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#91 of 111 Old 08-08-2010, 06:15 PM
 
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I'll argue! A 19 month old should be REAR facing!!!
Yes, but if there's not a seat available that she can be in RF because of her weight, FF it must be.

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But she is... and you do not seem willing even to consider the idea that there might be an underlying health issue that you are not trained to recognize.

Everyone around you is telling you that your daughter is exhibiting a visual sign that something might be wrong... she is twice the size of a typical toddler.

Okay, that might be perfectly normal for her. I hope that it is. You seem convinced that it is. But you haven't addressed anyone's question about what a doctor's evaluation has indicated.

If a doctor sees her and runs bloodwork and confirms your beliefs that your daughter is totally healthy... awesome!!

But it would be a tragedy if she is actually diabetic and it gets ignored because you so desperately want to believe that there is nothing wrong.

As an aside, just because people aren't responding with the words you want to hear does not mean that they are being unsupportive. Everyone here wants your dear daughter to be healthy and wants the best for you.

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I don't know if you are still reading but my last son was an over weight (obese) baby... so, I have been there, and have gotten all the stares and concerns from others.

He was born at 10lbs, was 20lbs at 10 weeks, 30+ lbs at 6 months and 42-43 lbs at a year. So he was not far off from your dd but 6 months younger.

He was not overfed as he was exclusively breastfed until 10 months. He hit all his milestones at an average age...crawling at 7 months, walking at 11 months... though he could roll over until he was nearly a year because he couldn't get the momentum... but it did come...

We did decide to go get him checked out when he was about 9-10 months old. I had to turn him around in his seat by that time, he wasn't eating yet and was still gaining... We went to the specialists at the Children's Hospital and there was nothing wrong with him... he was just a big boy and this was HIS normal...

His weight stopped climbing at about 14 months and he started growing more in height and even lost a bit of weight... Now he is nearing 4 and is the same weight as when he was 12 months old. He is much taller than his brothers were (he matches their heights a year before they did) and for the first time since he was a few weeks old, his bigger brother is now heavier than him.

I don't regret going to get it checked out because not only was it reassuring but it was a great way to make people stop talking...

BTW... here is the link to my son's photo album... If you start on the last page you can see the chub grow... http://www.flickr.com/photos/paxye/s...7594399388645/


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Yes, but if there's not a seat available that she can be in RF because of her weight, FF it must be.

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I agree... I had to turn my son around at about 9 months though I technically should have done it before.

The highest RF car seat at the time in Canada had a sticker of 30lbs. The radian was still pretty new and I knew it had a sticker weight of 35lbs in the States so I bought so it knowing that I would have 5lbs more (though not legal) and then stretched it out even a bit more until I could no longer justify the risk.

 
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I agree that a doctor's visit is in order. If the baby is average height and 45 lbs, then the baby is way too heavy. If the baby is proportionately tall, then there may be a growth disorder underneath it all.

Reading all these posts made me go look in my kids' baby books to see their weights. DS1 was over 9 lbs at birth and was a sturdy toddler and preschooler. He weighed 27 lbs at 18 mos, and didn't hit 45 lbs until he was 6yo.

DS2 was a 7 lb newborn and chubby baby, but toddlerhood thinned him out and he has always been a skinny-mini. He was 22 lbs at 18 mos, and I apparently stopped recording his height in that book when he was 8yo....and he was only 42 lbs! He is now 15yo and only weighs about 110 lbs (and is about 5'6").
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But she is... and you do not seem willing even to consider the idea that there might be an underlying health issue that you are not trained to recognize.

Everyone around you is telling you that your daughter is exhibiting a visual sign that something might be wrong... she is twice the size of a typical toddler.

Okay, that might be perfectly normal for her. I hope that it is. You seem convinced that it is. But you haven't addressed anyone's question about what a doctor's evaluation has indicated.

If a doctor sees her and runs bloodwork and confirms your beliefs that your daughter is totally healthy... awesome!!

But it would be a tragedy if she is actually diabetic and it gets ignored because you so desperately want to believe that there is nothing wrong.

As an aside, just because people aren't responding with the words you want to hear does not mean that they are being unsupportive. Everyone here wants your dear daughter to be healthy and wants the best for you.


My 6.5yo only weighs 43lbs..

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BTW... here is the link to my son's photo album... If you start on the last page you can see the chub grow... http://www.flickr.com/photos/paxye/s...7594399388645/


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Off topic, but I envy your photography skills and dang that baby is cute but huge at some points. I am sure the OP's is just as beautiful!

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my ds is 28 months old and 36+lbs. He's not overly tall, just stalky. my dd is 4 and she's 45lbs. she's tall though.
i think there is a big difference between 40 and 45 lbs. you mentioned your daughter was within that range. i would think if she was closer to 40 and proportionate and meeting milestones in a normal range, then there wouldn't be anything to be concerned about but might mention it to my dr. on a regular check up just to be on the safe side. i think 45 lbs at that age is really getting up there so again, i wouldn't really be concerned but would make a visit to see the dr. just to check her out.

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My son is 44 pounds and will be 6 in November. How tall is your child? Have you had her checked by her pediatrician for growth disorders? Most of them are not visible and testing would need to be done. If she is mostly breastfed I would be worried and would seek out medical advice just in case.

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I agree that you should really get a doctor's evaluation. Type 2 diabetes is caused by obesity, and is appearing in younger and younger children. Your daughter is at very high risk due to her weight. I realize that this sounds harsh, but if your daughter for some reason eats more than she needs to (underlying medical issue?), it is YOUR job to get the help that you need to figure out what is going on, correct it to the extent possible, and help reduce her risk of diabetes. How will you feel if you do nothing now, and come kindergarten she needs multiple shots of insulin to get through the day? (Note: I am not a doctor yet, but am 8 years into a MD/PhD training program and specialize in diabetes.)
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Have a doc check her out. ESPECIALLY, if she's eating healthy. My friend's 8 yo didn't seem to be getting any taller. Well, he'll just be short, right? His parents are short. Well after a few years, it was really becoming obvious that he wasn't growing. He had a pituitary tumor. It was removed and he has started growing again. Natural death autopsies reveal that up to 25% of the population has undiagnosed pituitary tumors.

http://www.eje-online.org/cgi/reprint/140/5/378.pdf

These people are usually older and the tumors are usually asymptomatic, but it just shows the frequency of these things.

I was just thinking to myself, "I hope I didn't scare her." But, actually, I hope I did scare you. Go to a doctor and get your child checked out. It's probably just your child's way of growing, but go ahead and make sure.

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What a weird resurrection of a very old thread...

(OP, did you ever take your DD to the ped?)

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Hi Honey,

After i read what you wrote I signed up specifically to respond to you. I know exactly what you're going through and I completely sympathize with you!!!!!  My daughter is 24 months old and she weighs 44lbs.  I get a lot of unwanted and unwarranted advice from almost everyone however if they actually knew how active she is and just little she eats they might think twice about their comments.  My munchkin is an extremely picky eater (eating mostly strawberries, blueberries, multi-grain cheerios, eggs, boiled chicken, spinach and she will only drink skim milk).  It is definitely not the food she eats or lack of activity!

I started to worry about her weight when she was around 18 months and I talked to my pediatrician about it.  Luckily my pediatrician is a very compassionate and caring doctor and she told me that chances are she has a slow metabolism and it might be due to some hormonal issues which run in the family (that we are now currently looking into). 

My husband and I are both chubby people and I grew up extremely active (competing nationally in synchronized swimming and then in Ballet) and I have fought my weight my whole life.  Even while training 40hours a week and being active I was still gaining weight.  They finally determined that I had hypothyroidism and think that my daughter might have the same problem although it is hard to determine in such a young child.  So unfortunately my daughter might just have a weight issue due to genetics.  I fear for her because I know how hard it is to grow up chubby.

I know what it is like to have people tell me what they think I should be doing, or what they think the problem is when they have no idea what is actually going on.  My husband even had a woman stop him in the grocery  store to tell him that our daughter was fat.  Had it been me who heard the comment I'm pretty sure that woman would be lacking her front teeth but I digress.

People can be cruel, but by the sounds of it you're doing everything right.  Just know that there is someone out there who knows what you're going through.  I may not have all the answers but in my opinion as long as our kids are healthy and happy don't worry too much about the rest.  You sound like a very caring and dedicated mom so keep doing what you're doing!

Sending you big hugs,

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Hi Kirsten,

 

I just wanted to say thank you for joining MDC and sharing your story! I hope the OP will come back and update us!


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What a weird resurrection of a very old thread...

(OP, did you ever take your DD to the ped?)


less than a year doesnt constitute as being very old in my book

 


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I'd love to see the OP post again. A lot can change in 10 months.

 

My DD1 was 33lbs at a year, 35 at 15 months, topped out at 37 at 17 months and was back down to 28lbs at 24 months. She started eating more than just a bite of solid foods at 17 months, that's the only thing that changed around that time.

 

We did not have any testing done because we saw her dr for regular well baby visits and he was absolutely not concerned about her weight at all. Now she's 5.5 and in the 90th% for both height and weight. She's just a big kid. If our doctor had been concerned, or we didn't see the dr regularly, we would have requested to have some bloodwork done, just for our peace of mind.

 

On the other side is DD2. At 12 mos she was 19lbs, 24mos 22lbs. Again, she was hitting milestones on target or early she was (is) just small. That's just her size.

 

 

 

 


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I'm sure she was fine, right? I'd like to get in touch with you. My one year old is currently in a similar situation. Can't figure out how to private message on here!
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The drop-down box under her name includes private messaging.  Unfortunately the OP stopped posting on MDC altogether with this thread, 2 and a half years ago.  I think she really didn't come back! 


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Yeah this is the OP here like, years later and I just want to drop a big fuck you to all the fatshaming, ridiculous concern trolls on this post who basically assumed I was a shitty parent and my daughter was dying of diabetes because of her size.

 

She is an incredibly healthy little girl and just stretched out from there, always tall, always healthy, always the biggest, smartest kid in her class. 

 

You all were completely useless to me and completely ignorant of the fact that healthy children can come in so many different sizes and shapes. Please please stop offering people shitty parenting advice based on NOTHING (there is NO science or here!), it was so harmful to me at a very vulnerable time in my parenting. 

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I'm glad your daughter's doing well.


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I am glad to hear that your daughter is well, but sorry to hear that you feel that doctor check ups are "shitty parenting advice."
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