Mornings are really rough, as DW and I are always in a rush to get out the door in the morning to get to work. We usually wake up and DW plays with her in bed or gets her dressed while the I get in the shower. Then we switch...DW showers and I have to let her play on the bed while I get dressed. I usually make her breakfast while DW gets dressed.
During the day, she has to either be on one of our laps of literally within touching distance. I can't even go to the bathroom without her either sitting on my lap or peeking between my legs while I pee. It's silly; she's such a funny baby!
She is simply not content to do anything by herself. It's pretty rare that we can even get her to play for three minutes on the floor with her toys if we are not playing with her.
It's really, really hard to get anything done. I can't even start to make dinner most nights because she is hanging on my pant legs, crying to be held. I know this won't last forever, but it's getting really bad.
Has anyone else's child been like this? At what age does it typically end? She has always been like this.... Any suggestions? We do have carriers (and use them..could honestly use them more) but she often gets bored after a few minutes and it can be hard to blow dry my hair with a baby strapped to me!
My DD is also fascinated with what's going in the toilet. I miss private pooping time.
ETA: Recently I've had success with dividing tasks up. For instance, she couldn't get through my morning routine of showering, tooth brushing, make-up and attempting to do my hair without having a melt down, so I've started doing it in phases. I brush my teeth, then go change her. I take a shower while she's in the bathroom. Then we go down the hall to the spare bedroom to do my make-up (the light is better in there, but the change in venue seems to restart her clock). We come back to the bathroom to blow dry my hair. Toys accompany us back and forth and there is a lot of chatting, stopping to smooch and general silliness going on, but the division of tasks really seems to be helping.
Happy Wifey to DH and loving Momma to DS1 4yrs and DS2 6 months.
DS1 is 5 and still deals with anxiety, but is a much easier child. I don't remember when he started to amuse himself a bit- maybe around 2? He was still always with me, but he began to play near me, rather than needing me to be entertaining him.
As for the bathroom issue..I'm fairly sure that once we become mothers we never eliminate alone again!
Doula mama to dd (Oct '11) & ds (Oct '08) and expecting (Apr '17)
The clinging is worse when she's sick, which I wouldn't mind if she'd just snuggle on me. But when I'm sick too, soooo tiring.
Like some of the mamas here, it's usually just me and my dd. (My mom helps once a week, otherwise, it's just us.) So what I've had to do is remember that caring for my little one is the most important thing, and most things can wait. Easier said than done!
I'll let you know when I'm able to go to the bathroom by myself!
DD is a little over 14 months and is perhaps worse than DS was. He would at least nap/sleep off me. She absolutely HAS TO BE touching me. She naps on me and goes to bed when I do and wakes up when I do (has stayed asleep perhaps 8 times- twice for 45 minutes-it was HEAVEN!!-and the rest for only 5 minutes or so). I am REALLY hoping that it starts to improve soon, before I lose my mind. I'm an introvert and almost 3 1/2 years of constant touching is beginning to take it's toll on me.
We also have a learning tower- got it when DS was little, can't remember how old. We've already been using it for DD for a few months. She fell out of it (slid out the bottom, NOT over the top, no injuries) twice in the beginning but no problems now. She stands in there when I am making breakfast or dinner, if I can get her to.
Both of my kids have always done better when we are out- I think they're distracted. DD not as much as DS, as she is a lot shyer. DS likes to interact, DD likes to observe.
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