My DD is 3 years old. We started potty training about a year ago. We made great progress but I would never call her trained. She will go 2 days without accidents and then the several days will have 4+ accidents. This has been going on for much too long now. I don't know what to do with her. Any advice on how I can get her fully permanetly trained. Am I the problem? Should I still at this point be telling her "you need to stop what you are doing right now and go use the toilet"? She has no problem going on her own some days but other days I just can't get her to go at all. She doesn't seem to care that her undies are wet most of the time. She hasn't worn a diaper other than sleeping times for the past year so I can't take those away. We have tried incentives, but she really isn't interested in the stickers or candy. Tried bigger incentives like a trip to the Dairy Queen or going for a bike ride. I just don't know what else to do. Most websites I read are for training a child that is new to potty training, nothing for the child that knows what to do but just won't do it.