last week, a man in front of us on line at the airport had a seizure. the moment he fell down, DD started screaming and crying. you'd have thought she'd been severely hurt. i explained that he was going to be OK and got her out of there immediately, but it took her a bit to calm down. a few days later we were watching some comic street performers, and one of them jumped to the ground and she started screaming again. today, she started crying when a mom we were playing with spoke barely-sternly to her son.
what do i do? just keep explaining? how long do you think till she outgrows it? we don't do much TV (mostly only PBS and some videos), so she doesn't see any violence, and certainly none IRL. i'm not sure i could shelter her more than i do, or if sheltering is going to be the best course of action? and for how long? the sensitivity started before the man had the seizure, and there was no injury she witnessed that started the sensitivity.
if anyone's BDTD, i would greatly appreciate any advice or insight!!
If she doesn't grow out of it, and there is a chance of that, then you can start talking to her about it. Why she is upset, why it's upsetting, what can you do in that situation etc. Basically help her learn to take control of at the very least herself in that situation.
Some people are just more sensitive to others and it's often a good thing. She is a little young to understand the difference between a real fall and a pretend fall too so to her even the fake ones are real and just as upsetting.
If it looks like I'm trying to pick a fight... I'm not, I'm rarely that obvious.
Sounds like you're doing the right thing.
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Two book suggestions:
The Emotional Life of the Toddler
The Highly Sensitive Child
My dd was very sensitive to others' feelings as an infant, and she's still emotionally sensitive (and a little dramatic) now at 5. Ds was very sensitive to tone of voice, so I really had to learn to tone it down.
I think when your DD reaches an age where there are better language skills, it will be easier to help her process what is going on so she's not so dramatically effected by it....in the meantime, it sounds like you're doing a really excellent job handling things mama!!
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I don't think sheltering her is the answer. At some point, she will have to get out into the world and she will experience people being injured and things of that nature. That said, I wouldn't turn on COPS and park her in front of it! lol. But finding books or kids' videos that explain that people sometimes get hurt could be really helpful for her.
A breaking point for us was when one of our three cats (the twin sister of another) was hit by a car and killed. We were all outside when it happened. I put the kids inside before they had seen anything, but we did have to explain it to our daughter and I think it was a helpful step in the right direction for her. Injury and death are a very normal, natural part of life. Can you imagine how she's going to handle school if she's not adjusting to aggression and injury? Gym class alone could be totally traumatic for her. So maybe ease her into it, read some kids' books about it, and talk about it as much as she needs to. Maybe she just needs to talk through her fears.
(I also don't know if you believe in this, but kids between the ages of 2-5 are said to be much more in touch with past lives than humans of any other age. If your child has an irrational fear of something, consider the possibility that she was injured the way in a past life. Especially something so specific as falling. I would ask her about it, if it's not morally objectionable to you. Just try a simple "Did you fall before and get hurt?" and see where the conversation leads. It can be quite interesting!
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They could be a past experience that she is very sensitive to.
I remember my one niece was always talking about things that happened to her when she was little- she was only 2!
She would have full stories that came out of nowhere.
I think it's normal for some kids to be that sensitive. I think the best you can do right now is to verbally reassure her that everything is ok and explain what happened or is happening when she gets upset. If she really is hysterically freaking out then remove her from the situation and still gently explain what happened.
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