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Non-pregnant UC veterans and supporters roll call

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#1 ·
So I am not pregnant - and a recent change in my life makes me doubt I will have more children. I left DP 4 months ago, as his mental problems caused him to be verbally abusive - and as it escalated we had to get out of there. We are starting a new life on our own and are doing great. But obviuosly there are no babies in any near future and since I am with the kids 24/7 - not much dating in sight either


So thought it was time for a non-pregnant roll call - for those UC veterans and -supporters who can do just that - support others while (possibly) being terribly envious
 
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#2 ·
I'm a non pregnant UC supporter too.
I think we might have more babies, but not for at least a couple of years. It was hard for me to be pregnant and have a baby when my dd was a toddler, so I'm going to try to hold off those hormones and wait a little longer this time!
 
#7 ·
good to know there are a few of us! i just recently gave birth to my 'last' baby- well no permanent choice is made but were almost certain- and i am at peace. i had 4 awesome births of four awesome humans! i am so happy in my heart that i found UC. as much as i love birth and newborns, i am done for now.
 
#8 ·
I'm also single and with my kids 24/7 (ok, maybe 23/7, I do get some time alone occasionally
) and probably no more babies for me ever.

Both DDs were born at home with a lay midwife (at a time and place where lay midwives were illegal; we told the authorites they were UC) and then DS was UC (followed by a hospital transfer due to fears of other adults in the house, which ended with a NICU/CPS nightmare for no valid medical reason.)

I haven't reached menopause yet which means that another pg is possible, but between my health and current living situation it seems incredibly unlikely. I'm hoping to be a grandma someday though!
 
#15 ·
Me, too! I'm a currently non-pregnant veteran of UC. I do want one more (two would be nice, but hubby says just one more
) but I want to wait until DD is old enough to do her own basic care and also to want a baby brother or sister. My dream is for us to have a new baby together and I really want her to be a part of that 100%. I'm imagining she'll be 4-6 years old when I TTC another.
 
#18 ·
I had a hospital birth and a UC. We have closed the book on more children. I still lurk and post for support.
 
#19 ·
UC veteran here as well. I want to say we're done with having babies, but I don't want to completely close that door. I'll just live vicariously through other women's pregnancies and births for the time being
 
#21 ·
add me to the list. had my first and likely only uc earlier this month. dh and i had already agreed on having just 2 children, and after my intense precipitous labor and dealing with the pp contractions i said that i didn't understand how women could do it more than 2 or 3 times anyways. but now that more time has passed and my tail bone is feeling better, i find myself thinking "wouldn't it be so awesome to do that again?"
intellectually i think it's best for us to just stop at 2 but emotionally i'm not ready to shut that door...so, yup. live vicariously whilst being terribly envious.
 
#23 ·
Veteran UC'er and supporter. We plan on having more in a few years, but not this close together again
 
#26 ·
: Non-preggo long-time UCer here! Actually, 30 years ago today I was in labor with my first baby! Can you believe that I still want another one?!

Last night I was dreaming that I was at a birth conference and someone said they heard I had just had a baby! I told her I hadn't but that I wanted to and wondered if I was still fertile (I'll be 51 next month but am not showing any signs of menopause). Would that be cool or what?!
Laura
 
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