. I think you'd know. When you started feeling off.... And to cure- take a bite (or maybe even a lick) of placenta.

2. Breech is much safer un-messed-with. I don't think I'd worry.

3. Very few things that go wrong in birth, go wrong fast.

4. Anything a midwife could do you or your partner could do.

-Angela
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What she said. And the further point that being in a hospital doesn't guarantee either that nothing will go wrong or that if something does go wrong, it will be caught & fixed & everything will be fine.

I have done some searching on the safety statistics of unassisted birth, and it's actually very difficult, since all of the empirical evidence that seems to exist has to do with accidental UC, not planned UC. What I was able to find suggests that the few perinatal infant deaths that occurred in unplanned UC were due to unavoidable factors--in other words, being in the hospital wouldn't have helped. It is reasonable, therefore, to expect the same of planned UC.

The only source I know of for statistics on planned UC is found at Unhindered Living.com, and the statistics are frankly excellent. They stack up favorably against midwife-assisted homebirth.

Unassisted Childbirth Statistics
The Farm Midwifery Center Statistics

Those two links are worth checking out in tandem. The UC group has a pre-birth transport rate of 1.28%, the Farm 4.9%. The UC group has a 0.64% c-section rate, the Farm 1.4%. As I said, they're comparable, even accounting for the small sample in the UC group.

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