I just started swapping childcare with a friend one day per week, and we plan to increase to two days per week once we get comfortable. Her daughter C is 10 months old, and DD is 16 months old. They get along pretty well together in general and seem to like each other- they laugh at each other and play little games. DD does really well at C's house with C's mom. And C seems fine with me, though maybe a little bit a fish out of water (she's never been with anyone but mom/dad for a whole day). The problem is that when C is over at our house DD gets insanely jealous... she does not want C to play with any of her toys, but worse than that she cries terribly whenever I pick up C to comfort her or even change her diaper. THis is the second week of our swap, and this morning was worse than last week. I really need it to get better or I need to figure out some strategies.
Does anyone have ideas of how to deal with this? I try to pay lots of attention to both babies, and I nurse DD whenever she asks as long as I'm not in the middle of something important with C. One thing that worked for C's diaper change today was to give DD a really great snack, and then she didn't seem to mind at all.
Napping is also a challenge, but for now I've got that worked out. Today I got C down while holding DD on my back in the ergo carrier. They both weigh over 23 lbs, so that was physically challenging! Plus DD wanted to play and kept trying to engage C, but she was so tired that she just went down in my arms. THen when I transferred her to the crib I had to rub her back for a while, and I quickly took DD out of the ergo and had her nursing standing up while I crouched down and rubbed C's back. It was interesting! Then I got DD to nap by nursing her down- so now I have two sleeping babies and I can play on MDC, yay!