A toddler that won't sit still - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 08:10 PM - Thread Starter
 
manleywoman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 56
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I have a 21 month old that is either home with us or with his part-time nanny. Therefore he's not often in a organized group of kids where he has to sit still for story time or songs. He's very friendly with other kids . . . great at the playground or on play dates. But we signed him up for a class here that's just 45 mins per week, all kids his age group, where they sing songs with a teacher My kid will NOT sit still! He wants to wander, run in circles, etc.

What do you do to get a toddler to pay attention and sit still? We've had to leave the class a few times when he's gotten disruptive (never mean or screaming, but just all over the place and distracting).

Thanks

Squishy Press: sustainably-made baby/toddler books. We create healthy books for hungry minds.
manleywoman is offline  
#2 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 08:15 PM
 
elmh23's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Where it's hot!
Posts: 9,359
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Uh, I'd take him out of that class and put him in a class where he can move (like Little Gym, gymnastics, swimming.)

I have three year old who I've only seen sit still like three times in his life, two times he was REALLY sick (once with croup the other with rotovirus) and the third time he was majorly sleep deprived from a vacation and strapped in to his carseat. A class with just sitting and singing would drive him crazy!

If you don't want to take him out of the class, ask the teacher if it's okay! She's has (more than likely) had other children who had a hard time sitting in one spot!

Mama of three.
 
elmh23 is offline  
#3 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 08:21 PM
 
zoeyzoo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Posts: 3,667
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 23 Post(s)
I still can't get my 24 month old to sit still for more than a minute. Seems perfectly normal to me.
zoeyzoo is online now  
#4 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 08:23 PM
 
laughymama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Joplin, MO
Posts: 424
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by ZoeyZoo View Post
I still can't get my 24 month old to sit still for more than a minute. Seems perfectly normal to me.

Wife to a bearded dude.
Mama to DS [05/21/08] & DD [09/16/10] 43 weeks 1 day!
laughymama is offline  
#5 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 08:42 PM
 
nelson's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: here, probably...
Posts: 374
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by manleywoman View Post
I have a 21 month old that is either home with us or with his part-time nanny. Therefore he's not often in a organized group of kids where he has to sit still for story time or songs. He's very friendly with other kids . . . great at the playground or on play dates. But we signed him up for a class here that's just 45 mins per week, all kids his age group, where they sing songs with a teacher My kid will NOT sit still! He wants to wander, run in circles, etc.

What do you do to get a toddler to pay attention and sit still? We've had to leave the class a few times when he's gotten disruptive (never mean or screaming, but just all over the place and distracting).

Thanks
OMG- I seriously wondered if I had unknowingly typed this question somehow. This is my DS exactly! We are even in the same situation where DS does great with other kids, is gentle, can follow directions ect. but we are also in a music class where he runs wild- it's like speed for him. While the other kids sit and actually participate (mostly), he is into everything- I think we aren't going to go anymore because sometimes the other kids actually start to follow him, thinking that what he is doing is more exciting than what the teacher is doing and I am realizing that he probably doesn't even like the class. I am kinda surprised how many kids his age actually do sit there, maybe those are kids whose parents know they can handle it and we're the parents who should get our LO's together for a play date at the playground

Happy Wifey to DH tiphat.gifand loving Momma to DS1 superhero.gif 4yrs and DS2  babyboy.gif 6 months

nelson is offline  
#6 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 08:56 PM
 
lifeguard's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Coyote Rock Farm
Posts: 6,574
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
I wouldn't even try to bring ds to something that involved that much sitting still. He only sits to eat meals & at that we spend the whole meal redirecting him to get him to sit again.

Surviving sleep deprivation one day at a time with dd (Oct '11) & ds (Oct '08).

lifeguard is offline  
#7 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 09:15 PM
 
crunchy_mommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 6,501
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I'm cracking up. My first thought when I read the title was, um, you mean there is such a thing as a toddler that DOES sit still??

It's totally normal to not sit still. At story hours about 1/2 the kids are running all over the library. The older babies run everywhere at LLL meetings. I wouldn't worry about it, if it seems like the entire group is expected to sit still you might want to consider finding a more child-friendly song group, I don't really see kids sitting still for 45 minutes straight!!

But small snacks, being well-rested, stopping at the playground beforehand, and holding him on your lap to point things out & encourage participation might help some.

Co-sleeping is really wonderful when your child actually SLEEPS!! familybed1.gif
crunchy_mommy is offline  
#8 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 09:19 PM
 
butterfly_mommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Toronto, ON Canada
Posts: 1,511
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
When I was a toddler teacher I never asked my tods to sit still. We would gather on the carpet were I would lead a 10-15 min story, songs, finger play stuff and some of my tods would sit and listen and some would wonder and listen and some just were not interested. This is how toddler groups should be run, there should be no expectation to sit still for even 10 mins let alone 30 mins!

DS and I went to our library ready to read program in the winter and it was 30 mins long for about 6 weeks. The teacher wanted DS to sit for it, it was really hard for him, we didn't sign up again. We also went to a singing circle were the tods were not expected to sit still it was in a tod safe large room and half the time DS was running around with the leaders 3 year old or standing in the centre of the circle dancing

Scarlett bfinfant.gif , DH Boris geek.gif , DS 1/29/08 Julian kid.gif DD2 6/7/12 babygirl.gif missing our DD 1/06/06 Sonja angel3.gif and MC @ 9 wks 11/18/06 Satchel  angel.gif

butterfly_mommy is offline  
#9 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 10:51 PM
 
LadyCatherine185's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Powhatan, VA
Posts: 3,371
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Mine doesn't sit still for longer than about 5-10 mintues at a time, and that is usually during meals, or right before bed while we are reading books. Like a PP said, are there toddlers out there that DO sit still???

I would take him out of the class, it is not developmentally appropriate to expect him to sit still for 45 minutes for a structured class.

Catie belly.gif- Happy wife to Aaron stillheart.gif(01.05), mama to Liambikenew.gif(08.08), and Ian jammin.gif (11.10)! homebirth.jpgnocirc.giffamilybed1.gif and joy.gif due Feb 2013 with blessing #3!

LadyCatherine185 is offline  
#10 of 21 Old 06-14-2010, 11:35 PM
 
MusicianDad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Tuponia
Posts: 10,838
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy View Post
I'm cracking up. My first thought when I read the title was, um, you mean there is such a thing as a toddler that DOES sit still??
I had the same sort of thought too. "Toddlers sit still?".

I agree with taking him out of the class. DS loves music a whole lot, but there is no way he would sit still for 45 minutes to sing along with a teacher when he can be up and running around singing his own songs.

malesling.GIFMutant Papa to DD (12)hippie.gif and DS (2)babyf.gif, married to DHribbonrainbow.gif
If it looks like I'm trying to pick a fight... I'm not, I'm rarely that obvious.hammer.gif
MusicianDad is offline  
#11 of 21 Old 06-15-2010, 01:05 AM
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Central New Jersey
Posts: 1,805
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Are they really expected to sit still? Most classes and story times I've been to expect kids that age to be all over the place.

Anyone who runs a 45 minute class with 2 year olds and expects them to sit still obviously knows very little about children and child development. I would take them out.

Nik! Mama to Evelynn Rose 08/19/08 and Autumn Lily 11/02/10
holothuroidea is offline  
#12 of 21 Old 06-15-2010, 02:06 PM - Thread Starter
 
manleywoman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 56
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Thanks all. I was wondering what I was doing wrong! I kid you not that ALL the other kids in the class either sit still, or if they do wander the room, don't seem to disrupt the other kids. My kid is just really active and loves to run run run (was call him Spinal Tap: his dial is always on 11!). So he runs in circles around the others.

There is only one class left, so we'll go, but I think we'll hold off on signing him up for the next session. It's just that it's a bilingual singing/music class and his only opportunity to hear the other language. And I love the teacher, and the songs are great.

Squishy Press: sustainably-made baby/toddler books. We create healthy books for hungry minds.
manleywoman is offline  
#13 of 21 Old 06-15-2010, 03:24 PM
 
Summersquash's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 193
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My 18 month old DD has a really hard time sitting still for more than 1-2 minutes at a time. She spots something interesting across the room and it's like, GO!!!!!!!

I agree with the poster that suggested a snack right before hand. That helps DD a little bit. Also, maybe observe your little guy and figure out if there is a time of day where his energy naturally is a little lower - maybe there's another option for a little class then? For DD, her energy is a bit lower about 10-11 am. She's not ready for a nap yet, but is tired from playing all morning. We've had success with a 20 minute library storytime around that time of day, she is still up and down but isn't at 100 mph.

Mama to a little bouncy girl (11/08) and someone new coming 11/11!
Summersquash is offline  
#14 of 21 Old 06-15-2010, 03:44 PM
 
monkey-lamb's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Austin, TX
Posts: 147
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I agree with the others that it is perfectly normal for a toddler to not want to sit still. I have the exact situation as you. My child has a nanny and isn't often around other kids and runs wild in her music class. I talked to her teacher about it, and she said it is perfectly fine for her to do her on thing as long as she is not running or endangering herself or another child. She calls her a kinetic learner. Even though my child does not sit in my lap and participate like the other kids, she knows all the songs and sings them on pitch. She is learning something in this class in her own way. As long as the teacher is not bothered by the behavior, I wouldn't worry about it. I do realize that this is easier said than done. It took many conversations with DD's teacher and hearing her sing the songs to get it through my own head.

Mommy to my Lamb, born 9/22/2008 and my Penguin, born 2/21/2011
: HypnoBirthing Mama

monkey-lamb is offline  
#15 of 21 Old 06-15-2010, 07:45 PM
 
BaMo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Posts: 736
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Agreeing with others, my almost 24 month old won't sit still for more than a few minutes.

Wife, mom to DS (4), DD (2) and baby heart 2.7.13

BaMo is offline  
#16 of 21 Old 06-15-2010, 09:48 PM
 
tbone_kneegrabber's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: West Philly
Posts: 2,779
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
mine often sits still for stuff like that, but only because we keep going back. some weeks he doesn't some weeks he does. The rule at the music class we go to is, "adults must sing/particpate/follow the directions, kids do whatever they need to!" its really nice that way, because it means all the adults are modeling what the kids should be doing, and not talking to each other the whole time, and the kids are often doing the stuff, but often not and that's okay.
tbone_kneegrabber is offline  
#17 of 21 Old 06-16-2010, 09:54 AM
 
BetsyS's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: world of craziness
Posts: 5,387
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My first child could NOT sit still for stuff like that. We were in a playgroup with a lot of much more mellower children, and we had to back off of some activities (limiting ourselves to park playdates, basically) for a while because of it. I was getting dirty looks because of my wild child.

I did keep trying, though, cause I thought it was important. I didn't want to pay to keep trying. So, we went to library story time weekly for a while. Somewhere around 3, 3.5, something clicked for him, and he can now sit for about 30 minutes (with lots of up and down, lots of interaction sort of thing).

My now 23 month old can sit through CHURCH!! Seriously--an entire hour long sermon, and it is fine. And, he's been able to do this for 4-5 months.

It's amazing how different different personalities can be.
BetsyS is offline  
#18 of 21 Old 06-16-2010, 12:25 PM
 
crunchy_mommy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 6,501
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by BetsyS View Post
My now 23 month old can sit through CHURCH!! Seriously--an entire hour long sermon, and it is fine. And, he's been able to do this for 4-5 months.
WOW! Church is one of the roughest points of the week for us! He hates sitting still, hates the quiet, and sadly uninterested in church music.

Co-sleeping is really wonderful when your child actually SLEEPS!! familybed1.gif
crunchy_mommy is offline  
#19 of 21 Old 02-05-2012, 05:13 AM
 
Anne Borden's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 1
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Your toddler is normal. Do not look at the "polite" 2-year olds and assume that's a great goal.

 

Active, curious, "wild", this is how toddlers learn (kinetic learning is the term) and should be appreciated and accepted, not seen as problem behaviour. So don't feel self-conscious if your child is actually learning instead of sitting still.

 

I know it's hard, my oldest was a very kinetic kid and I often felt embarrassed that he was "out of control". Looking back though, he was never aggressive or anything, he was just racing around and happy and excited. I had to take a deep breath and embrace it (/ignore the stares sometimes!). This was hard (?), but it made the whole experience a good, shared experience for us which is what it should be.

 

We are just over-focused on conformity at a too-early age when we need to just let them explore and be.

Anne Borden is offline  
#20 of 21 Old 03-13-2012, 12:18 PM
 
Tricks4Kids's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: SE Michigan
Posts: 26
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Thank you for posting this question (2 years ago! haha)...  I was going to ask something similar.  I also feel I am getting "dirty" looks from other parents at story time etc.  Like my child is out of control or I'm a lazy parent...  My son is 16 months and is on the go go go all day.  My husband was like this as a toddler and so were both of my son's grandpas.... they're all engineers now and still like to keep busy.  going to story time is not fun when you're chasing your kid around--i seriously work up a sweat and just feel uncomfortable with all the looks... i think we will stick to the mall play area, open gym and parks!  ROTFLMAO.gif


broc1.gifcarrot.gif

Tricks4Kids is offline  
#21 of 21 Old 03-13-2012, 12:36 PM
 
nstewart's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Posts: 1,721
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)


Quote:
Originally Posted by Anne Borden View Post

 

I know it's hard, my oldest was a very kinetic kid and I often felt embarrassed that he was "out of control". Looking back though, he was never aggressive or anything, he was just racing around and happy and excited. I had to take a deep breath and embrace it (/ignore the stares sometimes!). This was hard (?), but it made the whole experience a good, shared experience for us which is what it should be.

 

I hadnt' heard the term "kinetic" to describe a child before (although I'd heard of the learning concept!) and OMG that describes my DS to a T.  He does not sit still EVER.  He's usually so happy and joyfull in his movement and craziness though that parents just kind of chuckle.  Even at story time at the library, he hams it up and just gets a laugh or two.  I would never put him in a class where I felt sitting still was a requirement, it just would not happen!


N, wife to my goofball K partners.gif and mamma to my EC grad D (July 2010) and my new little love S (May 2013).  Exploring the uncharted territory of tandem nursing with my two boys.

nstewart is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off