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Originally Posted by Niassa
I have lurked for a few years on here and this post has finally given me reason to register and post.
I am all for VBAC and even homebirths. I tried a VBAC of my own - and failed. I ruptured. A severe rupture - over 7.5 inches. But I was lucky - my son lived. Since my rupture, I joined a rupture support board and truly realized just how lucky I was. Had I been at home, assisted or unassited, neither my son nor I would have lived. And that is pure fact.
I, personally, think you are incredibly foolish for even contemplating an unassisted home birth. Other than my prior c/s, I was not at risk for rupture. DS was in the right position. I'd had no other trauma. I had no other health issues besides having Lupus which would have nothing to do with a rupture. GD, on the other hand, has been shown in some studies to increase the risk of rupture. Experts are unclear, as of yet, as to why this is, but they do believe part of the reason is that baby's size tends to be larger, especially in the mother whose GD goes undiagnosed for too long.
Think long and hard about this. Are you really willing to risk not only your unborn child's life, but your own life as well, just to avoid a hospital? Think of your other child. Your DH. I understand that you're uncomfortable with hospitals - I am, too. But I had to set aside my discomfort and my fears for the sake of my family as a whole.
Yes, the risks of rupture are rather minute - but that doesn't mean they don't happen. And you need to know that, when they ruptures DO happen, they are often catastrophic. By catastrophic I don't just mean for you - but for baby. Many of the women I know that ruptured had to have hysterectomies - after learning their babies died. They will never have the chance to carry another child. And quite a few of these women could have had both their uteri and their children saved if they'd had adequate response time by health care providers.
Alice, I don't say this to scare you into a hospital environment. I say this only to make you stop and think about the whole picture. I am also in Colorado. I don't know where about you are in Colorado, but if you're in the Denver metro area, I can recommend three hospitals that have excellent VBAC success rates that also have excellent staff and response times should the unforeseen happen. I did my homework when I attempted my VBAC with DS. My doctor's practice had both midwives and doctors and were affiliated (in the same building) with perinatologists. I saw all of them - including the midwife (who I adored) and felt comfortable with each of them. This is a HUGE deal for me because I do NOT trust doctors in general - for reasons I will not go into here.
Anyway, now that this post is the size of War and Peace, I'm going to sign out. I just felt really compelled to respond. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Originally Posted by Niassa
Had I been at home, assisted or unassited, neither my son nor I would have lived. And that is pure fact.
|GD, on the other hand, has been shown in some studies to increase the risk of rupture. Experts are unclear, as of yet, as to why this is, but they do believe part of the reason is that baby's size tends to be larger, especially in the mother whose GD goes undiagnosed for too long.|
|Other than my prior c/s, I was not at risk for rupture. DS was in the right position. [...] Many of the women I know that ruptured had to have hysterectomies - after learning their babies died.|
Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds
Not fact, at least as far as the information you've given about it here. It is assuming that the rupture was not iatrogenic in nature or environmentally induced.
You might want to go over to the VBAC and homebirth forums here, not all those women would be comfortable having an unassisted birth, but they can give you plenty of reasons why planning an HBAC can be as valid (or more so, depending on the situation) than planning a hospital VBAC, from a perspective of safety.
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