I'm sorry you are in the same predicament. It sure sucks, doesn't it!
I didn't post clearly. My first child, Katherine, had her teeth extracted using novacaine, although maybe it was lidocaine. She did not have nitrous oxide. The nitrous is a new thing we intend to do with Laura, our second child, in addition to shots of novacaine.
Here's a couple of ideas for you:
-firstly, I've heard nothing about reactions to novacaine, lidocaine... I wonder if reactions to certain foods... could correlate with reactions to that drug family. If there was a correlation, as there is often with foods and plants, then that might free your mind up a bit - assuming the correlating substance was not allergic to your son.
- I would not recommend doing the procedure without one of the *caine drugs. It was really scary for KAtherine but the extraction process, with novacaine, seemed to be strong pulling and pressure as opposed to real pain. (The scary part is what we are hoping to minimize with the nitrous.)
- we are "playing oral surgeon". first with dolly, then on me, then on big sister, maybe then on little sister. we talk about our teeth; note the damaged tooth; count the patient's teeth; administer "happy gas" though a small, clear rubbermaid 1 cup container with a tube attached to it while making blowing sounds; we say "ahh fresh air, now I feel silly"; then with cup still on, we give shots in the mouth with the doctor kit syringe; we extract the tooth with a tiny toy; then we get a prize and say "yeah all done". that kind of game, modified for your son's unique experience, might help familiarize him with the parts that he can stay calm about.
- Katherine's procedure - 4 novacaine shots; 4 teeth broken; 4 teeth extracted - took 9 minutes. My husband timed them.
- they strongly discouraged me from nursing katherine after the extraction which turned out to be wrong. From what I understand now, nursing creates pressure on the wound which helps the body to stop bleeding. Perhaps SmileMomma can make sure I am correct on this.
- they also tried to talk to my husband alone to convince him to get me to wean KAtherine. Last months Mothering and this month's New Beginnings have articles that will help if this is an issue to you too. (interestingly, KAtherine's next cavity occured 1.5 years later during a 3 month period when I was pregnant for Laura and had no milk. It occurred on her molar.)
Again, I'm really sorry.