Are you going to a pedi dentist or a regular dentist? Our pedi dentist didn't even look at his mouth at the first visit. It was basically a tour of the office, explaining how everything worked, getting to know each other visit. We then made a cleaning appt a few days after that. Our pedi dentist is really big on making the child feel comfortable and not scaring him. There have been times when I've had to hold DS down in order for the dentist to work on his teeth, but DS has serious dental issues that needed to be fixed ASAP. Good luck!