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#1 of 5 Old 08-18-2009, 10:13 PM - Thread Starter
 
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So i have a 15 month old son who is the coolest kid i have ever met. Well most of the time. Lately however, he has been soooo mean. He hits me when he gets mad, throws things all the time, and even yells at me! just 2 weeks ago he was an angel and now I can't wait for bed time! The hitting is the worst, it makes me so mad! how do i handle it? We went out to dinner with our friends that have a 12 month old and their kid was an angel, mine threw tantrums throughout the entire meal! I so have THAT kid and I don't understand hwo that is possible?! Help!

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I have a 12+ month old who just started hitting me and screaming terribly when told no or has a toy taken by another child! Help us please!
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I saw there were lots of people who viewed the thread, but didn't reply. I think this is really tough on us when we don't know what's going on, and we don't understand why our little loves are doing something so different from what we're used to. So, anyway, I'm posting an article from a site that has helped me many, many times. This article reminds us that the children (and we) are good and it suggests that the hitting is a communication that things are off and that the child needs someone to listen to some tough feelings. (I think it explains it much better than I can, so I'll just post the link below.) I'd love to hear what you think!

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/c...007/000707.htm
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Oh, he just doesn't have impulse control yet. This is totally age-appropriate behavior you are seeing.

Be gentle with him (make sure you aren't yelling or hitting) and help him learn alternatives. You guide him and teach him. It takes time. Model what you want from him. Redirect him- bring out a toy. Distract him- encourage him to sing a song or play peek-a-boo. And, remove him from situation when necessary.

Perhaps he was tired or hungry or both. Try to have a snack and something to keep his hands busy such as a few small toys and board books. If he acts up again like this it may be too much stimulation for him. Try getting together with friends at a playground and pack a picnic instead.
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When my 15 month old starts down this path I tell her that we don't hit/bite/yell/whine/whatever so how about if we do 'x' instead. It's uhm moderately successful. You do the best you can do with it. We aren't going to beat her meanness out of her so options are limited.

My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.

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