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Ann-Marita. I deleted my usual signature due to, oh, wait, if I say why, that might give too much away.
|So he says because all the bad stuff just keeps going on and on, he is too scared to do UC.|
-Tell him he needs to set up the MW because it's not what you want (mine would never lift a finger)
-Tell him that the MW is for him & that he needs to call her to come when HE needs her, not you.
-Procrastinate finding a MW
-Go to a friend's house or hotel to birth. (not as great as your home though)
-Ask your DH to leave during the birth if he's feelings scared. Get someone else to watch any kids if needed.
-Remind him that you know how to birth babies. That he's thinking irrationally.
|i recommend that you remind your husband that this is your body and your birth.
i recommend that you remind your husband that he doesn't "Let" you do anything. YOu choose to do things and you take his feelings into consideration when making decisions. YOu do not "let" him make decisions for you and you do not "Let" his judgement overturn your own.
i'm sorry that his fears are clouding his ability to see your wisdom.
Originally Posted by mama in the forest
I am so very sorry for all you've been through.
This new babe is like this incredible life line.....calling out to you. It is something that you & your husband created together....a symbol of joy and a symbol of one thing that ties you together.
My heart goes out to you. You have been through the most difficult experience these last few months that any mother could ever have to face. And you did it with beauty, grace, and courage.
I think for these reasons your husband should see that UC is exactly right for you & your baby at this time.
Just do not hold water. I can imagine why he has the state of mind that he does - when you go through something like this you just want to reach out for whatever perceived protection you can. But bad stuff can happen at the hospital and it is no guarantee of anything. There never are any guarantees, are there?
See if you can draw him in.......remind him of the benefits. Beg him to be with you on this issue. And then, if he cannot see his way clear to support you I would have my UC anyway. With or without him.
I love Spark's ideas! Very good.
mom to 3 home-born children, wife to a great guy
Originally Posted by barefoot mama
I actually just recently spoke to my friend about being backup without being present... She was very willing to do that for us and dh seems to feel pretty good about that.
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