Originally Posted by GEMINI69
Yesterday I was reading that for the most part you don't have to push! is that so? How long did all of you labor? I have read several posts that say labor was very short. Am I just one of those women that will inevitably have a long labor? Or could it have anything to do with my care?
: Also, I had a lot of bleeding afterward and had to have Pitocin. I am concerned about that, what if that happens with a UC, I do not want to go to the hospital for any reason. Really I figured that was because of all the pushing. Are there any of you out there that are over 35? I never did feel old until I conceived at 35 and then everyone made me feel like I was over the hill. This may sound like a stupid question but- Do you still go in for all the routine prenatal check-ups when you are planning a UC?
Well, you don't have to push deliberately. At some point probably you will get an overwhelming feeling of bearing down and will not feel able to stop it (or want to,) but in a normal spontaneous birth, that stage doesn't last for long -- usually a matter of minutes. A second stage of an hour or more is very
typical, but no, not normal.
Your long labor may have had everything to do with your care, but even in an ideal setting there are reasons a labor might be longer. Maybe there's a mental or emotional barrier. Or maybe it's the body just doing what it needs to to get that baby out in the best shape possible (which I think was the case with my own long UC.)
Hemorrhage is more likely when second and third stage of labor are managed: when there is any wrench thrown in the hormonal choreography (drugs, distracting or directing the mother, fear, uterus is worn out by putting unnecessary pressure on it, touching the cord before the baby it out, cutting the cord early, etc.) the body doesn't get the cues it needs, or it gets confusing cues, so the uterus does not get the message (by way of the hormones) to clamp down. If you are healthy and the pregnancy has been healthy, and the labor has been allowed to be spontaneous and instinctive, there is very little risk of hemorrhage. Nature, however, has a built-in safety feature: the placenta itself. Ever wonder why mammals eat their placentas? It has chemicals in it that cause that uterus to clamp down fast
. If you're worried, just plan on swallowing a bit, or putting it under your tongue first thing.
I'm over 35.
I had my first UC at age 35, and my second at age 38. It makes me laugh thinking of how the doctors would be referring to me as having "advanced maternal age". The way I see it (and the way I feel,) I am in the prime
of my childbearing years. I am quite sure that many women my age are health-wise much older than their actual years, but a lot of women my age also have a huge amount of stress on them. It's all relative.
Finally, no, I didn't do traditional prenatal care. Didn't see the point. I was healthy and felt good, and the baby was active and in a good position. What on earth did I need a doctor for? Doctors are for sick people, or people who can't tell if they're sick or not.
I did have a midwife tell me what she thought about the baby's and placenta's position, though even that wasn't necessary. Aside from that I just paid attention to how I was feeling and if anything seemed "off", I paid closer attention and sometimes did some monitoring (like taking blood pressure.)