Originally Posted by mommacanary
So,I have been pretty calm. But now I'm getting worried about the pain of childbirth.
I've only read the first page so far, but you are getting some great information. I would try to let go of the worry, and believe in your body's ability to do this. You just have to mentally get out of the way if you know what I mean. Relax both physically and emotionally and it will be absolutely fine. Really.
I have had three natural childbirths - only dd1 was born in a hospital. (Dd2 in a freestanding birth center, and dd3 at home.) I am a big wuss. Cry at a paper cut. Terrified of needles. Didn't play sports in high school for fear of getting hurt. And I've had natural childbirth three times - no problem. Could do it any day of the week. Really. After the first one was born, my first words were "I could do that again."
|I have been worried about what contractions,transition and crowning feel like.
Every feeling in labor is different than anything else I can really compare it to. It (like others have said) is pain with a purpose. It starts slow and builds so you have time to adjust. It has breaks in between. It isn't a sharp pain. It is a tightening. I closed my eyes and chanted "muscles working, muscles working" because that is what it is!
You know when you run a long ways (my only experience was in PE in high school...
) and your legs are sore? You can feel the muscles in your legs and they are tired and you would like to stop. It is a little like that. You can feel the sensation; it grows in intensity, but it isn't pain.
I think that hitting your funny bone (why do they call it that? Nothing funny about it....) is worse because it is a jeeb you out kind of feeling. Burning your hand on the stove is worse because it is SO sharp and intense and constant. Anytime you hurt yourself in almost any way is worse because it is constant and has no upside. You aren't getting anywhere. With labor, you are making progress towards seeing your baby.
|Also I have heard many women say that when you are in transition you feel like you are gonna die. Is this is because the pain is so bad?
Never, ever felt like I was going to die. Never shed a tear. Never swore. It just is intense. If you know what to expect and are at peace with the process, it isn't scary or painful. Transition for me was the most "out of control" part of labor. The only part where I wasn't 100% calm and in control. But my dh and the midwives were with me and it only took a few minutes. Playing my favorite song helped A LOT. With dd3, that was "She's Like the Rain" by Tim McGraw. I am not a good singer but I closed my eyes and sang it over and over. I think that was the most painful part of labor for dh and the midwives!
|And crowning? I have heard about the ring of fire. Does it sting? Feel like your being riped open? how long does it last?
It does sting. I didn't feel like I was being ripped open (even though I did tear all three times... but couldn't feel it when it happened). It can last different amounts of time depending on how baby is positioned and how big the baby's head is. Not too long. A minute or two? It is fine as soon as baby is out.
I think afterpains were worse than childbirth. I didn't know they were coming though - and though they do have a purpose, it wasn't getting my baby out so a little harder to deal with.
Nursing when I had thrush was MUCH worse than anything related to childbirth. It was like someone stabbing me with knives. Can I say that I LOVE the person who invented Diflucan?
You can do it. I really recommend Bradley childbirth classes. I can tell you that they are the reason I had such great natural births. I think the website is www.bradleybirth.com