If the vasectomy was done properly and he was tested sterile post-op, the chances are miniscule. Sorry. If you do decide to go the surgical route, my husband had a reversal if you have questions about it.
I totally feel you! DH and I said we didn't want kids and i had my tubes ties 5 years aog. We didn't have children. We now have a 4 month old son and are LOVING IT! I said I was ready for another on the table! I still feel that way! DH...he's a little skidish yet
BUT we have talked about another and are worried that however DS happened to come about may have been a fluke. When we are ready to try again, my Dr. said they would give us a few months of trying on our own, then do a dye test to see what's open or not.
Depending on how they do the Vas. There is very little chance of it healing on its own no matter what you do.
With dh the urologist not only cut and tied the tubes but he cut a 1 inch piece out burnt the ends as well. It would take a miracle for dh to ever father children again without surgery.
Right and they aren't covered by insurance. His vas was too complicated. there was bleeding and a secondary infection and he ruined all my frozen vegggies by sleeping with them on his beans for 8 weeks...not going through that again!
A "clear" sample doesn't mean there are no sperm. It could, but it typically means there are so few it doen't mean anything. Right now we are trying to boost numbers with nutritional suppliments
sounds so ridiculous but I know if anyone can willfully get pregnant this way.... it'll be us.
a perfect vas still has a 1:2000 failure rate (and those are of the people that actually report back) I guess a chance is all I need.
You might consider adoption. I know that doesn't come with all the great pregnancy stuff, but we have several adopted members of our extended family, and they are well loved! Good luck to you!
We did it and had three more children. They are very expensive and not covered in patient. A doc in Jersey does it in office with microsurgical technique he pioneered. Much cheaper and greater rates of success. PM for more info.
I just wanted to say I know absolutely nothing at all about this topic... but he still produces sperm right? so couldnt a doctor harvest some from him in some way?
might not be the most pleasent thing, but.... it would probably work a lot better (and faster) than nutritional suppliments?
Originally Posted by hetaera
I just wanted to say I know absolutely nothing at all about this topic... but he still produces sperm right? so couldnt a doctor harvest some from him in some way?
We actually researched this because it seemed logical, but they're not able to get sperm in large enough numbers for artificial insemination- only in vitro, and even that's iffy depending on the age of the vasectomy.
No insurance that I know of covers reversals; we went out of state for ours to get it done more cheaply and it cost $10K or so all told.
I did catch my insurance on this and IF we can prove it is being done for pain relief we can get it covered.
He HAD pain for about a year and a half, pretty severe but it's recently gone down in intensity and now it's unpredictable.
He also the worst liar on earth (it's why I married him) but it's just too invasive to ask of him.
funny thing is that he read this thread and now wants to do the surgery. Those that have a moment, how bad was it? We had such a time with recovery last time but I think most of that was due to the dr. (he kept dropping the thing and then had to go back 6 times and dig it out again)
Originally Posted by Rockies5
funny thing is that he read this thread and now wants to do the surgery. Those that have a moment, how bad was it? We had such a time with recovery last time but I think most of that was due to the dr.
I hate to say it, but it's bad. Much worse than the vasectomy. The surgery took something like 5 hours.
Originally Posted by Rockies5
Just let this be a warning to the mamas that think they are done
We thought very carefully about the vasectomy, deciding that no matter what we wouldn't have another given how awful my pregnancies are- but things sure can change. Even now, when neither of us can imagine going through having another, I won't let my husband get a vasectomy again because I know how things can change- I might decide to have another kid seven years from now! But nothing would have dissuaded us back when we did it- after all, we were 27 and knew everything- so I don't think warnings help....
Originally Posted by Rockies5
Just let this be a warning to the mamas that think they are done
There is no such thing when you love birth.
While I feel for you and hope your situation works out for the best, the above statement is condescending.
Birth was the most physically challenging, painful and exhilarating thing I've ever been through. I've never been more proud of myself than after giving birth. But there most certainly is such a thing as being done - and knowing it for certain. Birth is not all there is to having children. I know how many I'm capable of raising and I don't just "think" I'm done. I know it. (Especially at 41). That's why we chose the V.
Originally Posted by zinemama
While I feel for you and hope your situation works out for the best, the above statement is condescending.
Please explain how it is condecending to you. I didn't seek you out and say it to you you have never added anything to this thread so I'm confused by your comment.
without sounding like a downer i did some clinical time for my degree in an infertility office for about 6 months. my preceptor analyzed sperm of men who had had vas reversal and the sperm counts were still very low and the the sperm that were present was not properly shaped to move they way they needed to to get to the egg and penetrate it. i wish you the best
my dh had a reversal in Sept 2005. It was the micro procedure, don't waste time or money with anything else. The surgery took about 2 hours. Our ds was concieved in Novmeber. Age is a huge factor, also how old the vas is.
We had a vas after four babies, really close together. Only a few months later I regretted it. I talked to dh about it and he was fine so I dropped it. Then three years later, HE talked to me about it. A month later
he was operated, three months later I was pregnant, and we now have eight children, four post-reversal. The reversal was fine, but he started back working the same day, so it swelled. But if he would have taken it easy for the first couple of weeks, it would have been no worse than the vasectomy. We had a great doctor though. An old man who was doing TONS of vasectomies, then when we went back, he had stopped vasectomies because of his personal beliefs, and was doing reversals. So he knew where to go, it was his own vasectomy! And here in Quebec, insurance paid.
So for a summary
Four babies/vasectomy/three years later reversal/four babies. We are not doing anything for birth control until fertility ends naturally now.
HI! My dh had a reversal five years after his vasectomy. I've been pregnant three times sine his surgery in April 2004. I lost one in Oct. 2004, delivered a beautiful baby girl in 2005 and am having another baby this month. I'd say the surgery was worse in the reversal but nothing he could not handle. We saw sperm in June 2004 and it was the greatest thing I've even seen!!! I think if you decide to go ahead and reverse to research it very carefully, the number of reversals done and the technique is very, very important. We were lucky enough to find someone close to home and was successful in dh's surgery. Good luck! Pam
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