Just wanted to add...I'm absolutely NOT tryiing to say women who homebirth/UC are LYINg..not at all...
I think that some certainly DO have pain-free or low-pain births. absolutely.
But...I think that others ....how to put it....downplay i guess is a good word, the pain. Some might do it deliberately, because they simply dont care to dwell on it, or because the pain, although horrible, just wasn't important top them, or because they don't want to scare off potential UC'ers, orthey don't want the memory of their wonderful UC marred by thinking too much about the pain....or for whatever reason.... Others, most, i believe do it unintentionally...
I believe that *most* women come out of a UC feeling REALLY great...proud, happy, thrilled, etc. And the memory of the pain gets....dulled, if you will, by the awesomeness of it. So, when they write their birth stories...pain generally doesn't get mentioned, or it gets mentioned in a very vague, downplayed way.....or, they deliberatly TRY to make it sound good...like phrasing things in a more positive manner (rushes, intense surges, etc, as opposed to cripling-pain contractions)
but what happens is....i think that it is easy for someon to read all these REALLY POSITIVE stories, and get the picture that UC birth is pain-free or close to it.
After about a year, I let all of this out on a uc group i am in.......and you know what??
MANY, MANY members of the list chimed in to say that they had felt pain, bad pain, during their UC's..and youi know what..when youlook back at their birth stories....zilch...very little mention of the pain. When i pointed this out, many were surprised at the discrepancy, and it ewas dicsussed for quite some time.
It really did make me feel better to know that quite a lot of the other UC'ers actually had felt pain, but simply failed to discuss it in the birthstories, or diminished it a LOT in their birthstories.
Anyway...that's all I'm saying....
I wish that MORE homebith/uc birthstories told in all honesty what the pain *could* be like...yes, you *could* end up with little/no pain...but you could also end up in HELL, like I did.