Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Beautifull Bellingham,WA
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I need some help here. My almost 3 year old is the most stubborn child I have even met. EVERYTHING has to be his way. And i mean everything. Even if I offer him something he likes, he will say no, just to say yes 5 seconds later...everything must be his decision.
We used to do EC with him. He was never really into it, but he was going pee and poo, at some point, most of the time. This was before he turned one. He NEVER EVER wanted to sit on a potty. We always had to hold him over the toilet. But he did go.
Last fall my husband even managed to get him sit of the potty few times but mostly he was going pee and poo into the toilet. About 5 months ago, he flat out refused to do this any longer. This little man is so complicated, and we used to have dozens and dozens of other battles with him a day that I chose not to fight this one. I was soooo exhausted, that I really did not want to deal with any more crap. I could not take any more fits, over anything else.
He's very sensitive child, has TONS of food allergies, a before we found out about the allergies, he'd have at least 30 (no kidding) tantrums a day. Pretty much non stop since the minute he woke up till he went to sleep again.
He is over those now, thank goodness, but he still VERY stubborn.
The other day, I simply brought his potty into a room where he was and just that alone, without even saying anything, he broke down in tears and cried for good 10 minutes, saying no potty, no potty. The same goes with toilet. Any suggestion about going on a potty turns into tears. Bribing does not help. If I offer something he likes, like lollipop for example, he freaks out, and ONLY wants the lollipop. I actually hate suggesting this, because he just skips the potty part, and FREAKS out about wanting a lollipop, so now I have to deal with another issue, while potty training is already out of the window.....
We have to be very careful about how we suggest things to him. Anything can through him off and he will go into a fit.
We did very successful EC with our older son, but this one is beyond my thinking....I have NO IDEA how to approach this little guy.
Any help,any suggestions are more than welcome and appreciated.