This is my first post here. I have read most of the posts in this thread and thought I'd offer our story for support and ideas. I welcome any and all response.
Our daughter used to nurse thru the night. We have a family bed. Then in spring of 2001 (when she was more than 1 1/2) we noticed that her front teeth were starting to widdle away. We had been brushing, off and on, and now, looking back, we didnt even think about the urgency of the situation. Then one day when brushing she said her teeth hurt. Immediately we called a dentist, got in 3 months later (that was soonest anyone could see her) and began our process that, like others goes on.
The dentist was jerk. An older male who tsk tsk'ed our night nursing. he said that--and we--were to blame for it. He said if we were going to continue to do that then we should wake her and brush her teeth each time during the night.
She wound up needing four caps right across the upper front. She had to be out for this procedure. I can say since that operation she has had diminished concentration and coordination. yes, she is only 2 1/2 now, but leading up to that operation she was sharp as whip. Since then, erratic as all get out.
I am sad that we didnt tune into the potential problems for her re: milk in the mouth, bacteria, erosion, etc. I am nearly constantly worried that we will have more problems before she weans for good. We recently ended nighttime nursings. Since then she seems to hate me for this. I was the one that initiated it, though my wife totally went along with it. She gets to nurse at all other times, especially upon waking.
if there is any crux to this scenario, it is: is it possible to nurse during the night and not have teeth rot out? Did/do native cultures do this? I want to doubt it. But is it our modern diets that have given us such acidicly milked mothers?
Finally, and rhetorically, what were we thinking?