Join Date: May 2005
Location: #12 Grimmauld Place
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Not crazy at all!
Dh's cultural norm is the years of cosleeping.
With our first, *I* didn't know anything yet. I bought the crib and all that. He slept with me, never in the crib, from that first night home until about 11 months.
At that point, I put a queen size mattress in his room, put him down there, and would go join him when he woke up, usually for the rest of the night.
It started with him sleeping alone for a few hours, till 1-2 AM, then eventually more like 4, and then all night by about 18ish months.
At 5.5, I tuck him in, turn out the lights, and he is sound asleep within probably 10 minutes. (he's been that way since shortly after DD was born when he was 27 months. That's when we transitioned from Mommy rocking him to sleep and putting him in his bed to him going to sleep in his own bed.)
DD slept with us until about 21 months. I was expecting new baby in just a few weeks. I knew we were moving and waited till after the move. If I had it to do again, given that I was going to move her before the baby came (our bed just is not big enough, nor is our room big enough for another bed)
I would've started the transition younger. She is now almost 3.5 and she's *finally* sleeping through the night most nights in her bed. (I put her back on the floor on a mattress, she had a higher bed, but she was scared of it. She was also scared of the dark, a nightlight helped immensely.) My mom lives with us, and DD got in the habit of joining her. I also need to transition her out of being rocked/snuggled to fall asleep. (4th baby due this fall!)
DS2 is 20 months and started sleeping in a bottom full-size bunkbed probably about 6 weeks ago? The first night or two, he joined us at some point. But ever since, with the exception of 5 AM yesterday, he has slept through the night in that bed.
All 3 share a room, I think that kind of helps them, they don't feel alone maybe?
I know lots of kids who have co-slept longer than mine and are fine....it's all about what you and your family want to do. I just thought I'd point out that if you wanted to try out a different arrangement, it might work out a lot easier than you thought! (DS2 was a surprise for me, but I also waited until he'd nightweaned himself and wasn't waking in the night most nights.)