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View Poll Results: What "sign" marked the start of your labor?
Lost mucus plug 12 13.64%
Waters broke 20 22.73%
Contrax became hard and regular 46 52.27%
Cervix became dilated and effaced 0 0%
Other (please list) 10 11.36%
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#1 of 42 Old 04-26-2007, 05:40 PM - Thread Starter
 
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What sign began the start of your labor and how long after that first sign until your DC was born? I think this will help me, Jes and any other first time mamas who are UCing!

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I didn't UC (I ended up with an emergency c-section), but labor started with contractions that stayed regular and got harder. By the time I got to the hospital ( I was at a 7!
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I woke up the morning of the 12th and wiped to find a big ol globby pink tinged mucous plug. I had increasing (but not painful) contractions all day, by around 8 pm they were 5 min apart and I went to the hopsital. A crazy, rude nurse hooked me up to the monitors and after berating me about the stupidity of my planned natural birth I was so upset that my contrax stopped and my cervix CLOSED and I was sent home. I stayed home until around [hmm... I am forgetting. 12-2am I think] and went back to the hopsital dialated to 4. I labored in the tub and started pushing shortly after 10 am, she was born at 10:28.

Soooo, my daughter was born around 26 hours after losing my plug. Unrelated, but I don't doubt for a second that had I not had to deal with the rude nurse and had I not been taken in & out of the tub to be monitored that my labor would've been far shorter.

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I voted for contractions, but I wouldn't say they were hard!! After a few hours, I realized they were sticking around and it went from there. I could have easily not noticed them for another 2 hours or so. From the first twinge of one, it was about 9 hours but I only about about 5-6 hours as real labor since those first few hours I was completely comfortable, sitting at a restaurant booth!

Kristi - I have been wanting to ask you, are you sure of your dates? You could be off by a few weeks!
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Since this is on the UC board, I will just talk about my UC birth. My water broke (while I was posting on MDC) at about 1:00 a.m. Contractions started a couple of hours later at about 6:00 a.m. Baby was born at 7:00ish p.m.

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Since this is on the UC board, I will just talk about my UC birth. My water broke (while I was posting on MDC) at about 1:00 a.m. Contractions started a couple of hours later at about 6:00 a.m. Baby was born at 7:00ish p.m.
I'd like to hear about any births you're willing to share about! If you went into labor naturally, even if it wasnt a UC, it will help me out!

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I voted for contractions, but I wouldn't say they were hard!! After a few hours, I realized they were sticking around and it went from there. I could have easily not noticed them for another 2 hours or so. From the first twinge of one, it was about 9 hours but I only about about 5-6 hours as real labor since those first few hours I was completely comfortable, sitting at a restaurant booth!

Kristi - I have been wanting to ask you, are you sure of your dates? You could be off by a few weeks!
Check my cheerleading thread for all the sordid details of this due date mystery! I'm pretty sure of my dates, but I can't figure out what this baby is still doing in there!

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DD came 3 weeks past my EDD.

I was effaced for 4 weeks or so (DH was checking and had no real idea of what he was feeling He kept saying, "There's nothing there, I can't feel anything, just something hard." Yeah, duh! It was an effaced cervix and a baby's head pushing down!).

My mucus plug came out with the one vaginal check the midwife did about 2 weeks past my EDD. All I can say is Ewww. It was kinda gross to see her pull this bloody/snotty thing out (it was kinda stuck to the glove-she didn't intentionally pull it out).

I had several false starts, lots of strong but not painful contractions that would go away after a several hours.

But When real labor started (or the serious labor) the contractions started to need concentration for a few hours before they became painful. Labor lasted 51 hours from the time this set of contractions started until DD was in my arms.

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Picked "other" because the only identifiable symptom that I am going to deliver soon is transition with contraxs one on top of the other. I think I lost my plug with dd around 6 weeks prior to delivery. I had contraxs for weeks. I had small leaks to my water bag. My cervix slowly softened and opened. All these things can happen, and I can still have days to go. Both times I did ended up pushing my body to finish, even then I couldn't identify any difference in labor until I was very close to delivery. I don't really *have* to concentrate until I am in transition.
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well, in one sense it started several weeks before baby was born with prodromal contractions, slow dilation, etc.

In another, it started 9 hours before he was born with STRONG, regular contractions. My water didn't break until he was coming out (after his head). The mucus plug, etc came out around 5cm during labor.
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I was having a hard time sleeping so around 1 am I went downstairs to listen to my hypnobirth CD, hoping it would put me to sleep (usually does the trick!). Soon after I started feeling intense contractions and noticed pink-tinged mucous when I went to the bathroom. So I had 2 signs fairly simultaneously.

I never felt like my contractions started out slow & gentle and gradually got more intense. They felt fairly intense and were close together from the first one.
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It was actually two signs: I woke up feeling off, went to the bathroom and was having bloody show, and almost immediately regular, painful contractions started. They were about 2-3 min apart and about 30-45 seconds long. It was pretty much just like that for 21 hours straight (of course, increasing intensity etc. but just as regular) until dd was born.

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My first two don't count....I was induced.

With Noah I woke up to active labor. Contrax were 5 minutes apart and I could not sit still during them and was even more active between (pacing and nesting).

Ella started with contractions that began to build. They were erratic and nutty and I think it was about 20 hours in before I really believe THIS was going to be it. I 'do' prodromal labor for weeks and weeks (even with my first....I was labeled 'preterm labor' and all sorts of horrid things were done to me) and so I have a hard time believing it when it really starts to happen.

I have no show until very, very close to the end. With Noah my bag broke when I was pushing. With Ella is trickled open three times before labor and then DH got drenched when her body delivered. It was all hung up behind her I suppose.
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I chose ctx became hard and regular, but they started by becoming regular but not hard. I knew it was labor when they were exactly 7 min apart, but just a bit uncomfortable.
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so, I wasnt sure what to put. I was technically induced, but I was already dialated to 2 or 3 (I forget) and really ripe, so they just started pitocin. I'm pretty sure I was probably contacting some before that but they were barely noticable.
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My first two children were born by c-section and I never labored. My last two were both UC's and both started with my water breaking.

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With my first I didn't know what to think either.I had been having timeable contractions from 34 weeks on.By 36 weeks I was dialated to 4 cm and so soft the Dr wouldn't let me fly cross country for a family emergency. ( I went anyway).The contractions started getting more intense 10 days before my due date and were just like in the books so I went into L&D and spent the night and by morning they had stopped.The day before my due date I had just gone to the bathroom and rolled over when I felt like I had peed.Then the contractions started again but they felt like I had to poop really bad (not like the books either).I went and tried but nothing came out but man did I feel "that need".I had him 5 hrs after my waters broke.
My second started out pretty similar.Contractions for weeks, slow dialation and then bang! He was an induction but it only needed a nudge.
my third I finally understood that I have long prelabor and then bang those around me need to be ready. I kept feeling an urge to poop that got stronger and stronger in the days before DD was born and then my water broke and the contractions started and she was here 50 minutes later.
Right now I am having my usual block of contractions that peter out after awhile.Non of my labors seem to follow what is written in the books but when I come to MDC I see lots of mamas who have similar ones.

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I voted for hard and regular contractions but the funny thing is- the contractions never really got regular. I questioned if it really was labour. Then my body PUSHED and there was ds so I figured it WAS labour after all!!
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#1 -- mild cramping. Baby born 56 hours later.

#2 -- water broke. Baby born 13 hours later.

#3 -- had a couple of sessions of intense contracting (after sex) one and two weeks before birth, and during the second one my forewaters broke. When consistent labor began it was with mild cramping and baby born 32 hours later.

#4 -- cramping and loss of pink-tinged mucus for three weeks before birth. Two nights of prodromal labor before birth. Third night began with mild cramping and baby was born 14 hours later.
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My 1st started w/ a water leak and a loooooooooooooong early labor. My UC baby started w/ strong ctx that got stronger and closer very quickly. I have no idea if I was dilated beforehand.

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This is so helpful! Thanks!

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If you don't count the miscarriages, I've been through two "labors". The first one was with my son. He came three months early. I had a silent labor with him. I woke up dreaming about my guts aching. Once I was awake I realized a short time later that I was having contractions. Since it was three months too early and the pregnancy had been perfectly normal and uneventful up until then, I was sure it was false labor. The pregnancy books I had been reading said false labor should stop with a change of position or some light housework. The contractions were about 20 minutes apart, and so mild I could barely feel them.

I got out of bed and busied myself around the house a little. A half hour went by and I didn't get another one. Another half hour went by and still no more contractions. My mind was not convinced, though. I knew something wasn't right and decided I would go in to see my doctor anyways. I had a quick bath to be clean for a check up and headed out. At the time my then boyfriend and I lived close to a mall where a friend of ours was a security guard. I spoke to him and asked him to borrow his bus pass to go to the doctors. I had another contraction as I spoke to him. I remember jokingly saying if I didn't return his pass by the end of the day I would be in the hospital having a baby. I made a quick payphone call to my doctors office to let them know what was up and that I was coming in to get checked out just to be sure. The doctor spoke to me personally and told me to come on in and she would be waiting for me.

The bus ride was about 20 minutes. I had another contraction on the bus. The bus was packed and even with a big belly sticking out and my obvious look of panic and the tears escaping my eyes no one would give me a seat on the bus. Finally I got off at my stop and walked in to the office. Clearly when the doctor had said she was waiting for me, she didn't really mean she was waiting in earnest. I sat in the waiting room for 40 minutes, and had three more contractions while I waited. I told the nurse working at the front desk that I was really certain something wasn't right, and started bawling that I needed to get in to see that doctor immediately. She was quite rude, barely made eye contact with me, and told me I would have to wait my turn since I was walking in without an appointment. She very sternly told me to be seated and stay out of the other patient's way.

Finally the doctor called me in to the office. I started taking off my sweat pants right away as I was pretty eager to be checked. She stopped me, and started talking to me instead. She seemed entirely calm and kept drolling on and on, asking me all kinds of ridiculous questions. Finally I just got brave and straight forwardly demanded she check me right then and there. She actually appeared to be annoyed by my urgency, even though I was apologizing for my bluntness as I got on the table and into the stirrups.

As soon as she had her fingers inside me, an alarming look spread across her face. She told me to stay calm, and not get up, that she could feel the baby's head and that she was going to call me an ambulance. I of course started bawling and shouting at her. I told her I knew something was wrong the whole time, why hadn't she rushed me right in. Who cares if Joe Shmoe had an appointment, this was life and death!

The ambulance arrived....15 minutes later. They had to take a detour on the way to the hospital because of construction on the roads. The driver got LOST because of the detour. When we finally arrived at the hospital, for some reason we couldn't go through the emergency doors to get inside. Instead of driving me in the ambulance around the enormous hospital to the other entrance, they pushed the gurney along the walk aways and through two parking lots to the other entrance. Not only did they push the damn gurney by hand, they walked agonizingly slowly and were cracking jokes to each other the whole way. They talked between themselves back and forth over the gurney...with me in it. It was like I wasn't even there.

Finally inside and wrist banded up, a doctor strolled in as though he had all the time in the world and checked me. He declared I was 5cm dilated which meant I was too far gone to try and stop the labor. (I have read birth stories since this time where women were past 5cm and they still tried to stop the labor. I don't really know what the actual rule is on this.) He also told me my doctor hadn't been feeling the baby's head, she had been feeling my bag of waters bulging out of my cervix. Funny that babies and pregnant mamas was her specialty yet she couldn't tell the difference between a hairy little head and a mucus membrane.:

Suddenly it was this enormous whirlwind affair. They hooked me up to the pit via IV, I don't even recall agreeing to any of this, I still was stuck on why they wouldn't even attempt to stop the labor. Before I knew it I was contracting heavily and they were telling me to push. If I made any noise at all while pushing I was berated and told to push quietly. I didn't feel the urge to push at all, and the contractions were never more than a bad period cramp.

When he came out, he was this tiny little thing. They let me touch his little hand for a split second and then whisked him away into another room and eventually to the NICU. By the time I finally got to see him he had tubes stuck in him everywhere and was attached to several machines. He weighed 1lb 15 ounces. I named him Kalyn Storm.

For a little while we dared to hope he might make it. God was he a little fighter. My parents came out to be with me for the first week, but I couldn't tear myself away from his incubator long enough to really notice their presence. I decorated his area as much as they would let me. Every day I kept a journal of all the things wrong with him and what was being done to correct it all.

On the thirteenth day I told the nurses and a doctor that his tummy was distended and I was worried about it. They told me he was just full from having a recent feed. On the fourteenth day I told them his tummy was even more distended and that I wanted someone to look in to what was causing it. I was not so politely told that I was in their way and hindering his progress by constantly hovering around him. I was then told that they are the experts and this is what they are trained to do and to please leave the diagnosing to them. They told me there was nothing happening with his tummy, and that his main problems at that time were learning to breathe on his own, and his heart valve closing up and hopefully avoiding surgery in the process.

On the fifteenth day, he died. His cause of death; peritonitis. An infection in the lining of the stomach and apparently a high risk with premature babies. Two entire days of me hounding them about his distended tummy and they didn't even test for this common problem. To this day I still wonder if the infection was already bad enough that nothing could be done. I still wonder if he could have been saved had they just listened to my laymen concerns. What bothers me the most is that he was actually doing really well until the deadly infection caught up to him. He was gaining weight and had been breathing on his own for short periods in the day. His heart valve looked like it would close on it's own as well.

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Okay, so I've just read over this post. I guess I got a little carried away, since you only asked how labors started. I had never actually written out a birth story for my son, though. I sat down here to tell you how my two labors began, and ended up spilling my heart out. I guess it needed to come out sooner or later. He was born ten years ago now, and I am still fairly screwed up over the whole thing. After he died I just kind of bottled everything up and didn't speak of it for years. In the last two years I have realized that this cannot go on for ever. Sooner or later I am going to have to deal with the sorrow I bottled up. I think writing this story out, and crying through the memories as I typed was a form of therapy for me. I'm sorry for the long winded post, though!

With regards to my second labor, my water breaking was the beginning. My mother flew out to be with me as I was a single mother at the time. We went to the hospital, where they pumped me full of drugs I don't recall asking for, and gave me three epidurals that I don't recall asking for either. None of them worked, mind you. They also started a pit IV to speed up the contractions that were doing just fine on their own. I had back labor from hell, no one told me why or that it wasn't the norm. I had one extremely rude nurse, who was so miserable to be around that she is sadly one of the most vivid memories I have of the whole experience. I recall at one point looking around to see if that nurse was in the room, I didn't see her so I told my mother who was standing at my bedside that I really didn't like that nurse. Of course, just my luck, the nurse was actually still in the room, only she was standing behind my mother and I couldn't see her. She came to the other side of my bed then, put her hand on mine and smugly informed me that the nurses didn't like most of the laboring mothers either. Smooth lady, real smooth.:

That labor lasted 14 hours from water breaking to baby born. I will never, ever birth a baby in a hospital again. I would rather give birth on the side of a damned highway than have to birth in a hospital ever again. Just to clarify, the second labor was a perfect pregnancy and she was born one day shy of her due date. My one perfect masterpiece.

God, I am SO sorry this post is so long! I'll probably delete this post once I edit the above and enter it into my journal, though. I guess I should say thank you for starting this thread and jolting my brain into a little bit of unexpected therapy. So, thanks.
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contractions were mild but more frequent.. and I just felt that the baby was coming- this would be true for every one of my births-- some took days one was 1 hr-- the hr birth everything was excellerated- but even before contractions I just felt like I was going to have the baby contractions started mild for a few minutes then hard the bow broke and probably could have had him right there at home but my mom was panicked and said you have to go , you have to go you are having the baby- I said no I am just peeing my pants-- got in the car drove 1/2 hr across town got into the triage room had 2 contractions and was pushing-- buzzed them they said my contractions aren't hard enough and I insisted he was coming and sure enough scared them and caught them off guard--
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Ariotty That is intense.

My first labor started totally with contractions closer together and stronger. Second labor was lots of off and on contractions, slow but increasing dilation, and mucous plug loss.

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Since this is your first, I answered how my first started.

Water broke, and there she was 4.5 hr later.

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If you don't count the miscarriages, I've been through two "labors". The first one was with my son. He came three months early. I had a silent labor with him. I woke up dreaming about my guts aching. Once I was awake I realized a short time later that I was having contractions. Since it was three months too early and the pregnancy had been perfectly normal and uneventful up until then, I was sure it was false labor. The pregnancy books I had been reading said false labor should stop with a change of position or some light housework. The contractions were about 20 minutes apart, and so mild I could barely feel them.

I got out of bed and busied myself around the house a little. A half hour went by and I didn't get another one. Another half hour went by and still no more contractions. My mind was not convinced, though. I knew something wasn't right and decided I would go in to see my doctor anyways. I had a quick bath to be clean for a check up and headed out. At the time my then boyfriend and I lived close to a mall where a friend of ours was a security guard. I spoke to him and asked him to borrow his bus pass to go to the doctors. I had another contraction as I spoke to him. I remember jokingly saying if I didn't return his pass by the end of the day I would be in the hospital having a baby. I made a quick payphone call to my doctors office to let them know what was up and that I was coming in to get checked out just to be sure. The doctor spoke to me personally and told me to come on in and she would be waiting for me.

The bus ride was about 20 minutes. I had another contraction on the bus. The bus was packed and even with a big belly sticking out and my obvious look of panic and the tears escaping my eyes no one would give me a seat on the bus. Finally I got off at my stop and walked in to the office. Clearly when the doctor had said she was waiting for me, she didn't really mean she was waiting in earnest. I sat in the waiting room for 40 minutes, and had three more contractions while I waited. I told the nurse working at the front desk that I was really certain something wasn't right, and started bawling that I needed to get in to see that doctor immediately. She was quite rude, barely made eye contact with me, and told me I would have to wait my turn since I was walking in without an appointment. She very sternly told me to be seated and stay out of the other patient's way.

Finally the doctor called me in to the office. I started taking off my sweat pants right away as I was pretty eager to be checked. She stopped me, and started talking to me instead. She seemed entirely calm and kept drolling on and on, asking me all kinds of ridiculous questions. Finally I just got brave and straight forwardly demanded she check me right then and there. She actually appeared to be annoyed by my urgency, even though I was apologizing for my bluntness as I got on the table and into the stirrups.

As soon as she had her fingers inside me, an alarming look spread across her face. She told me to stay calm, and not get up, that she could feel the baby's head and that she was going to call me an ambulance. I of course started bawling and shouting at her. I told her I knew something was wrong the whole time, why hadn't she rushed me right in. Who cares if Joe Shmoe had an appointment, this was life and death!

The ambulance arrived....15 minutes later. They had to take a detour on the way to the hospital because of construction on the roads. The driver got LOST because of the detour. When we finally arrived at the hospital, for some reason we couldn't go through the emergency doors to get inside. Instead of driving me in the ambulance around the enormous hospital to the other entrance, they pushed the gurney along the walk aways and through two parking lots to the other entrance. Not only did they push the damn gurney by hand, they walked agonizingly slowly and were cracking jokes to each other the whole way. They talked between themselves back and forth over the gurney...with me in it. It was like I wasn't even there.

Finally inside and wrist banded up, a doctor strolled in as though he had all the time in the world and checked me. He declared I was 5cm dilated which meant I was too far gone to try and stop the labor. (I have read birth stories since this time where women were past 5cm and they still tried to stop the labor. I don't really know what the actual rule is on this.) He also told me my doctor hadn't been feeling the baby's head, she had been feeling my bag of waters bulging out of my cervix. Funny that babies and pregnant mamas was her specialty yet she couldn't tell the difference between a hairy little head and a mucus membrane.:

Suddenly it was this enormous whirlwind affair. They hooked me up to the pit via IV, I don't even recall agreeing to any of this, I still was stuck on why they wouldn't even attempt to stop the labor. Before I knew it I was contracting heavily and they were telling me to push. If I made any noise at all while pushing I was berated and told to push quietly. I didn't feel the urge to push at all, and the contractions were never more than a bad period cramp.

When he came out, he was this tiny little thing. They let me touch his little hand for a split second and then whisked him away into another room and eventually to the NICU. By the time I finally got to see him he had tubes stuck in him everywhere and was attached to several machines. He weighed 1lb 15 ounces. I named him Kalyn Storm.

For a little while we dared to hope he might make it. God was he a little fighter. My parents came out to be with me for the first week, but I couldn't tear myself away from his incubator long enough to really notice their presence. I decorated his area as much as they would let me. Every day I kept a journal of all the things wrong with him and what was being done to correct it all.

On the thirteenth day I told the nurses and a doctor that his tummy was distended and I was worried about it. They told me he was just full from having a recent feed. On the fourteenth day I told them his tummy was even more distended and that I wanted someone to look in to what was causing it. I was not so politely told that I was in their way and hindering his progress by constantly hovering around him. I was then told that they are the experts and this is what they are trained to do and to please leave the diagnosing to them. They told me there was nothing happening with his tummy, and that his main problems at that time were learning to breathe on his own, and his heart valve closing up and hopefully avoiding surgery in the process.

On the fifteenth day, he died. His cause of death; peritonitis. An infection in the lining of the stomach and apparently a high risk with premature babies. Two entire days of me hounding them about his distended tummy and they didn't even test for this common problem. To this day I still wonder if the infection was already bad enough that nothing could be done. I still wonder if he could have been saved had they just listened to my laymen concerns. What bothers me the most is that he was actually doing really well until the deadly infection caught up to him. He was gaining weight and had been breathing on his own for short periods in the day. His heart valve looked like it would close on it's own as well.

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Okay, so I've just read over this post. I guess I got a little carried away, since you only asked how labors started. I had never actually written out a birth story for my son, though. I sat down here to tell you how my two labors began, and ended up spilling my heart out. I guess it needed to come out sooner or later. He was born ten years ago now, and I am still fairly screwed up over the whole thing. After he died I just kind of bottled everything up and didn't speak of it for years. In the last two years I have realized that this cannot go on for ever. Sooner or later I am going to have to deal with the sorrow I bottled up. I think writing this story out, and crying through the memories as I typed was a form of therapy for me. I'm sorry for the long winded post, though!

With regards to my second labor, my water breaking was the beginning. My mother flew out to be with me as I was a single mother at the time. We went to the hospital, where they pumped me full of drugs I don't recall asking for, and gave me three epidurals that I don't recall asking for either. None of them worked, mind you. They also started a pit IV to speed up the contractions that were doing just fine on their own. I had back labor from hell, no one told me why or that it wasn't the norm. I had one extremely rude nurse, who was so miserable to be around that she is sadly one of the most vivid memories I have of the whole experience. I recall at one point looking around to see if that nurse was in the room, I didn't see her so I told my mother who was standing at my bedside that I really didn't like that nurse. Of course, just my luck, the nurse was actually still in the room, only she was standing behind my mother and I couldn't see her. She came to the other side of my bed then, put her hand on mine and smugly informed me that the nurses didn't like most of the laboring mothers either. Smooth lady, real smooth.:

That labor lasted 14 hours from water breaking to baby born. I will never, ever birth a baby in a hospital again. I would rather give birth on the side of a damned highway than have to birth in a hospital ever again. Just to clarify, the second labor was a perfect pregnancy and she was born one day shy of her due date. My one perfect masterpiece.

God, I am SO sorry this post is so long! I'll probably delete this post once I edit the above and enter it into my journal, though. I guess I should say thank you for starting this thread and jolting my brain into a little bit of unexpected therapy. So, thanks.
I'm so glad you were able to get this out. I can't imagine what you must've gone through. (((hugs))). Thank you for telling us Kalyn's story.

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Arriotty - thankyou for sharing your stories...


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Ist labour, began leaking amnio fluid, baby born 24 hours later.

2nd labour, began leaking amnio in the evening, went to sleep, woke up next day, mild pains, then about 2pm begin full blown labour, baby born 4 hours later.
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I had to vote 'other' because my contractions became harder and irregular.

I don't think they really ever evened out- they were faster sometimes, slower other times, but timing between two contractions was variable throughout. I admit that I wasn't paying attention, although dh checked a few times with a watch. I didn't know they were irregular until afterward- it didn't matter in the moment; it was pretty clear a baby was coming soon!

ETA: Wait, I lost my plug bit by bit for at least a week before, and my membranes ruptured twice during the last part of pg- the first was a month earlier and the it sealed back up, then the secongd time was 5 or 6 days before ds's birthday. I was also in prodromal labour for 4 weeks- seriously exhausting. So, I guess I'm not really sure... The harder ctx were on the actual day.

Edit again: I was also variably dialated for the last three months (I went to 44+2), 2 cm most of it, increasing more toward the end and then 4-5cm for the last week.

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My response was "other" because:

dd1: a sudden breath-taking contraction marked the start...but they never got regular, no pattern was established (anywhere from 5 min to 20 min apart for hours). Still no pattern at 8 cm, when we went to the birth center...she was born 7.5 hrs after the first contrax. In hindsight, the day before I'd had a series of q10 BHs that were stronger than before...but they stopped at night, and I didn't think they were labor...

dd2: felt funny all morning, had different-feeling BH (not painful, just different than the other ones I'd had). Suddenly had a "real" contrax, so I knew it was labor, but never got a pattern at all (I kept track for 1.5 hrs - I had 8 contrax in that time). She was born 2 hours after 1st real contrax, .5 after I stopped keeping track of contrax!

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I voted for water broke because that's how my first started but the second started with increasing contractions and the third started with bloody show and a slow water leak. Each one different but all born within a few hours of noticeable labor.

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