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Well, there's always public school. I know that's virtually a swearword around here, but it could be worth checking out again.

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Rynna, you could always forgo the curriculum and do your own. I use the book Home Learning Year by Year as a basic guide to give me ideas of what to teach for every grade and compile my own stuff. You could do it! I have complete faith in you! I don't know what kind of laws you have to work with though, so that may play a part, I guess.
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Well, there's always public school. I know that's virtually a swearword around here, but it could be worth checking out again.
I have actually looked into the public schools around here. They have no programming whatsoever for gifted children-- I mean *none* not even a once-a-week pullout program. When you ask about a child who might need more than your average gifted child in the way of accomodation, they look at you cross-eyed and ask why you aren't homeschooling. It's illegal and it sucks, but with four kids I have neither the time nor the inclination to argue with them right now. As I'm not interested in pursuing a series of inappropriate diagnoses for Bean, nor in having random agencies inserted into our lives, sending him to school seems like an exercise in futility... at best.

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Rynna, you could always forgo the curriculum and do your own. I use the book Home Learning Year by Year as a basic guide to give me ideas of what to teach for every grade and compile my own stuff. You could do it! I have complete faith in you! I don't know what kind of laws you have to work with though, so that may play a part, I guess.
I'm seriously tense about that sort of thing. Bean likes organization and structure, and really does best when he has them. I've seen lots of materials which would be appropriate for him right now, and I can't afford 90% of them. I know I should suck it up and deal and it's probably what I'll end up doing, but I'm very angry about it all right now. It's just not freaking fair to tease me like this and give me two excellent years (or even three) to be followed with, "We don't give a ****, you're on your own now." : I want to punch someone in the face for screwing me over like this, I'm really livid. It's just plain WRONG. :

I've got a couple more weeks to think about it. We may survive the next school year but after that everything is probably going to pot. : Ugh. I hate thinking about it.

The sad part is that $money$ would entirely solve this problem for me. I think that's what makes me angriest of all, is that this mess discriminates heavily against poor people. If I had a ton of cash lying around, I probably wouldn't have enrolled Bean in Agora in the first place-- it would have been entirely unnecessary.

: I hate thinking about this. I hate being a grownup, I want to be a kid right now. :

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Ohhh hi!

So Rynna.... DH and I have been grappling with the idea of homeschooling vs public school since before Trixie was born. Of course I am totally pro homeschooling for a whole mess of reasons. Some that I'm a little scared of the American system being that I am all Canadian and stuff. Also Adam and I were both extremely intelligent children. His parents made sure he had heaps of enrichment stuff and he did so well. I lament that my mom never realized that I was as bright as I was, and that combined with going to school in a small town, I didn't get anything like Adam got. I survived though. Luckily I loved to read. So now we're at this impasse. I don't want Trixie to have a childhood like I did.... So that's why I'm unsure. The elementary school that she'd go to is the worst in the city I've found out. One of my friends teaches at the middle school that that elementary feeds into and she says that the children are routinely 3 grade levels below where they should be. UGH! So dilemma. Adam says she'll be fine and we'll enrich her, but I worry about what school life will be like for her. So sucks. But if Bean does go to public school and you enrich him?

Now for my question.
I've been researching what I can do to have a better chance of breastfeeding this baby, and unfortunately there is very little info on recannulization, the rate at which is happens and what I can do in pregnancy to help it. So after talking with a friend who has the same issues and is also pregnant I came up with a plan. Recannulization happens the fastest in pregnancy and when there is gentle sucking, so I think I should start pumping. I'm wondering what the experience has been for other mamas who've breast fed through pregnancy. What did your body do? Did nursing ever bring about contractions? When? Did you ever notice that you stopped producing? In general what was it all like for you?

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Dea, if you got in contact with a local LLL leader, they could contact their professional liason dept. and probably give you some more info. Just a thought.
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dea i just have a minute but i'll try to answer as much as i can and just ask for more if i don't cover what you want to know. i nursed grace thru james' pregnancy. at first i still had average amounts of milk but it was really painful to nurse due to the sensitivities of pregnancy. so i limited her nursing as much as possible without actually refusing her. the sensitivities got better around 12-15 weeks i think. i then had a huge decrease in supply starting around 18-20 weeks and by about 25 weeks i had nothing at all. she still continued to nurse and it was fine sometime and other times i felt like i was going to crawl out of my skin, it was a really terrible sensation and i'd have to do count downs to get me through and to wrap her up. i'd basically say, okay, you have until the count of ten and then you need to be all done and i'd try and count as slowly as possible but there were times i have to consciously not throw her off of me. it was really hard dealing with that so be prepared that there may be some negative feelings and that it's hormone related and not the bodies actual desire to not nurse or something. i did have contractions sometimes but nothing that ever bothered/worried me. i had a lot of BH with grace too so i may just be someone that has a lot of contractions in pregnancy anyway. there were never times i felt like she had to stop because i was having labor sorts of contractions or anything like that. i do know that there are some people that nursing could have that effect on but as long as the pregnancy is healthy and you have a history of a full term healthy pregnancy you should be fine on that front. it is also interesting to note that i went a few days longer with James than i did with Grace too. i would say that nursing through pregnancy was really hard but i'm glad i did it. i think knowing the reason you would be pumping would help you get through it. it can also help bring the colostrum in, mine was in at full force at about 35 weeks and my milk came in faster with james too. i think if you think it will help its a great idea. it's sad that there isn't more info out there on nursing after reduction. have you contacted LLL? they have a place on the website where you can ask questions and they will see what they can find. it's a good resource if you haven't already tried it. good luck!!

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Dea, I just can't do it. Generally by 5 months my milk supply is down and I can't do dry sucking- it's just too uncomfortable. I'm noticing that's almost exactly the same timeline as Sarah, though.
Nursing River is bringing on strong BH, but only if I've had sex in the last day or two- otherwise i'm barely noticing.
I do have a feeling that with pumping, and the awareness that you're pumping for your new baby, your emotions may be strong enough to outweigh the hormonal blips.
FWIW, I'm sure even in the US you have the option to send your kid to a school other than the local one.

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I have a couple of friends who are LLL leaders and they have no idea. Granted I am asking really hard questions. Whenever I ask a leader they direct me to the same book I've already read, and even that book doesn't touch on what I need to know.
I think I"m going to have to talk to a doctor and see a specialist. I don't know if that will bring much results either.
Also I am really turned off lactation consultants around here. No one was able to help me when i was having issues with Trixie. I was directed to speak to the most knowledgeable one in the area, and she got sat on a soap box and told me how wrong my NICU was. She was no help. My doula was no help, she suggested I force Trixie even though she screamed. I finally got help at the hospital (with the nipple confusion) LLL was supportive, but I had to stop going for my sanity, the leaders were great, but other members didn't know my story and would say horrible things about formula and people who chose to use it. (I know they meant people who chose to use it over breast feeding, but still it was really hard for me) So now I feel at a loss.... sigh.
Ohh trixie is DEMANDING my attention... gotta go.

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Well ladies I have some news....
















The DoC job has FINALLY come through : Michael got the call today while I was out with a friend. All I have to do now is get copies of my driving record in Colorado and Tennessee (or in the case of Tennessee a letter stating that I never had a license there!) and 3 letters of rec from neighbors in my same zip code. I bring that all in with me when I go for my physical!! Oh and I informed the Sgt. before she called me today (about a week ago) that I was pregnant and I didn't want to lie and she said that it was just fine because they have 3 pregnant women in the Academy right now So yay!!!

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I'm so happy for you. It looks like things are really looking up for your family.

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I'm so happy for you. It looks like things are really looking up for your family.
Now if only DH would learn to get up before 11 am we'd be perfect

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congrats, sarah lynne!

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So Rynna.... DH and I have been grappling with the idea of homeschooling vs public school since before Trixie was born. Of course I am totally pro homeschooling for a whole mess of reasons. Some that I'm a little scared of the American system being that I am all Canadian and stuff. Also Adam and I were both extremely intelligent children. His parents made sure he had heaps of enrichment stuff and he did so well. I lament that my mom never realized that I was as bright as I was, and that combined with going to school in a small town, I didn't get anything like Adam got. I survived though. Luckily I loved to read. So now we're at this impasse. I don't want Trixie to have a childhood like I did.... So that's why I'm unsure. The elementary school that she'd go to is the worst in the city I've found out. One of my friends teaches at the middle school that that elementary feeds into and she says that the children are routinely 3 grade levels below where they should be. UGH! So dilemma. Adam says she'll be fine and we'll enrich her, but I worry about what school life will be like for her. So sucks. But if Bean does go to public school and you enrich him?
Enrichment is wonderful, but it can only compensate for so much. Assuming that everything else was simple and perfect, I would spend 8 hours (minimum) dealing with school issues every day, then the three other kids and then whatever energy we had left would be devoted to enrichment activities. The trouble is that I'd be homeschooling anyway, because there's absolutely nothing in a second grade curriculum for me to even enrich at this point. I'd have to spend a ton of money that i don't have looking for activities for him, and nothing exists in our local school district.

Parents of moderately gifted children pull their kids out of this system because it's so bad for them. I've never met another parent in this district with a profoundly gifted child, but every parent of a moderately gifted child that I've met has advised me *strongly* against even considering enrolling [any of] my children. They can barely cope with a child who's one grade level ahead of their age-peers in math around here. Bean is *four years* ahead in math right now, at least three years ahead in everything else, and he'd be not only starting out ahead but continuing to move at an accelerated pace. He's something of an extreme case. Again, if I had tons of cash lying around this wouldn't be an issue... but I wouldn't bother sending him to school then, either, because of the waste of time.

I've also got a HUGE issue with drugging children just because they're active and alert, and Bean would be a prime candidate for this because of his behavior when he's bored out of his little skull. At home he manages to bring things up to his level but at school this would be impossible without causing trouble. He'd tantrum and turn cartwheels and he'd never shut up unless he lucked out and got a teacher who understood him and was not only willing but able to differentiate for him. While that would be fantastic, I quite frankly don't blame teachers for not being able to do it-- I have a hard enough time with four kids at four different levels, and I know pretty well where each one of them is as I've known them all their lives!

Last year I ran into someone in a neighboring school district who was interested in starting an elementary school for highly gifted kiddos; I should see if they've made any progress. But meh. This week, I devote officially to Bear's doctor's appointments. I'll try to sort out the school mess next week or the week after.


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I've been researching what I can do to have a better chance of breastfeeding this baby, and unfortunately there is very little info on recannulization, the rate at which is happens and what I can do in pregnancy to help it. So after talking with a friend who has the same issues and is also pregnant I came up with a plan. Recannulization happens the fastest in pregnancy and when there is gentle sucking, so I think I should start pumping. I'm wondering what the experience has been for other mamas who've breast fed through pregnancy. What did your body do? Did nursing ever bring about contractions? When? Did you ever notice that you stopped producing? In general what was it all like for you?

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I've nursed through three pregnancies. The very first thing I remember is the milk supply diminishing significantly during the second trimester; This didn't stop Bean, but he was a miserable character. : My nipples became unbearably sensitive. Bean was a twiddler and it was irritating before I got pregnant with BooBah but afterwards it was utterly intolerable. : You might find that anything touching your nipples to that extent makes you crazy. I didn't really have much in the way of contractions from nursing (none at all with BooBah), so I lucked out there. Production went WAY down. Bean will tell anyone and everyone all about what happens to the nursies when mamma gets pregnant-- "There isn't very much milk in the nursies-- only a couple of drops!" Those drops are always there, but they're super difficult to get out.

In general.... it was really difficult but rewarding. Bean and Bella were my most nursie-attached kiddos, you'd have thought that my milk drying up was the first sign of the apocalypse. Tandem nursing after the new baby comes is MUCH easier than nursing during pregnancy. I actually really liked tandem nursing.

I think that were I in your position, instead of pumping this early I'd drink my pregnancy tea and meditate on the nursing relationship. Toward the end of the pregnancy, when you'd start taking EPO and such, you might massage your nipples & even hand express a bit of colostrum in the shower regularly, all while continuing to meditate on abundant nursies and a warm, fuzzy, snuggly nursing relationship with NewBean. Just my thoughts, mind; Feel free to dismiss them entirely if you think they're not applicable.

Oh, irony; Bear just came in with his "bobble," looking to snuggle into my lap. It's still hard to see sometimes, and it still feels unnatural to me not to pull the boob out and feed the little muffin. I'm really going to be pulling for you this time around, Dea.


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FWIW, I'm sure even in the US you have the option to send your kid to a school other than the local one.
Some people do. The most I could do would be to give my mother's address and enroll Bean in her local elementary school. If I thought they'd be any more accomodating, I'd do it in a heartbeat... but that situation would be worse all around.

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The DoC job has FINALLY come through : Michael got the call today while I was out with a friend. All I have to do now is get copies of my driving record in Colorado and Tennessee (or in the case of Tennessee a letter stating that I never had a license there!) and 3 letters of rec from neighbors in my same zip code. I bring that all in with me when I go for my physical!! Oh and I informed the Sgt. before she called me today (about a week ago) that I was pregnant and I didn't want to lie and she said that it was just fine because they have 3 pregnant women in the Academy right now So yay!!!
: Yay! That's fantastic, I'm totally thrilled for you. : Rock on!

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: So funny, I was thinking the same thing about my morning. Mike got up when I sent the girls in to inform him that a) it was 11 and b) Bella had left a mess of yogurt on the floor that he needed to address while I kept Bear out of it. It's only 11:30 and he was only out of my sight for about five minutes, but His Royal Majesty already has hives all over his face and torso. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that his allergy testing tomorrow reveals useful information, as his RAST tests all came back negative last year. Now that he's older, perhaps things will make sense?

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Fantastic news SL!

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Sarah Lynne congratulations!!!!!!!!! Big, big happiness for you!

Dea, I can't guarantee that she will have answers, but the LC we used was really fantastic, non-judgemental, very supportive. You could try giving her a call. She's obviously not local to you, but you may be able to get some advice/info over the phone? PM me if you want her info.

The schooling thing is an interesting question. Modesty aside, both DH and I fell into the "very gifted" category and did fine with public school all the way through. Not to say school was the only source of our education; both of us came from families where we were giving opportunities & outlets to learn, grow, and develop our minds & interests in a lot of ways. And please don't interpret that to read that we came from famililes with a lot of $$/resources. We both just got lucky that our parents were able to give us intellectual/mental room to grow. Honestly? I feel like the biggest thing that is so easy to miss is that what gives a kid opportunities is teaching him or her how to LEARN. It's not just about teaching them all these different things - it's about teaching a kid how to educate him/herself in the world around him (ok, dropping to just one gender to simplify). How to look at different encounters & experiences with the eye & mind that learns, gleans, analysis, applies to other situations. How to look at the world as school.

I would definitely not say that either of our public school systems was anything special or alternative. We both got lucky here & there with really good teachers who encouraged us to learn. In kindergarten, DH was running away from school. In I think 4th grade, he had a teacher who taught him how to learn, and that completely changed his view of school. Neither of us saw high school or middle school as the source of our education; it was just a tool that was a gateway to other opportunities.

Ok - all this to say, I think the duality of public school vs. homeschooling is limiting, as dualities always are. I think every kid is different, every parent is different, every familial relationship is different. Kids need different kinds of frameworks within which they learn. In some instances, a public school can be part of that framework; in some instances, a public school can be a roadblock in creating that framework.

Sorry for that little monologue, Don't know where it came from, only that DH & I are very grateful for our respective educational paths that have let us grow to be the people we are today.
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Did I mention that R has all of her teeth at least poking through except for the 2-year molars? Only one canine is still just a point; the other 3 are through to the wide part of the tooth. I think the worst is over until the 2-years start...hooray! My child does not grow teeth gracefully.
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So with every bit of good news seems to come bad news and I had to deal with some tonight.

My grandfather past away this evening. He was at home and it was peaceful, but an emotional rollercoaster for me none the less. Ironically I was the first one my father called when it happened. Yeah that one's gonna take quite a few therapy sessions to figure out...

Long day tomorrow so I'm off.

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SL.

Yay for teeth. Boo for school. Yay for boobies. Boo for yoghurt.

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Yay for teeth. Boo for school. Yay for boobies. Boo for yoghurt.
I'll ditto this.

I'm actually ok with what happened with my grandpa, because he was very ready. It's just the fact that it comes on the heels of my mom's death and all the drama that makes it soo hard on me. I'm trying to make sure I don't keep everything balled up like I did with my mom because I don't want to go back to that place in my head again. Thankfully all of his arrangements have been made for nearly 10 years Yeah grandpa always liked to be prepared.

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Sarah Lynne, congrats on one hand and condolences on the other. Life sure does hold some real ups and downs for you, huh?

SLGT, well put! I absolutely agree with you on the importance of children learning things for themselves- not necessarily being taught by someone who already knows it. Hooray for the public library! I don't want to turn this thread into a homeschooling/ public schooling discussion. I just want to say that, Rynna, you are a smart and capable woman, and I'm sure that no matter what way you choose for your kids, it will turn out great.

Dea, I know you said that the LLL leaders you've talked to don't know much about your situation that is helpful, but there is a professional liason dept. at LLL, and they have access to doctors and tons of current medical research, etc. They're who LLL leaders go to when they're stumped. I think it would be worth putting in another call and asking someone to look into it for you.

And teeth. Twyla has her front four on top and is starting to get her molars up there. And then she has just the two middle ones on bottom! It looks so goofy! It just takes FOREVER for my kids to get teeth! Ronan has been missing his two front teeth for a good six months and still no sign of 'em!
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Well, that was fun. Bear's tests were inconclusive. He had weak positive reactions to (of all things) soy and wheat, and not to anything else. The lack of dairy reaction was shocking to me, but the allergist pointed out that it could be something else in the cheese/chocolate/whatever that he's reacting to. He'll see the gastroenterologist tomorrow (who's been saying that Bear is allergic to *something* for the better part of a year now) and we'll sort from there, I guess. In other fun news, he's developing an ear infection. Yay. He has a very limited appetite today and seems to want to hang all over me and cry, which makes doing damn near anything else impossible. I may compell Mike to hold him so that I can get some laundry done... or I may just continue to live in sloth until he passes out. I'm in such a blah mood and just at a loss. I mean he doesn't want *anything* but to sit near me picking at things I don't want him to touch and whimpering/crying when I remove them from reach.

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Days like that, I normally tie the offspring to the stroller and walk until they pass out. I'm sorry that you didn't get an easy answer from the allergist

It's hot. I'm melting- it's the kind of humid hot that feels like I'm breathing in soup. My bras are all stretched out and I have some serious chafing going on under my boobs and under my bump (ick? Absolutely) and all the kids are ratty as heck. I have an ultrasound tomorrow, though, so I'm feeling excited.

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SL, I'm sorry.... I hope everything keeps getting better for you.

Helen I'm jealous that you have a bump. I have a blob. Or rather just a bloat. Hehe.

I had an ultrasound yesterday and the empty sac twin (was confirmed to have a fetal pole at some point) is starting to shrink. Kinda made me sad again 'cause that means there's no hope that a baby will magically appear. Then the nurse practitioner who did the ultrasound mentioned to one of the nurses that I needed a waiver to sign for the early trimester screening 'cause I can't do it due to "twin loss" so they all flocked around me telling me how sorry they were. Ohhh I nearly lost my marbles. I guess I don't have such a good grip on it all. Then my MIL said to me yesterday that it wasn't like it was a real baby, since it was just an empty sac. SO I patienly and gently schooled her on infertility, the crap I went through and reminded her that it was a real baby, and there was a loss and I am not crazy to be sad. I thought I handled it well since I wanted to grab something and beat her with it.
The other baby (I hate calling her that, I guess she's jsut he the baby now) is growing really well and we spent some time just watching her kick and wiggle. Looks like she's as wiggly as Trixie was. This is why I love ultrasounds.

okay off to see what other people have said to me around these here parts.

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So Bear's tests yesterday were inconclusive, right? This morning I undressed him for the gastroenterologist who asked, "What's that big weal on his back from?" Turned him around to see the wheat test, now about three times as big as it'd managed to get yesterday while the allergist was looking at him. : Oh, Bear, you're so talented. Anyway, now I have to call them and discuss Bear's apparent wheat allergy.

In other fun Bear news, Bella poured dish soap all over him a little bit ago. He's asleep now, but cleaning him up was.... "fun" and he hasn't opened his eyes once (just screamed). That, and he was tugging at his ears earlier today the way that he does when he's about to have an ear infection. If I didn't know better, I'd swear this kid really, really didn't want me to go to the Farm this weekend. : I feel sick and I'm so unbelievably angry about everything right now! : I want to break things. :

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Rynna...
breathe!
Poor wee Bear. Did the allergy people not put cortizone on this weals before he left, even if they were little? (although if they would have you wouldn't have known, but I'm sure that it would have bothered him the whole day, wouldn't it?) I ask because I recently had tests done and they put it on me to stop the itch after the test was over.

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They didn't put anything on him because his reactions (the ones that were reactions) were so mild that I guess they assumed everything would just disappear in a few hours. I don't know, it's all depressing.

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They didn't put anything on him because his reactions (the ones that were reactions) were so mild that I guess they assumed everything would just disappear in a few hours. I don't know, it's all depressing.
*hugs*


I'm sitting here like a glutton for punishment watching "I Didn't Know I was Pregnant" and just completely getting ticked off. The blatant misinformation (not to mention the scaremongering) drives me nuts. However, I just can't seem to turn it off. *le sigh*

I'm also ticked because my DVR cut off 5 minutes early so I missed which boy went home on "o you think you can dance?"

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i just somehow lost all my quotes for responding too. well, here goes!

rynna- : for a wonderful weekend for you. that is nuts about bear's allergies, what about eggs? and um, what else is in cheese but dairy?
poor little ears. meh. it just sounds sucky and hard right now

sarah lynne- congrts on the job!!! i'm sorry to hear about your grandpa but glad to hear that he was prepared and ready. i love my mom's parents a lot and luckily they were pretty young when they had kids so they're only in their early 70's.

dea- i'm sorry to hear that the other babe is for sure gone. i admire your composure in how you handled your mil. my best friend had a miscarriage and i handled it beastly. i'm lucky she still talks to me, so i've definitely grown into accepting mama's grief more because it's like, no matter what happened, or at what time, it's the dream of the baby that's gone, the thinking about sharing your life with a new little meep that you mourn.

i have nothing helpful to offer about bf'ing the new one but i hope you find soe answers!

slgt- my mate and i were gifted too, i went to public school all the way, and he went to some fancy schmancy hippy dippy boarding school. i'm not sure that either of us turned out better than the other, i lack motivation and he has other issues, but i think he had a hell of a lot more fun and enjoyment in school than i did. i also noticed that less of his identity is tied up in his intelligence than mine. i'm not sure why but i think that the external motivation of grades messed with my head.

which is to say, i'm hoping we can homeschool lazlo and linnaea but finances may dictate otherwise.

okay, laz is here to read the long winter. oh!! linnaea news! her two newest most helpful words are stuck and carrier. i'll hear her little voice say stuck! and i go into the living room and she's stuck on a cushion, so cute. and carrier is her way of asking to be up in the ergo, it's nice because she can be close to me after i get home from work without throwing out my back. she must weigh at least 25-27 pounds. she's a little beefcake.

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Oh man, I can't believe I forgot to mention that Bear weighs twenty-seven and a half pounds!!! : He's a moose! For some perspective from my end, before Bear my heaviest child didn't weigh 20 pounds until he was 19 months old, and was probably 30 months old before he weighed 27. Bella is still hovering around 30 pounds at 39 months, it's insane. The gastroenterologist was very pleased with Bear's weight, because now it's consistant with his height. He's still quite lean and muscular when compared with the average baby, but he's not *skinny* anymore since he started the 30 cal/oz formula. Weirdly Bear *loves* the stuff, and has been known to eat Neocate Jr. powder right out of the can. : But yes-- my moose baby. I'm rather excited that he's so big. :

The allergist said a couple of things might be going on. First, Bear could be one of the 20% of kids who appear to have serious dairy allergies without having IgE mediated reactions (in other words, they can't be tested for them). Secondly, he could be allergic to corn or corn syrup, which would wholly explain the chocolate and apparently partially explain the dairy. Third, he could just be too young for testing and fourth, Bear could have no reaction because we've avoided dairy products as best we can.

I'm still flustered by the wheat, especially since his endoscopies were normal, but I'm told that because he's so young he may not have had enough damage to his intestines for them to appear abnormal enough to warrant biopsies at this point. So there's something of a mixed-blessing going on; Because we're catching things relatively early, we could get him cleared up but because it's so early we can't tell exactly what's wrong-- only that something is, in fact, wrong.

I have to call the ENT this morning. THRH missed the early trains, both of them, so I won't see him until tenish. Meh. I'm still in a rotten mood, and absolutely nothing happened last night to improve it. I've really got to work on this, I hate feeling crappy for no reason. :

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Cough. Playamama started the new thread. Cough.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1106383

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