In the op's "defense", we had a kit like this with our last homebirth with a MW. Here are what we used some of that stuff for, as we are kind of struggling with what to order now that it is ourselves alone, and trying to remember what actually was helpful and what didnt get used:
The povidone/peri bottle thing: My water broke 4 days before labor started and i rinsed myself off with a mild solution of this everytime after i went to the bathroom to be extra cautious about infection.
the povidone scrub brush was for the midwive's hands, if she would have had to dig around and help the baby get out, as in a shoulder dystocia or something, but she didnt end up using it. Postpartum infection are very serious, although with modern hygiene they are rare, and so maybe this was to cover her liabilities--- or maybe if i had a lot of fecal matter.........i dont know. it is to wash hands and maybe "tools"
the mesh undies are super stretchy funny underwears that are to hold your underpads in place with out staining your own underwear. They are what you get in the hospital. they stay up really well....
peach pads is just maxi pads.
lube would be for exams, if you were going to do this.
GLOVES is one DH and i are struggling with, as it seems silly to put gloves on to touch your own wife and baby......but again what if I am pushing and there is poo and he is trying to help a bit with perenial support.........who knows. We probably wont use gloves but it is about "germs" and comfort levels.
clamps and clips are for the cord, if you want to go that route. The idea of the shoelaces seems soft and nicer to me, but what if you have to cut for like a 4x nuchal cord before the baby is even out (EXTREMELY RARE) and your hands are just not bale to tie a little lovely knot-- you might want a plastic clamp.........i dont know
measuring tape is 5 cents, so you are not wrapping some wierd metal household measuring tape from the garage on the sweet baby's little head
If you want to measure the baby's head
Gauze is to wipe away feces, maybe blood, from mom. What my MW taught us which we will definately do this time, is to make little frozen pouches of the herbs from my herbal bath to use post partum in your undies for pain relief!
you take a little plop of the wet herbs from the bottom of the pot of the herbal bath that she simmered on the stove. You lay it on a little pile of gauze, then put more gauze over the top and lay this little package in the freezer. Then every hour or so you call out to DH "Hey honey I need a new little frozen herb thingy" and you stick it between your legs! TMI?? It was great though and this is what we did with gauze for the first 3 days.
The chux pads are for all the mess, but if you want to do towels, go for it. We used alot of both.
A fetoscope listens to a babys heart, a doppler is an electronic one.
Ok i think thats it for now!!!
Good luck, and i think having whatever makes you feel good around is what you "should" have, wheather it is a favorite CD, Grandma's blanket, pierogis, an ambulance phone number hanging on the fridge, or some povidone. JMO, but medical stuff in the house wont hurt anyone, and might be just what the op or her DH "need" to be in a comfort zone that is appropriate for them! To each her own......