me, herding 5 critters a cat and a dog. DS 11/01, DS 10/04, DD 2/06, DS 5/07 and DD 9/10
it has really bothered me. imo it should be the mom or dad ( or a friend, something, but really imo the mom) who is the first to see and hold ther own child.
my first, the doc, and i think 2 nurses held him before me, and im still upset about it.
my second, i had a uc and i caught (on my knees in the water) and im sooo much more happy about that!
One of these times I may catch the baby, but so far I've done it the way I've felt led to.
Shayla ~ Crunch-tastic UC mama of 3 nature kids and a moon baby
dd will be available if I can't follow through; I'm a bit nervous about it because I gave over SO much control to the midwives for my first three births. I don't know who caught d and ds--I'm asuming it was the mws because exy was such a nuisance and so in the way and so fidgety, especially with ds, whoich was a nice, comfortable labour that I would have really enjoyed if he hadn't kept rushing me because he didn't want to miss the ball game on teevee.
With one birth, the midwife forceably moved my hands down to touch my baby's head while it was crowing and kept saying in a conescending tone of voice, "Do you feel that? That's your BABY!" and all I could think was "Stop touching me, you b*tch, I don't care what it is any more, I just want this thing out of my body!"
I certainly hope I feel differently with a UC and 15-20 more years on me, but like I said, I've got dd in an emergency just in case, and I really think it's because the bonding/birthing process was messed up a bit with all those people around.
Overall, I still think I had pretty good experiences with the midwife-assisted births, but I am learning that it's okay not to demean myself or trivialize the things they did that totally bugged me. They meant well, but for pete's sake when you trust someone to be around you at such a private and vulnerable part of your life, it's okay to get pissed off when they steal your watch (even if it was an accident), throw away one of your pillows (even if it WAS bloodstained) without telling you, and rearrange your living room furniture without asking permission!
When I had a midwife, I felt a disconnect from the lower half of my body, as if she was "in charge" down there. I don't think I fully experienced what was happening as my baby emerged, although what I did experience was amazing!
DH or I will be catching this next one I hope. I don't think DH will want to. He's more of a watcher, lol.
Sunny : gun toting, retired breastfeeding, car seat loving, guitar playing, home birthing and schooling mama to Jakob (10.06), Mikah (07.08) and Korah (07.11).
Oh how I miss the days of
Becky, sahm to 25/04/2000 Chloe 12/04/2002 Cameron 19/02/2004 Caitlin 28/06/2005 24/07/2006 and Caden 14/03/2008
19.05.2012 18.08.2012 24.05.2013 25.6.2013 04.09.2014
I won't be having more children, so that was it. I thought it would be amazing to have been able to reach down and guide the baby out, but both UCs ended with such a forceful emergence that I was just glad I was close to the floor. I am happy with how they turned out and don't lament that what I thought was ideal didn't happen; I no longer consider that ideal for me anyway because my UCs were so beautiful just as they were .
Well, I've been absent for 8 months, and during that time, it turns out that I have completely transformed. You are all precious. Thank you for being here and sharing your lives. You are truly a gift. Jan. 23, 2012