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#121 of 136 Old 11-18-2005, 07:44 AM
 
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OMG, she's so gorgeous I'm glad you're both doing well now.

(I think what the doctor actually meant is that he's an asshole- vacuum extractors don't make your pelvis bigger, they just do the job gravity would do, if you weren't on your back.)

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welcome to the phenomenal world caia!
your beauty blots out any obnoxious doc.
all the best to the whole family!

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Congratulations!!! She beautiful....
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Congratulations!!!!
Welcome to Earth, Caia!
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Congratulations! She looks so beautiful and alert! You did good, mama, even with a Dark Lord OB hanging over you!
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BEAUTIFUL

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So glad to hear all is well! She is just precious!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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She is gorgeous! I'm sorry everything went to hell at the hospital. Next time you can do it differently. Now go enjoy your gorgeous baby girl.
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#130 of 136 Old 11-19-2005, 04:02 AM
 
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Oh mama! I am so happy to hear an update. Good for you for letting her decide her birthday. I'm not sure I could have done it.

Congratulations and WELCOME baby Caia!

Laura, mama to J (15), N (12), E (9) , M (6), and our little caboose, R (3).
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Thanks everyone! I find it somewhat funny that the birthdate that she chose was exactly 9 months after we found out she would be comming (I got a postive pregnacy test on valentines day). I feel so much guilt though about going to the hospital. After they signed me in and hooked me up to everything, they told me it was normal for blood pressure to go that high during labor. So I ended up going in for nothing and putting myself and my daughter through all of that. I so wish I could take it back and just stayed home insead of getting scared and going in. My whole pregnacy I was completly confident that I could have her at home with just my husband with no problems, and at the very last second I got scared and doubted myself. I knew better, I knew everything that happend in the hospital was going to happen if I went in, but fear got the better of me. I keep trying to get over it and know that she is healthy in spite of it. My husband says that we can do it differently next time, but for Caia there is no next time, I already failed her. All I had to do was stay strong for another few hours and she would have been fine, but I couldn't do it.
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I can relate to how you feel, my ds's birth was a crappy induced hospital birth and if I could do it over again I wouldn't have even went to the hospital. I have also felt I failed him and shed many many tears. I had to mourn for the birth I felt my ds and I should have had. I feel I did learn a lot from his birth though, the hard way of course.
Be kind to yourself. You are a very strong woman and a thoughtful and loving mama. If you need to talk please pm or e-mail me!

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aw, mama, *hugs* I know you were completely confident until your bp went sky high. Being your first time, it was very easy to get scared. I know you feel guilty as you expressed that you felt you failed Caia. However, instead of guilt, you should be proud that you stood up to having the c-section, and know that you have a WEALTH of information you didn't have this time. You will have a lifetime to make up to Caia, just like I have a lifetime to make up to my first for that forceps birth I put him through.

You'll be such a good mommy, and this will eventually fade to a light scar in your mind. Hope that day comes sooner for you than it did for me. (Mine was long because I didn't recover from the forceps for 18 months.)

And if and when you have your next, you'll be armed and have the birth you envisioned.

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Bailey, make sure you take the time to mourn the birth that you wanted and did not get for Caia and for yourself.

You did the best you knew and that is the most we can do. Caia is very blessed to have you for a mama. You let her cook as long as she needed. And, you love her like no other could!
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Congratulations she is goregous!

I've very sorry about your experience, but it was just that, an experience. One experience does not define who we are. We learn from it and move on. Mourn the loss of your dream but remeber what you've learned and pass it on and use it.
You have not failed your daughter, you did the best you could and that's all any of us can, a parent only fails thier child when they refuse to do what they know is right. There was a very real possiblity for you that your blood pressure could be a problem. You took that information and made the best decision you could at the time.
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i knew she'd show around the full moon! (a stubborn taurus moon at that) I was kinda hoping she'd hang around to be a sagittarius, but you would have been cookin for another week. hehe.

CONGRATS to your family!!! Mama you did wonderful, and your sweet babe is soooo precious. I loooooooove those eyes!!!

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