I posted about this a few months back in this thread
, but since then, DS has gotten even more reluctant to feed himself.
He's 26 months now. Starting around 20/21 months, he was hesitant to feed himself, either with his fingers or a spoon/fork, both of which he'd previously been adamant about doing himself. I kept thinking, "It's a phase, he'll grow out of it." But six months on, he very very rarely feeds himself. He absolutely won't use a fork, even if I 'pre-load' it. He will occasionally use a spoon only if it's to eat his favorite treat, a baby-food-type pureed fruit. He will eat a select few foods with his fingers: individual peas, cookies if he has them, and bananas.
His favorite foods are toast and pasta, but he will work himself into a hysterical state rather than pick up the piece of toast himself. He insists, "Mama do it!" over and over. My DP 'played chicken' with him at breakfast when I was sleeping in last weekend, encouraging DS to eat his own toast. But apparently DS just sat at the table and whimpered, "Papa do it" for 30 minutes. We had pasta for dinner last night, shapes that he chose, but he would not eat anything unless I fed him.
He eats lunch at day care, where they also feed him. He's the only kid in his age group that doesn't feed himself. Unless they are having fish & chips, in which case he will eat the chips.
I am sort of worried that this is a sensory issue - he generally freaks out if he gets crumbs or jam on his hands. But he will happily feed himself the occasional crumbly cookie.
Am I worried for no reason? Will he get over this? Any ideas when?