I think I just have last minute jitters so to speak. I'm feeling like I can't quite depend on myself. : And, that's not how I want to be, especially here at the end.
My fear: I fear that I won't be able to push my baby out. I seem to have really long pushing phases and last time the MW we used seemed to save the day by getting me in different positions.
This baby seems to be bigger than my others were.
Thank you for any support or insight you might have. So glad for this board.
I hope I'm making sense! I totally understand what you're saying!! It really helped me to let go of my logical mind when pushing out my last babe, cause I was convinced I couldn't do it!
I agree with Angelina that your body can do all the work on getting baby out. Without a midwife, you are going to pick whatever position feels best and it will work the best too. (unless you've read that so and so position is the best, and just can't get your logical mind to butt out while your instinctual mind is birthing.. heheh...)
I remember being at home during the first part of the pushing phase with my son.. I'd be sitting, leaning back with the soles of my feet touching each other against the couch and a bathrobe draped over me.. and as soon as the next hug and pushing urge came, I managed to powerfully move into a hands and knees position and puuuuuush. Then I'd go back to another comfy resting position. Er, I think I am entering babbling territory now, lol.
hope it helps some?
Edited to add: Ooh, I have also read, and experienced a smaller degree of this myself, that many women need a rest between the dilating and pushing parts of birth. I know that I rested in the tub for a good hour just kind of dozing and lightly pushing with the hugs I had in there, but was really not doing anything (just my body responding, not me).. other women will actually take a full on nap and not notice any hugs until they wake up 30 min - 2 hours later and then everything picks up and they push babe out.
Mum to DS (8yrs), DD (6yrs), and DS(3.5yrs).
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If you do dilate unevenly for whatever reason, your body will automatically work to correct the imbalance. The only thing you should be actively and consciously doing, aside from what your body is compelling you to do, is avoiding inner and outer distractions and encouraging positive thoughts and emotions. Make yourself as physically comfortable as possible. Meditate. Make love. Think about the sensual nature of birth and of being a woman or being connected to the earth or to Womanhood or to God. Allow yourself to be excited and happy about giving birth. Everything will fall into place.
This is, of course, assuming that the baby is not already in trouble and that there is no physical impairment. But if these were the case, you wouldn't be planning a homebirth in the first place, and if it became apparent during the birth you'd transfer for a c-section. Assuming that the mother and baby are healthy and it is physically possible for the baby to pass through the vaginal canal and there is nothing to interfere with the hormonal process, in other words all systems normal, then there is literally no reason for the body to not able to birth the baby efficiently and safely without the mother being guided.
Mum to DS (8yrs), DD (6yrs), and DS(3.5yrs).
Whenever I'd feel anxious about pushing, I would remind myself to take one thing at a time, one ctx at a time and trust that everything would work out when it came time to push. Let my body do the work and try to turn off my brain.
Guess what... you all were RIGHT! My body was my guide and it steered me just where I needed to go. For the first time in my life I felt like I didn't have that abnormal pelvis so many had commented on. I didn't feel like I was inferior or broken. I felt strong. I felt powerful as I lost control and let my body take over. My baby was pushed out easily and smoothly.
We're really just falling in love with her and our children each day. We feel so very very blessed.
We did not end up having a UC, but rather a very unhindered MW somewhere else in the house birth. I don't think there are cute initials to signify that! I'll post more about it in the UC Support thread.
Again, thank you for helping calm my last minute jitters and being such an amazing source of information.
It's amazing what women can do..you are an inspiration.
Crunchy, pagan, vegan,homeschooling wife and mother of 3 beautiful daughters and 2 wonderful sons
Congrats on your little one
Mama to 9 so far:Mother of Joey (20), Dominick (13), Abigail (11), Angelo (8), Mylee (6), Delainey (3), Colton (2) and Baby 8 and Baby 9 coming sometime in July 2013. If evolution were true, mothers would have three arms!
|My body was my guide and it steered me just where I needed to go. For the first time in my life I felt like I didn't have that abnormal pelvis so many had commented on. I didn't feel like I was inferior or broken. I felt strong. I felt powerful as I lost control and let my body take over. My baby was pushed out easily and smoothly.|
ANd maybe I'm not into minutea but IMNSHO - you had a UC.
PS - call it a UC if you want to!
Jesse, thanks for pulling that quote - THAT was really the most victorious part of the birth.