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My 22 mo dd has what's considered severe early childhood caries. After nursing children for 4.5 years solid, and after tandem nursing for almost 2 years, I am seriously considering nightweaning dd.

Apparently infants and toddlers at risk for ECC:
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• Have mothers with untreated dental disease or
mothers who have previous experience with dental
caries.
• Have older siblings with high rates of dental disease.
• Have weak or pitted teeth due to premature birth or
to their mothers’ poor diets during pregnancy.
• Have poor or nonexistent oral hygiene (which may
result from limited access to dental services, financial
challenges, or resistance by family members due to
negative dental experiences in the past).
• Have a diet high in sugar (refined, added, and natural).
• Are given bottles at bedtime or naptime, or to modify
behavior (e.g., crying).
• Are breast-fed on demand throughout the night.
• Are given pacifiers dipped in sugary substances, such
as honey.
• Frequently take sugar-laden medications or oral
antibiotic formulations.
"On demand" breastfeeding at night is the major risk factor that applies to dd. Yes, I have had minor caries in the past, but very little. I guess my diet wasn't great while PG, due to PG nausea, but it's not like I was chowing down on junk food either. Dd's dental hygiene wasn't great, but we did have some brushing happening (with stages of resistance where she mostly played with the toothbrush herself).

I did find a study where on demand nightnursing in toddlers (>12 mo) was linked to ECC, especially if nursing sessions were longer than 15 minutes. Other studies have demonstrated the same thing. Although breastmilk alone doesn't cause cavities, it seems to be problematic when carbohydrates are present in the diet, especially at night when saliva flow is low. Because extended breastfeeding is not the norm in North America, I don't think it's been studied much here.

At first I felt that I would not consider nightweaning. Now I am seriously considering it. I feel somewhat nauseous thinking about it. One, I'm worried about dd's nutrition - I am not sure that I would be able to provide her with the equivalent amount of breastmilk during the day due to all the distractions. Two, the actual process would be really hard. I don't think that dh would have the stomach for helping me with it, so he'd have to sleep with ds and I'd have to cope with dd's screaming by myself.

I'm so confused. But it's horrible to watch the enamel melt off dd's teeth. We are doing all sorts of things to stop the decay and remineralize, but I'm worried that continuing to nightnurse undermines all that.

A dedicated mom on the alternativekidsteeth yahoogroup came up with another solution - she actually brushes her child's teeth after every nightnursing session! She said that it took two months for her child to get used to it. I'm not sure I'd be willing to do that though.

I definitely tend to be overprotective of my children. I think that I tend to underestimate their resilience - partly because they are extremely "expressive". I need to come to a place where I can make a decision, feel solid in it and convey my confidence that we will all be OK with my plan.

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My ds has terrible teeth, and I'm pretty sure that night nursing was a contributing factor -- but now he's no longer doing that, and he's still getting major tooth decay. I am sure there are other things involved.

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Hey Ksenia. Huge hugs to you!!!!! I have some thoughts and will definitely express them, but it seems Ryland REALLY needs me right now, and in 10 minutes I have a piano lesson - so I'll have to find a calmer moment to collect my thoughts.

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Ksenia - are all of dd's teeth decaying? ds's front top 4 teeth completely decayed and I continued to nurse him, and so far all of his other teeth have been fine.

I have heard of wiping the teeth after each night nurse and that seems reasonable compared to brushing. What about offering an angel brush with toothpaste on it for dd to chew on throughout the day?

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Hey Ksenia!

So, a few thoughts about this......first of all, I'm not sure nightweaning will fix Uma's dental problems and since you think it will be so stressful on everyone in your family, and potentially affecting both Uma's overall nutrition and her sense of attachment/trust in her relationship with you, I'm not convinced that the health of her teeth trumps all that, you know?

However, if you do choose to nightwean her, I do not think it will destroy her. I think Kea was around the same age as her when I night weaned her, and it went better than I thought. I warned her that it was going to happen in a week, counted down with her, gave her lots of warning and then stuck by my guns once the date came. I also insisted that it be her and I that worked it out, rather than J coming and taking her away in the middle of the night. I sang, cuddled, got up and walked around with her - for 3 nights we did the night waltz a few times, and then she seemed to realize that I meant it, and nursing only happened during the day from then on.

For Tiegan, her personality was such that it wasn't worth the fight for me - an all or nothing approach would only really work, and I didn't mind night nursing enough to fight the battle. HOWEVER, when I was pregnant with Ryland, I knew that I didn't have the patience to tandem nurse, so I weaned her early in the pregnancy. At that point, she was almost 3 and still nursing lots. I was shocked by how much she needed to eat after we weaned, and often woke up in the middle of the night starving. So we created new habits of protein filled night snacks and big breakfasts - but once the milk was no longer there, she did shift to eating more.

With Uma, I agree that kids are more resilient than many of us give credit to them, AND they follow our lead. If we *know* that we are doing what is best, we'll all be okay and we CAN get through this, I think they pick up on this. However, if you're not sure about it, decide to do it but feel wracked with guilt, she'll pick up on this and I doubt it'll go well. I also have this theory that if the mother is desperate enough to follow through (ie not getting enough sleep, sick of contorting their body and beginning to resent nursing) than they can wean quickly. But, if they feel they should or are being pressured to do it, but don't really mind nursing and aren't totally convinced about the reasons to do it, it usually does not go well. So I personally would do some soul-searching and decide what is the true path for you - and then don't worry about it anymore, don't second guess or torture yourself with more research, just trust that your choice is the right choice for you and your family.

Good luck to you, and lots of hugs. xoxo

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Just hugs and commiserations for you, mama.

Just today the dentist laid it out for us - my buddy has ecc, severe enough that the pulp of one of his teeth is exposed and that tooth may not be able to be saved.

When his first tooth erupted, I did tons of research and decided that night nursing would not cause carries, and conscioously ignored his pedi (and everyone else) 's advice.

I can only say I don't doubt anymore that night nursing is the main, if not only cause of his carries. I will night wean, immediately. In my mind it is all I can do to try and reverse the damage I have caused my poor little guy.

Good luck and hugs. What is your plan for reversal/reminirealization? Are you choosing any medical/dental treatment?
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At this point I am confident that night feedings did not cause DS ECC. Three of the four upper teeth that he has are affected. My nipple is not anywhere near those teeth at night. No milk pools in his mouth after he eats. If anything, I feel that the night feeding is beneficial due to the increased saliva that he has after his nursing session. I read an article about the benefits of breastfeeding (including night feeding) on the WAP site, but I can't find it right now- I will post it once I find it.

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My ds has terrible teeth, and I'm pretty sure that night nursing was a contributing factor -- but now he's no longer doing that, and he's still getting major tooth decay. I am sure there are other things involved.
I'm sorry that things are getting worse
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Ksenia - are all of dd's teeth decaying?
Dd has decay on 6 of her 8 upper teeth - as far as I know! There may be more decay that I haven't seen.
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ds's front top 4 teeth completely decayed and I continued to nurse him, and so far all of his other teeth have been fine.
I hope it stays that way. Unfortunately, it is quite typical that the decay spreads to the other baby teeth . I assume we will be dealing with this for years to come.
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I have heard of wiping the teeth after each night nurse and that seems reasonable compared to brushing.
Either wiping or brushing would definitely wake dd up. Even putting a qtip under her lip wakes her up if I don't time it very carefully.
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What about offering an angel brush with toothpaste on it for dd to chew on throughout the day?
We've been doing that for about a year.
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first of all, I'm not sure nightweaning will fix Uma's dental problems and since you think it will be so stressful on everyone in your family, and potentially affecting both Uma's overall nutrition and her sense of attachment/trust in her relationship with you, I'm not convinced that the health of her teeth trumps all that, you know?
Good points.
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I also insisted that it be her and I that worked it out, rather than J coming and taking her away in the middle of the night.
Interesting. I had thought that it would be easier for dd if dh was with her instead of me because he wouldn't be withholding breastfeeding. But I guess that she might feel abandoned by me in that scenario.
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I also have this theory that if the mother is desperate enough to follow through (ie not getting enough sleep, sick of contorting their body and beginning to resent nursing) than they can wean quickly. But, if they feel they should or are being pressured to do it, but don't really mind nursing and aren't totally convinced about the reasons to do it, it usually does not go well.
for your wisdom. You do give me pause for thought.

I've listed below what we are doing about dd's caries. If we figure out that she's in pain, however, we will get the cavities treated conventionally under GA.

Stopping decay:
  • we have an appointment for HealOzone
  • we will be using very small amounts of fluoride topically after the HealOzone treatment
  • once I receive it, other members of the family will be doing regular 3% food grade hydrogen peroxide mouthwashing to knock back our mouth bacteria levels to reduce transmission to dd
  • 5x per day Spry xylitol candies
Remineralizing:
  • frequent cheese
  • applying a small amount of MI paste with a qtip after dd falls asleep at night
  • 5x per day Spry xylitol candies
Diet:
  • stopped all dried fruit (dh was feeding it to her regularly before)
  • cut back sugar treats (they were occasional before)
  • reduced refined carbs (haven't stopped completely because sometimes we just need her to eat)
  • increased meat and cheese (we had reduced our intake because of a serious health condition that dh has)
  • increasing frequency of bone stock
  • dd almost never had juice and still doesn't
Supplements:
  • high vitamin cod liver oil (400 IU of Vitamin D)
  • high vitamin butter oil supplements (I am taking them and hoping she is getting it via my breastmilk - still working on how to get her to take it directly)
Hygiene
  • brushing 2x per day with Spry Infant Tooth gel using a Sonicare electric toothbrush with an ultracompact head

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I'm a bit confused... Obviously night nursing is not the CAUSE of ECC since many children night nurse without any dental issues (my kids, for example). Does it exacerbate the condition in a child with ECC? I'm guessing the answer is yes. But note that, if this is true, then nightweaning will only REDUCE the severity of ECC. The $10,000 question then, is how much of an improvement will you see should you nightwean?

I think the suggestion to just wipe her teeth with a damp cloth is a good one. I realize this means more interruptions to your night. But it may be less traumatic for you than trying to nightwean.

OTOH, if you do decide you need to go ahead and nightwean there are many ways you can try it, depending on your DD's temperament. Honestly, though, you need to be prepared for the fact that it may not make much difference to her dental health.

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Hey Ksenia!
However, if you're not sure about it, decide to do it but feel wracked with guilt, she'll pick up on this and I doubt it'll go well. I also have this theory that if the mother is desperate enough to follow through (ie not getting enough sleep, sick of contorting their body and beginning to resent nursing) than they can wean quickly. But, if they feel they should or are being pressured to do it, but don't really mind nursing and aren't totally convinced about the reasons to do it, it usually does not go well. So I personally would do some soul-searching and decide what is the true path for you - and then don't worry about it anymore, don't second guess or torture yourself with more research, just trust that your choice is the right choice for you and your family.

Good luck to you, and lots of hugs. xoxo
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I'm a bit confused... Obviously night nursing is not the CAUSE of ECC since many children night nurse without any dental issues (my kids, for example).
Although night nursing does not cause ECC in 100% of cases, it definitely is a risk factor for ECC in children 12+ mo - in combination with other factors, some of which may be very important. I posted about some of the research here.
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Does it exacerbate the condition in a child with ECC?
I'm assuming that it does, since it is one of the risk factors for getting it in the first place.
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But note that, if this is true, then nightweaning will only REDUCE the severity of ECC. The $10,000 question then, is how much of an improvement will you see should you nightwean?
: It's hard to know. I guess the important thing here is that the decay can get much worse than it is now. Spreading to the molars, to all the other teeth, the teeth dying, getting absesses, pain, etc. - these are all common in the progression of ECC. So reducing the progression of ECC would be a good outcome, even if it doesn't completely eliminate the need for conventional treatment. Of course, the inverventional studies have not been done on this so we just have to make educated guesses.

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Can you pause for a bit and take the wait and see approach?
You are doing a lot right now, and its a lot on your plate.
Nightweaning would add to your stress right now.
I know what you mean about dd being your baby. I too am
not ready to night wean, so I know how you feel. Perhaps
place faith in what you are doing is helping and she won't
worsen (until if and when you do see evidence of this).

Can you also try adding Concentrace minerals to her water?
If the water is filtered it is devoid of minerals and the
bad stuff.

Oh yeah, are you giving her calcium? Would that help?
or the homeopathic (I know calc phos in a low potency,
like 6c? That would deliver calcium, as would a general
tissue salt formula, to give a few minerals all together.


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Ksenia, once again, I'm impressed by the thoughtfulness and thoroughness of your posts and research. I'm sorry this is such a difficult decision.

If it's any help, I'll share my experience:

My 13 mo dd is almost nightweaned (goes to bed at 7-730, nurses at 4 or 5 am and then back to sleep until 6ish. This is absolutely heavenly compared to how it used to be), and currently an acceptable comromise to the balance of sleep, ECC and not all out night-weaning. She still gets at least 50-75% of her calories from breastmilk. It started at 9 months or so...when, thoroughly exhausted from being woken up for nursing every hour or two for the past 5 months (and then battling insomia on top of that) I decided that things needed to change. This also happened to be around the time that her upper central incisors were erupting...with chunks missing out of the ends (presumably due to food, milk that had pooled in a hidden crevice in gums).

I just picked a time I thought was a reasonable amount of time to go without nursing, and gradually increased that length of time (about by 30 min. each night...but there were times when I did give in earlier - so it took at least a couple months to get where we are now). She wasn't happy about it at night, but I did sing and cuddle (and my dh helped on the nights I didn't think I could do it, or let me sleep in when I'd been up lots). She seemed to forget all about it by morning - didn't seem to affect her. I did, however, notice that the amount of nursing did increase in the daytime. And maybe, coincidentally, she increased her solid food intake.

I'm happy to report that since adopting better dental hygeine and almost nightweaning the two cavities do not appear to have progressed. It's impossible to say why, but I suspect that nightweaning has helped. Since nightweaning (or almost) she has, however, develped one whitish area on side of lateral incisor near gumline...but I hadn't been as picky as I should have been with getting into that spot well with the toothbrush. We don't have molars to deal with though yet....so I know we're not out of the woods.

My dd is happy and nursing every 1-2 hours in the daytime when I'm with her. We brush thoroughly a couple times a day, and always finish snacks with water out of a cup (she likes to blow bubbles...and it's amazing to see how much food particles wash off into the water). When she's hungry she lets me know in many ways (e.g. asking to nurse, fussiness, walking over to her high chair, etc.). Growing well and seemingly very healthy (nothing worse than a mild cold and a bout of roseola to date).

If you choose to nightwean, perhaps your dd will be more resilient than you think? I'm no parenting expert but my experience taught me that my dd can adapt to new routines, when done with love.

Whatever you choose will be the right for you. Best wishes.
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Can you pause for a bit and take the wait and see approach?
I don't know. I feel like it's a race against time. I found out that dd has decay on all of her 8 upper teeth . It might have been like that before but I hadn't had a good enough look.
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Nightweaning would add to your stress right now.
, but OTOH, dd's ECC is my #1 stressor right now. I want to take action if it means protecting her from dental pain and unnecessary procedures.
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Can you also try adding Concentrace minerals to her water?
If the water is filtered it is devoid of minerals and the
bad stuff.

Oh yeah, are you giving her calcium? Would that help?
or the homeopathic (I know calc phos in a low potency,
like 6c? That would deliver calcium, as would a general
tissue salt formula, to give a few minerals all together.
I'm assuming that she's getting enough minerals from eating cheese every day, and from my breastmilk (I'm taking cal/mag supplements and eating dairy). But I'll look into concentrace, not familiar with that.

dot1, thanks for sharing your experience. I wish you the best of luck with stopping your dd's ECC.

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Just popping in to add my two cents.

My boy's teeth were perfect up until around the time he fully weaned (2 1/2). It was *after* that that the staining of the molars and the other decay began to creep up.
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Since I have posted about this, I have been trying to shift things a bit with dd. For example, I got her used to falling asleep at bedtime without the nipple in the mouth - this was easier than I expected. Contrary to the the No-Cry-Sleep-Solution theory, however, it doesn't seem to affect the frequency of her nightwaking. The second night she actually slept from 8:30 PM to 3:30 AM. But since then there have been many nights that she has nursed almost all night (seriously). Sometimes when ill, sometimes because she just didn't eat much dinner (when I was alone with the kids and had trouble getting them to focus on eating long enough), sometimes for some random unknown reason. Basically, I don't think it has made any difference. I also tried to get her to drink some water after nightnursings, but that didn't really work.

We went to a great holistically-oriented dental practice yesterday for dd's HealOzone treatment. The dental assistant who has been doing dentistry for 18 years and who has tons of experience with children was totally pro-BF and didn't make any comments at all (knowing that we are BF night and day). But when I asked her directly about whether she has observed any effect on Early Childhood Caries after toddlers have nightweaned, she said that she has definitely noticed that it has slowed down the progress of ECC. If we continue to nightnurse, Lisa recommended using a Tenders Infant Pre-Toothbrush (she gave me one) rinsed in water after nightnursings, but I've doing doing stuff to dd's mouth at night and very often she is not sleeping soundly enough for that. I know from the appointment that dd's decay is in a very active stage. We are doing the HealOzone and I don't want to undermine that.

At this point I am seriously considering nightweaning dd. I really felt that the dental assistant was well-informed about the benefits of breastfeeding and supportive of it, yet her experience has clearly been that nightweaning is helpful when toddlers have ECC.

edited to add: I had linked to a post about this but it has been removed by the moderators here at MDC.

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first of all - you are doing such a laudable job of handling this stressful situation, kudos to you, mama. i'm so impressed.
i hate to add another variable but have you considered gluten intolerance?
it, in hindsight, did a number on my dear child's teeth and the decay seems to have halted since we've been gluten free. (maybe this has already been addressed - high vit. butter and all, sounds like you would've thought of it... but i just wish i had realized earlier, so i thought i'd mention it.)
i have two other friends who also suspect gluten intolerance, and subsequent poor mineralization are to blame for tooth troubles.
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ugh...just wanted to say that i too am now considering nightweaning my 24 mo ds because of ECC. i am not sure they are considered severe (how would we know?)--he's been to the dentist already for treatment and we're doing tons of stuff to try to stop the progression of decay--but i am just second guessing everything.

i can't wipe his teeth after nursing at night w/out him waking and that's my main concern. i'd feel fine about his night nursing if i could wipe his teeth off, but it just doesn't work. anyone have any suggestions there?

sorry for this weird, disjointed post. i was crying last night as we were brushing his teeth. it's totally traumatic for him (we have to hold him down)--i HATE it.

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i hate to add another variable but have you considered gluten intolerance?
I haven't addressed the food intolerance issue. When dd was born, I suspected dairy and wheat intolerance and eliminated them for a year (from my diet and hers). The symptoms were pretty subtle. But when I started re-introducing those foods I didn't notice any issues with her and assumed that she had outgrown her intolerances (if in fact she had any in the first place). She doesn't have any issues with her skin, respiration, or digestion so if there is an intolerance, there aren't many symptoms. Anyway, the food stuff takes soooo long to track down - it's on the list but not high on the list given the time urgency we're dealing with.

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i can't wipe his teeth after nursing at night w/out him waking and that's my main concern. i'd feel fine about his night nursing if i could wipe his teeth off, but it just doesn't work. anyone have any suggestions there?

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So we started nightweaning last night. I decided on cold turkey because we just got the HealOzone and I want to start fresh with her decay presumably in a halted stage. We fed dd ice cream right before bed, which helped, and I explained what was going to happen. Her first waking was at 1 AM. She cried and screamed for an hour . She didn't really let me comfort her in any way, though I tried to verbally empathize with what she was going through. Then she sort of half-slept for about 2 hours, constantly rousing and crying a bit then settling when I patted her back and shushed. Then she finally fell into a deeper sleep at about 4 AM. She next woke at 6 AM, at which time I was thrilled to nurse her (the sun was up - that's when I told her that she could nurse).

The whole thing was emotionally draining and physically exhausting. I feel like crap today. It really sucks that dh is all enthusiastic about the nightweaning, but not terribly empathetic about how painful this is for me and for dd. I think I am doing the right thing for dd's dental health. And I don't think that I'm scarring her for life - I think that it's just such a very strong habit for dd, one that's very very hard to break.

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it's been months of this and he still screams hysterically when we brush and do the topical fluoride. i really do hope it gets better.

if you ever do come up with a solution for teeth wiping...please let me know!

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what is healozone??

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it's been months of this and he still screams hysterically when we brush and do the topical fluoride. i really do hope it gets better.

if you ever do come up with a solution for teeth wiping...please let me know!
You've probably tried this, but just in case... we sometimes play games when we brush Calvin's teeth (and yes, we spent several months holding him down). Like we play "dr. Mom the dentist" who inspects and counts all his teeth. We also tried to give him a choice: You can sit on your stool while we brush, or I can sit on you while we brush - which do you want?

I didn't actually sit on him - more like I kneeled over him, one leg on each side, knees up by his head, his arms under my lower legs, and my heels up (to make room for his arms). If he "bucked", I'd tuck my heels under his butt to restrict motion. I made sure he had a towel or fleece jacket under him for softness, but really, it just had to get done.

If you are ambivalent about it, they will zone in on that (not consciously) and it really will make it harder. Just accept that for now, you have to hold them down, and as awful as it seems, it IS better than the alternative and do it as gently and kindly as you can. The whole "kind but firm" concept from Positive Discipline. And I say it WILL get easier, once they get to the point of frustration and realize that they are fighting for no reason (not to break their spirit but to make them realize that some things are not negotiable).

Ksenia - hows the night-weaning going? The first couple of nights are always the worst. :

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You can get a blood test for celiac disease. Often the symptoms are very subtle. There is also a stool test for celiac disease (gluten intolerance), which is supposedly more accurate, but it's pricey and not usually covered by insurance. See:
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Pookietooth. I guess we should consider that. I'm not sure if I could send poop across the border though (we live in Canada)?

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Pookietooth. I guess we should consider that. I'm not sure if I could send poop across the border though (we live in Canada)?
If you really want to find out, some NDs do this. Come to think of it, a cheaper way to go about this is to go to the naturepathic school in New West. Most Canadian NDs use the US labs. Good luck!

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what is healozone??
http://www.ozonedentist.ca/treatment.php
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So it's been just over a week since we started nightweaning. The first two nights were horrible. Dd did seem to adjust after that though. She has been sleeping much longer stretches without waking . She usually wakes the first time around 10 PM, cries briefly (10 seconds), then settles down back to sleep without much help from me (she gets mad at me if I try to pat her back or do anything). Then she normally doesn't wake until 3 or 4 AM. At that point she often asks for her water and has a little more trouble falling asleep (probably a bit hungry at that point too). Then after the sun rises (just before 6 AM) I offer her nursing when we wakes. This is usually a big relief to both of us . She nurses like crazy (probably an equivalent amount to what she normally used to get throughout the night) then falls asleep again. This is totally meeting my goal of reducing the amount of time that her teeth are in contact with breastmilk during the night, when saliva flow is low. And I don't think that she is getting much less breastmilk overall than before .

At this point I do feel good about my decision to nightwean. I think that her ultra-frequent nightnursing was a habit, not necessarily a need - and her rapid adjustment to nightweaning seems to confirm that. Perhaps if I was a more perceptive parent I would have been able to meet her nighttime needs in ways other than automatically nursing her as soon as she woke at night - that was about *me* getting more sleep . I've been concerned about how frequent waking is affecting dd too...she definitely seems to be sleeping better at night now.

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I am reading this thread with interest. I took my son to the dentist yesterday because he has fallen and chipped a tooth. On the x-ray, I could see at least 5 maybe 6 cavities on his front teeth. His teeth are very close together and it is hard to even get floss in there to floss his teeth. The Dentist has even already mentioned orthodontia in the future. Anyway, the dentist has told me I need to night wean, we need 4 crowns on front teeth and 2 fillings in the molars. All on top. To the tune of at least $3600. I am so angry at myself. I wasn’t diligent about brushing because it was always such a struggle. Yes, I know I’m the mom, but I just get tired of fighting him all day long. Ksenia, the things you mentioned in your plan above, can they prevent further decay? Can they reverse the decay at all? Is there anyway to reverse the decay and remineralize his teeth without major surgery?

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gossamer, sorry you're dealing with ECC - here's more detail about what we're doing, with links.
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Ksenia, the things you mentioned in your plan above, can they prevent further decay? Can they reverse the decay at all? Is there anyway to reverse the decay and remineralize his teeth without major surgery?
In my link above I've posted what we're doing to stop the decay and to remineralize the demineralized enamel and the exposed dentin. Yes, remineralization is possible under the right conditions, but IME the stuff that I was doing didn't work because the decay wasn't under control - if the bacteria are raging out of control you have to get a handle on that - which is where HealOzone fits in (see above link). We don't know if our strategy will work to prevent dd needing fill and drill, or just delay it, but at this point I think it's doing something. Some people have managed to remineralize their children's cavities - it is possible. Start adding one habit at a time to make it less overwhelming. First, nighttime brushing - see my link above to see how we do it safely against dd's will. Then morning brushing, etc. Crowded teeth could suggest nutrition problems if you believe the work of Weston A Price - consider supplementing with cod liver oil (see my link above) - you may see improvements. Good luck!

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