Yeah, we're pretty upset with our family dentist right now. She told us it was no big deal, just to make sure to brush regularly. It didn't sound right to me, so I take partial blame for not getting a second opinion. Anyway, I'm trying not to wallow in the past, kwim? We've got to face the present now.
Thanks for the input. I ordered some of the xylitol gel, and am going to check out those other threads now. The biggest problem, I think, is that her front teeth are literally crumbling away. They don't "look decayed"- they aren't black, but little chunks come off each day. The two next to her front teeth are almost gone, and about 1/2 of her left front tooth is wobbly and I'm sure will be gone within a week. I don't know if I can do flouride that often since she doesn't spit? Plus, if her teeth are crumbling like this, won't she be left with little jaggedy stubs anyway?
I really hate to have her front teeth pulled, but the dentist is saying they can't be saved. I talked to my grandparents, and was told that lots of people in my family have had this problem. My grandfather's baby teeth AND permanent teeth both crumbled away like chalk. He had dentures at 22. Great.
I hate this, hate this, hate this. I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. I don't want to give her anethesia, don't want her to lose her front 4 teeth- but if I don't, then are they just going to crumble away, be painful and sharp, and cause infection???