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#1 of 9 Old 08-22-2005, 02:19 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My mom just reminded me how much I'm going to be leaking stuff everywhere in labor/birth/pp. The thing is, we have someone staying with us. He's a friend of DP's and I'm trying to find a way to politely ask him to disappear when I go into labor.
If it's late at night though, and circumstances just suck and he's still here... I'm wondering how to be semi-discreet without really compromising whatever needs/instincts during labor/birth. I mean, we have an extra room and he could just sit in there playing video games the whole time, but what if I end up wanting to make noise? Something tells me I'd be a quieter one in birth with just low moaning & groaning rather than being really loud...but you never know right? I'd have to work out something where he could still be here, but I could still walk around the house naked if I wanted to. Hopefully we'll figure out a place he can just go for a day/night or something.
..but back to the leaking...
Did you just have towels laid out around your house? I don't have our prefolds yet, and our whole house is carpet. I've got the pool, and hopefully I'll be in it for a lot of the time and that will keep things semi clean...? I've got 2 extra shower curtains too...
Sorry, I know this post is all over the place...just trying to get last minute things taken care of.

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Bummer on the houseguest. Hope it works out. As for leaking- it wasn't an issue for me. I did the last part of my labor in the pool and my water didn't break until LATE in pushing. So I was only "drippy" from the pool to the bathtub... then from the bathtub upstairs. Used a towel for both trips.

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ewww, sorry about the guest. That is a controllable situation though.

I have never leaked durring any of my births. Water breaks at crowning, only. Leaking isn't gross though. Should it happen in early labor and you aren't ready for the tub, I've heard some women are more comforable wearing a huge pair of panties with prefolds, or even a Depends.

PP "leaking" isn't really an issue, either. for milk, I use an infant cpf durring feedings, if needed. to be more discreet a breastpad (but I do soak those typically um I'm assuming you'd be wearing clothes pp, so if you have pp bleeding you'd treat it hopwever you normally treat your monthly flow.

I hope your mom was joking about the "leakiness, everywhere"..it sounded a bit derogatory to me.

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I'd probably just be not so subtle (and a bit crude maybe) with him. Just say something like, "Oh by the way, what are you planning to do when I go into labor? (like he should have been thinking about this on his own already) Because I'm gonna be all yelling and crap and walking around naked and leaking blood and stuff, and you're not gonna wanna be here for that." If he says that he doesn't know where he could go, then you could say that he could hole up in his bedroom and play video games, but he'd better stay in there and wear headphones, or he'll be sorry.

*shrug* just a thought I guess it depends on your comfort level with being that graphic with him. heh

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I didn't leak with either of my births. My water broke late in labor, both times in the tub.

I cannot imagine that this guy will want to be anywhere near you while you're birthing! If he's like most men-who-are-not-dads, the very thought makes him queasy. :LOL I'm sure he will make himself scarce.

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I would get your house guest out now so that you have peace of mind. Just the fact that it's in the back of your mind can be disconcerting and distracting. It can be done in a polite way...this is something I wouldn't even want to deal with!

Asking him what his plans are may backfire. What if he wants to be there? Take control and let him know he needs to get lost for a while.

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thanks for the replies. good to know that the flood from your body is probably a bit of exagerration, I'm not gonna worry about it anymore.

As for our guest, I've decided to just tell him straight that when I go into labor, I'm going to ask him to leave for a day or two. Whether he has to stay in a motel or find a temporary friend to stay with won't be my problem. And maybe I'll throw in some gushy details about noises and gooey stuff so he'll feel like he definitely wouldn't want to be there. :LOL

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I'd probably just be not so subtle (and a bit crude maybe) with him. Just say something like, "Oh by the way, what are you planning to do when I go into labor? (like he should have been thinking about this on his own already) Because I'm gonna be all yelling and crap and walking around naked and leaking blood and stuff, and you're not gonna wanna be here for that." If he says that he doesn't know where he could go, then you could say that he could hole up in his bedroom and play video games, but he'd better stay in there and wear headphones, or he'll be sorry.

*shrug* just a thought I guess it depends on your comfort level with being that graphic with him. heh

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I would get your house guest out now so that you have peace of mind. Just the fact that it's in the back of your mind can be disconcerting and distracting. It can be done in a polite way...this is something I wouldn't even want to deal with!

Asking him what his plans are may backfire. What if he wants to be there? Take control and let him know he needs to get lost for a while.

I agree. And who knows? Maybe his leaving might free you up to go into labor.
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