I really respect all the things you said and the way you said them! I guess that for me, there are many, many things I feel I have control over concerning my child’s safety and I choose to pick my battles differently from you and others here. I think that is the key is that we all care about our kid’s safety.
Because I fly so much I would be more interested in the statistics of child safety on airplanes (especially in comparison to other common dangers like the car or bicycle). Have there been any more preventable lap child deaths or injuries or deaths since the crash 25 years ago? I’m also interested in knowing if the 1 in 8 million chance of a person dying in an airplane is a per year type thing or in the course of all air travel and what is the stat for lap children? I don’t know too many stats on child safety but how does this stat compare with the auto, playground and etc?
About the necessity of travel and personally circumstances, we travel to see family, as I said. We also have family visit us but my daughter is lucky enough to have 5 Great Grandmas between the ages of 81 and 93 and because of that, it is not as simple as saying, “just have them come to you”.
About the cost, it isn’t just a few bucks (not to us anyway)! Children do not get half off (not on any of the 15 flights I’ve taken). My daughter has gotten 1/3 off international travel and absolutely no discount on domestic US travel because the discounted web-fares are usually lower than the child’s reduction of full fare.
On the subject of money, it has actually happened here in Europe that it is CHEAPER to buy the kid a seat! Strange, I know, but some of the airlines here have a base fare for a lap child and, occasionally, the discounted seat is cheaper than that!
Also, don’t forget that you will have to pay something for your child, even if they are on your lap. The cost to travel internationally can really add up even for a lap child if you have to pay heavy taxes and 10% of the fare.
Back on the issue of safety, I think it is fair enough to say that parents have a limited amount of resources, energy, money, time and etc. I’m sure all the parents here at MDC focus all or their available resources on their kids but we can’t do everything. We focus within our resources and we do what is most important to us based on our individual circumstances.
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