|View Poll Results: Brush first or floss first?|
|brush then floss||28||41.18%|
|floss then brush||33||48.53%|
|depends on my mood (or what I ate, or whatever...)||7||10.29%|
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We aren't going to give up...for now we just try to get through the yelling and hope that in time he'll relax a bit.
Mama to 3 kiddles. Doing my best and trying to stay afloat.
"All you fascists are bound to lose" — Woody Guthrie
You can get the chart from...
preschoolprintables on the web(sorry i lost the link when my comp went nuts,just do a goggle search)
We have had a good week- we are doing something similar to beccaboo's suggestion. I'l say, "Is that a bumble bee on your tooth??" and then as I buzz in my silliest possible buzz, I get at a few teeth- tonight he asked for a dragonfly (I barked), and last night I found a cat, a snake, an airplane and a tractor in his mouth. Let's hope it continues to work!
Mama to 3 kiddles. Doing my best and trying to stay afloat.
It sounds like you are well informed about taking care of your child's teeth! So many people don't even brush teeth at a year!
One little thing I messed up on with my second child was the softness of the toothbrush. You could try a test. Feed her something that is hard to brush off like pasta with pesto or blueberries, then brush with your toothbrush. Now make sure to look behind the front four teeth up by the gum line to make sure the bristles are soft enough to bend before they hurt your child's gums. The brush I was using was soft to me but too hard for my child. Consequently, I learned to brush softly enough that her gums would not bleed but that didn't remove enough dirt. I've had really good luck with the Braun electric toothbrush with the kids brush attachments.
Also, get the safety toothbrushes that have a round end. Dd slipped and almost shoved it down her mouth once!
Good for you for paying such close attention to your kids' dental health.
My ds is 6 mo with no teeth yet. At what age is it appropriate to start?
I am so depressed, because I feel like it's so violent and out of sync with how I parent her otherwise. And she gets so angry about it and that often is a terrible way to start the day with her just mad as hell, and having an unbelievable fit and throwing things, and this continues into the rest of our day.
My attitude about it is it has to get done, just like changing diapers, but it doesn't seem to make any difference what I am putting out to her. BTW, sometimes she is GREAT! She will lay down on her changing table and let me brush and brush. But this seems to just come completely from her, and has nothing to do with my approach.
I just really need some support. I hate to force anything on her with her screaming "No!" over and over because I think it teaches her that her words don't matter and it's OK for people bigger than you to force you to do things. As a formerly sexually abused child, I REALLLY don't want to teach this lesson.
Somethings to try:
1) We say "No treats. Not juice. No candy. No sweets tomorrow if you don't brush your teeth tonight.
2) We say "First your turn, then my turn." Then we don't hand the toothbrush over until he agrees in advance that I will get a turn too.
3) We say "Daddy do it or Mommy do it?" If he has power over that choice, sometimes he gives up the struggle over actually getting it done. And if he says "Mommy" and then fights me over it, then I say "Guess Daddy will have to do it!" And he will say "NO! Okay. You do it." And generally lets me.
4) When we have to resort to holding him down, we lay him on his back in the hallway (carpeted) straddle his belly on our knees, and then tickle him. When he giggles, his mouth pops open, we stick the toothbrush in real quick and say "I got it!" I guess we figure that if we have to play keep away with him, then we might as well make it a real game, with laughter and stuff. If we act silly, he has a hard time getting angry or sad.
5) We have the little medicine cups that come with cough syrup laying around -- we save them. Then after they let us brush their teeth they get to drink water out of those little bitty cups, which they think is fabulous. Weirdos. The only times they are allowed to do that is after medicine or after tooth brushing, so for some odd reason they think it is realy special!
Good luck. It does get better. My 6 year old doesn't give us any trouble at all!
Let her brush yours when you are brushing hers.
Brush somewhere else-- the bathtub or highchair.
Give her a little mirror to hold so she can make sure they all get brushed.
Let her get the toothpaste out of the cabinet and put it on herself (then just wash a little off when you get the toothbrush wet).
Only worry about it once a day or do it 12 times a day so that however many teeth you get clean is good enough, next time you'll get the top right.
I did buy some special 'toddler toothpaste', that is OK if they swallow it. Now I don't feel bad when he brushes by himself and has a good time with the toothpaste!
Look in the grocery store toothbrush aisle, or try some natural toothpaste. This stuff has the advantage of being packaged with toddlers in mind, and the taste is good. It is colorless, which is a disadvantage because he doesn't 'see' it as readily.
Not perfect, but better!
There's some great ideas here, especially the brushing each other's teeth. One of the main things I have figured out is to never falter -- it's something that has to be done, and the amount of protest won't affect whether it is done. I agree that it's weird AP-wise, but once I took that attitude and dd realized that it was going to happen no matter what, she really calmed down about it, and welcomes the more fun aspects.
For example, in the other thread you'll see that a lot of us use a song that was in Babybug:
We brush, brush, brush our teeth
We brush them left to right
We brush them up and down
To keep them clean and white!
She loves it!
First and foremost, though, you're RIGHT that it has to be done, and good for you for looking for WAYS to do it rather than just not doing it.
Good Luck, keep trying, eventually it will happen.
My DD gets to choose between two different toothbrushes and two different toddler-safe toothpastes. I let her brush while I'm brushing my teeth, and then I "check" to see how she's done.
We play a game where we pretend different animals are hiding in her mouth and have to be brushed out of there. Making a game of it keeps her interested and entertained long enough for me to get the job done. We've been doing this since she was about two, and now, at almost age 3, when I say, "Let Mommy see how you did," she'll tell me which animals are hiding. Occasionally, we'll sing a song instead.
Have you thought about how your hands taste? I know you probably don't smoke (my mom did when we were little and her hands tasted AWFUL and it burned when she would help us with our teeth), but other things--onions, peppers, cleaning products, hand lotions, soaps, etc.--can linger and your daughter might also be resistant to the taste of your hands.
But she did outgrow it, gradually. What finally made it easier was buying a whole bunch of fancy (expensive too) toothbrushes, so she could always choose a couple. And then we learned to count till 10, so she knew how long that took. And finally, she realized that having it over with, with her fave brush of the day and knowing exactly how long it was going to take (till 5 "downstairs" and then to 10 in the "upper department" and it's easy to drag out the words when your child has a mouthful of bristles LOL), was preferable to hiding under the kitchen table all day ( she actually once spent most of 3 days under the table to avoid it ).
She still doesn't like it (3 yo now), but she understands it needs to be done. The "kid dentist" already fixed a tooth, and she knows that she doesn't really want to go there again (and that it costs the same as a whooooole bunch of toys).
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The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
I pretend I see a 'sugar bug' in my ds mouth. I tell him that mom sees a sugar bug and we have to get him with the toothbrush. He opens up and I chase the 'bug' around his mouth with toothbrush. Then I tell him to spit so we can make sure we got the 'sugar bug' I can brush as much as I have to and he has fun. In the end, we pretend to see the sugar bug go down the drain. Then we floss and that is called the treasure hunt. Kind of gross I guess!
If that doesn't work, I make up a Curious George story (one of his favourites - any favourite character could be subsituted) about Curious George getting his teeth brushed by the man with the yellow hat. He usually sits quiet and cooperates and listens to the story.
Hope that helps!
I guess I really went nuts! Oh well. Maddie got to pick everything out herself and I told myself it was better - and cheaper than having to take her to the dentist and get fillings.
Also, the suggestion about letting her brush my teeth while I brush hers has worked about 4 times.
Seems like different things work different days. One brushing at a time, right?
It helps that my son doesn't like the idea of bugs on him.
I know it sounds a little mean, but it is the truth. My mother thought that was a little overdramatic, but after she went through a few teethbrushing episodes with him, I overheard her saying the same thing to him.
Right now Kailey LOVES brushing her teeth with us. She first brushes her teeth while I brush mine. We act really goofy while we do it. She stands in one of the vanity drawers so she can look in the big mirror with us. Then after I am finished brushing, I brush her teeth. We say "open up" and just do a real vigorous brushing of front, top, back, and bottom teeth. Takes about 10 seconds.
We have been brushing her teeth since she was about 11- 12 months old.
So this will change for us?? WHAAAAA!!!!
PS- she LOVES running her tooth brush under the water like we do
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