Perhaps I have a genius on my hand or do other toddlers do the same thing?
And, yep, there are lots of entering Kinders who don't know the letter names and many many who don't know sounds.
I find all small children amazing in their ability to learn without us really teaching them anything other than just being with them. I think they are all little geniuses in their own right.
Now he has become fascinated with numbers... so who knows, maybe he'll learn them next.
I try not to make a big deal out of it, both with him and with other people. I don't want people saying "you are so smart," or things to that effect. I don't want him to feel any pressure to "perform" in academics at all at this age. We've been taking a Waldorf approach to play and learning and I want to make sure his imagination is allowed to be the main focus for now.
|I think it really depends on the level of parental involvement, and how much time you spend reading and talking to your child.|
My ds will be 3 in May, knows all of his letters, but doesn't sing the ABC song. He doesn't sing any songs though. We read constantly around here. He has been 'diagnosed' as gifted because of his advancement in the way he uses numbers, apparently. But I've never been one to sit down and work on his ABC's with him. I'm not really big into rote memorization, and really believe that each child will pick it up when they are ready.
I don't think there is any one answer as to when a child 'should' learn their ABC's. They all will on their own time frame, and when you have a group of 6 year olds together, you won't be able to figure out which ones were saying them at 14 months (like a friend of mine's dd) or at 5yo.
|Originally posted by oceanbaby
It really depends on the child. Some are more into numbers, some music, some running and jumping.
My ds will be 3 in May, knows all of his letters, but doesn't sing the ABC song. He doesn't sing any songs though. We read constantly around here.
|However, as the kids get older having a parent who reads/talks to their child is essential for academic growth. I know to a lot of us it may sound like common sense, but I work at an elementary school in a program for low readers and I see kids everyday whose parents don't read to them now and didn't when they were a child.|
I could read by the time I entered first grade (I didn't go to preschool or kindergarten) just from reading with my parents so much. It was one of the things I was most looking forward to when having a child - reading with them.
And yes, my ds would always point to letters and ask "What's that?" He definitely did the letters, not the whole words, like sunmama mentioned her dd does. It's so funny how different each kid is. I am a math freak, and my sister can barely add, yet we were raised by the same parents.
I also wanted to point out that all of my children were late verbally (except for the middle one ) but she stopped taking at a year and waited another 6 months or so before utteriung another single word., (I must have tried to get her to say someting one time : ). But I think a childs verbal ability has a lot to do with when they can recite the letters and a baby who talks earlier is definitely going to be able to say thier letters earlier.
Your child is deffinitely ahead of the curve. Lots of kids can recognize a few letters at his age and even remember what sounds they make and how to spell simple words. especially if you make a habit to teach him. I also think it is perfectly normal for a child his age and much older to just not get it or just not care and there fore be unable to.
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My dd knew all of her ABCs, numbers up to 20, colors, etc way before she turned 2. She could sing the ABC song, and she recognized a few words. She just turned two and is now starting to "sound out" words. ("Duh-ah-dee. Daddy!") She speaks in full paragraphs, not just sentences.
Her favorite activity is reading, though - and I am not exaggerating when I say we read for about 4 hours a day.
However- she has friends who can color in the lines, whereas she scribbles. She has one little friend who can sculpt animals out of Play-doh. My dd just wants to feel it squish between her fingers. I'm not worried. She excels at what she likes best. I think it is totaly normal for toddlers.
(And I think it's one more reason to homeschool. I don't want her to go to pre-school next year and have to sit thru learning letters and how to count.)
|Imust have the only kids who hate being read too. They will both look at books unitl the cows come home but heaven forbid i try to read those books. They give me a look and run away|
My oldest dd didn't learn the alphabet until she was three and then some. But my youngest dd (now 2) has been saying the letters for months now because she follows the lead of my oldest dd. Sooo...so many factors go into it. The important thing is to follow their lead.
Ds2 is 19months and verbal, but not nearly as verbal as ds1. He likes playing with the fridge magnets but isn't interested in what letters they are. He also only likes being read to a bit.....mostly he's not too interested.
I knew my letters and could read (not recite from memory but actually read) at 18mos, can you believe it? My family thought I was a genius........well.......they were wrong, lol, I was just really into reading and ahead of the curve in that department.
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|think it just depends on the child, and a little on the parents.|
Before he turned 2, we used to play this game where he picked up a magnetic letter and as he shook it, I'd make the letter sound over and over. Then I'd name a bunch of words that start with the letter. Then about four months ago, he took a magnetic A out of the letter box, walked to the refrigerator chanting the short a sound. My husband and I were shocked. Soon, we realized he knew a bunch of letters and about a month or two later, he pretty much knew the sounds for all the letters. I am amazed because I used to teach preschool and I rarely saw 3 or 4 year olds who could do this.
But although I'd like to say, he can do this because we are such amazing parents...I think he can do it because he has an incredible memory. He knows shapes, his letters, colors, some numbers, can identify 5-6 states and about 5-10 countries. We really don't put any effort into it. We're very much into child-led learning.
I'll also say he's a late-talker...so while his brain his far ahead in one area....it's somewhat behind in another area.
Another child might be excellent at communicating with verbal language, but have no interest in the alphabet until they're eight years old. I don't think it really matters. We usually all get their eventually.
Both of my nieces learned their letters and numbers around 2 years old, that was what they wanted to do so they did it. I learned mine at age 2 in four days because I had wanted to do it earlier but did not have the opportunity (long story). Six months after that I was reading on a second grade level; my older niece is 6 years old and is only now comfortable reading on a first grade level. She's taken her own time about it, and it's all good. My younger niece has no interest in either putting letters together to make words or taking words apart to see letters (unless they're very large print :LOL). She's three years old, and no one is pushing her. She'll do what she wants when she's ready.
Eli is 15 months old, and many have said "that's too young to be teaching a child his alphabet". Well, Eli seems to think otherwise.
Oh, and about being read to: I hated to be read to as a child. I remember being three years old and someone trying to read to me. I took the book out of their hands and said "Thanks, but I'll read it myself." I always found it irritating that a)their voices never matched the way I heard character's voices in my head and b)they read so unbearably slowly. Only recently have I been able to tolerate listening to any "reading aloud". I've been listening to recorded books on long car trips, and I really enjoy that. Time to go, Eli is crying for the alphabet again and I'm going to be a naughty parent and indulge him. :
|Originally posted by trishshack
No you aren't theonly one. Ds does not like to be read to. He is about this about everything though, he has to direct how things go. Sometimes he wants to tell me his interpretation of what is going on by the pictures and sometimes he just wants to point to things and tell me what they are or ask what they are if he doesn't know. Whenever I try to actually read to him he says no and closes the book. Oh, when he opens a book he says "Once upon a time." and when he closes it he says "The end." It's so cute.
In their own time... that's the key.
But I do see the difference between having a child who just doesn't want to be read to and having parents who never make the effort. That's tragic, IMO.