Here's what we did.
1. Watched potty learning DVDs for the last 6? 8?months. DD knows what the potty is and has the general concepts down complete with song lyrics. There are dvd reviews here
. We really like Elmo's Potty Time
(very respectful and gentle, great music) but DD loves Go Potty Go
(slightly irritating and talks about diapers are for babies).
We often had DD watch the DVDs naked with the potty available for sitting so she could copy what she saw on the screen.
2.Bought 2 pottys because the one we started with had a 'bump' that didn't allow DD to just sit, she had to be sure to get over the bump. Since a fall on delicate areas can completely destroy potty learning, we got a potty seat that is a normal seat, she can just sit.
3.Talked a lot about how she was too big for diapers.Her diapers hurt her. Showed her the welts from her diapers.
4.Put stuffed animals on her potty and enacted involved pretend play sequences where they used the potty.
5.Said diapers are 'yuck' which was not what I wanted to do, but ironically seemed to be a major turning point for DD.
6. Brought potty into bathroom with mommy and daddy whenever we had to go.
7.Made sitting on the potty fun. We sang songs, read books, colored, ate chocolate.
8. Emphasized that going potty was DD's success anytime she did go potty. YOU used the potty. YOU put your pee-pee in the potty. Wow! YOU know how to use the potty!
9. Offered the potty constantly but never forced. Bribed, yes, but never forced.
10. Accidents happen. DD peed all over the place. We just cleaned it up with a 'pee pee goes in the potty, looks like your pee pee got lost, but that's okay!'
11. Spent an entire week working on potty learning. If nothing happened, we decided we would back off. However, while things looked dire early on, as of yesterday we have caught ALL pees in the potty and DD is sitting and going very quickly--no need to draw out the time. So hopefully we are one our way.
Good luck momma! HTH