What kind of testing is she talking about? I wouldn't jump on doing anything invasive, but I would probably consent to some bloodwork or that kind of thing.
Wife to DH (06/10) and Mummy to DD (07/08).
I am not worried about her. I occasionally have my moments (I am her mom, it is my job ). But she is full of energy, she LOOKS healthy, her hair and nails grow like crazy (so she is obviously getting lots of nutrients, those things often slow down or stop if a child is failing to thrive), her eyes are sparkly and full of life, and she is otherwise well. She does grow, just very slowly. And I am not large or tall, so she likely just takes after me.
OTOH I DID have a child who suffered from malnutrition. He was a very limited eater and needed feeding therapy to learn to eat different textures. He was still at the midpoint of the growth charts and was a large kid so it took almost a YEAR of me fighting doctors to take me seriously. It wasn't until I refused to leave without a blood test that I finally got help for him.
The difference is a big one. He was pale and lethargic. He had NO energy. He was clearly not thriving at all. Growth charts and averages mean nothing. Judge by the behaviour of your child. It never hurts to be cautious, but IME the difference between a thriving child and a struggling challenge is a big one.
YOU are the one who knows him best. Maybe just bulk up his diet with healthy fats if you are concerned about it. Otherwise you probably can tell if he is thriving or not.
We opted to a full blood panel. IMO, it's not that hard to have them draw blood and I want to r/o celiac just in case and check her iron & vitamin D levels, etc. This was Friday so I don't have the results yet. I'm pretty sure she's healthy, just tiny. Probably the same for your DS, but if I were you, I'd just want to make sure & blood tests are an easy way to start...
Stacy, mt to tiny Ocean
She normal and fine and just slender and petite.
If his eating is minimal, maybe food allergies are at play?
R~Mama to my sweet A 7//07 & bubbly Z 3/12
AND due 9/13
Sarah-Wife to Kelly, mostly organic crafty SAHMama to my angel, Canaan (11/01/07-03/15/2013) and Ezra (05-12-09).
The Dr. expressed some concern when he was younger but dropped it as DS got older and remained healthy and vibrant. Some kiddos are just built smaller than others.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" ~~ MLK
My DS is tall and skinny, just like his parents. He is 22 mo, 36" tall and 25 lbs. He barely gains weight, which is hard to believe considering how much he eats. He burns it all running around and in heat - he's the hottest kid. I always used to think he had fevers until I got used to it.
She also started eating a TON more when she started Montessori preschool two days a week. All of a sudden eating became her absolute favorite thing. Up until then she had always been WAY more interested in breastmilk than food (and she was almost two when she started). I think being away from me for a few hours at a time made her realize that food could actually satisfy hunger. Breastmilk wasn't really enough to satisfy her at that point anymore, so that really improved her weight gain when she finally got interested in food.
My DD is 31mths old and 23lbs, can't remember height but it proportional. My doctors office had us coming in every 6wks for weight checks, then when she wasn't gaining a lot, would make me feel really bad but offer no helpful suggestions. The last time I was there they said she might have failure to thrive. After that I called their office and told them to refer me to someone who could help me, seeing as all they could do was weigh her and make me feel badly. 3wks ago we went to a nutritionist and she said it was definately not failure to thrive. She is bright eyed, alert, meets milestones, talks, plays, is inquisitive, basically all healthy things. The nutritionist said if she is really energetic (which she is), she maybe burning through calories fast. Although she did suggest we test her for Celiacs Disease, just to rule it out. We plan to do this, as my DH's half brother has it. My husband and I are also small people 5'5" & 130lbs and 5'6" and 145lbs. I think it would probably be out of character for us to have a 80-100% kid!
I do have a small table for him to eat at but I think it decreases food intake because he gets easily distracted and is running off. I keep snacks there most of the time so if he is hungry he can have something. I would like to increase his vegetable consumption, but no matter what I try he refuses most all veggies. Any ideas for getting more veggies into him?
Also, dips. I find my kids will eat more veggies if I serve them with dips. So carrot sticks, cherry tomatoes, cucumbers sticks, red pepper strips, etc., served with blue cheese dressing, hummus, or Tzatziki sauce. An added bonus is a the fat from the dip helps you absorb the nutrients in the veggies
I wanted to know what is considered malnourished? Ive never had a blood panel done on him, but we had his iron checked and it was fine. When he was under a yr old he would get hives from dairy but that is gone now. He doesnt drink any kind of milk (gags) and because he is picky its hard to get fattening things in him.
I am concerned just like other mammas. His Dr. is just keeping an eye on him right now. I don't mean to hijack this post but I can relate.
We have a somewhat mainstream pediatrician that is open to non mainstream parents & ideas. He has never been concerned since she has always shown some sort of growth between visits & has met all the milestones.
I wouldn't be afraid to check bloodwork-while it may seem invasive or horrible-it takes a few moments & can rule out anything major.
Some kids are just smaller than others.
I expressed concerns at her 2 yo checkup and our ped said he rarely worries about a kid being too skinny (unless there are obvious developmental issues, which she does not have).
If you feel concerned, I'd go with a pp experience and see a nutritionist. I think they will be much better suited to give you advice. GL!!
Alison: BFing, BWing, ERFing mama to KidA (12/25/07) and KidO (6/26/10)
I sneak flax oil or butter into my DDs food. I put it in her yogurt or her oatmeal. She like nut butters too. I put them on her crackers.
I am 5'1 and we are all really short in my family so I know in her case its genetic.
Mama to L (7) and A (born 7/15 by VBAC)