He's only sat to poop one time.
So now he's been pooping in his pants every single day for about two weeks with the exception of once. He used to not wear underpants but now I force him because he was pooping on people's floors! The poop would fall through his shorts! UGH!
I see him do the poo dance and try to take him to the potty but he WON'T GO! I don't want to force him into diapers, he doesn't want them and I don't want to regress him, but... How do I stop this?? He starts his little preschool next week.
He did tell me today that he wants to keep the poop IN, which is new, the last few times he seems to be holding his butt to keep it in. Before that he didn't seem to have an issue with keeping it in.
He's not remotely constipated, either.
THANKS for any and all help.
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I like the idea of getting a bunch of small toys, stickers, etc. and very nonchalantly putting them in a bowl in the bathroom. When he asks about them, you say (also very calmly) that they are poop prizes, for when he goes poop in the potty. Then just see what happens.
Or you could try to find some really fun underwear with his favourite character on them, or I've heard that Old Navy has some cute Halloween undies, and tell him he can have them when he starts pooping in the potty.
I would also involve him in the process of cleaning up after he poops in his pants, and even draw it out if you have to. Be very calm, but you want him to understand that it is way easier to poop in the potty than to go through the whole process of cleaning up.
Some kids just need a bit more motivation than others.
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We also spent a lot of time talking about where pee/poo goes "In the potty!" when I wasn't trying to get her to go. We play acted with her doll and she helped her doll through the process.
I think the bottom line though is not to push him. I think the undies are a good idea b/c they will at least contain his poo, but still easy to get off for pee. Just keep involving him in putting his poo in the potty and flushing, every single time, talking to him about it, etc. and he'll eventually get there.
but i think what may be behind his reluctance is a fear that toddlers have that when they poop they are actually losing part of themselves/part of their body which is why they hold it in and then having it go down the toilet is doubly scary. this pshychological stuff i have no idea how to get over. they do have kids books about it though.
DS is 2.5 and has been urine trained for 6 months. He even tries-hard!-to poop on the potty, but cannot seem to relax enough to do it. Plus, he's used to standing to poop.
Anyway, I definitely agree, do not pressure him, that would surely backfire.
I also feel that getting him to poop anywhere other than his pants really might send mixed signals-you want him to associate poop with the bathroom and ultimately, with the potty.
If you don't already, try jotting down when he poops each day, and anything else of note, maybe where it happened, if he had any other indicators or behaviors going on. Hopefully you can establish approximately when he poops-so you can "intervene" more at times when he's likely to make a bowel movement.
For what it's worth, here's my 2 cents:
I'd suggest first working on having him poop in the bathroom, but don't worry about him using the potty, just learning to associate bowel movements with the bathroom. With DS I put him in a diaper(since he will only poop in one, not his underpants) and he asks for privacy, so I partly close the door and stay in earshot, and check in after a few minutes.
Personally, I do offer rewards. Did it for beginning PL(just a teddy gram for going in the potty) and it worked well. I also had him help clean up accidents. Accidents were always sort of "eh, it happens" but success was lots of praise.
All that said, your son might have specific issues my son does not. It sounds like he might have some anxiety about pooping in the potty, whereas my son tries, but can't do it yet. Look around for strategies specific to potty,and especially bowel-movement related,fears and anxieties.
best of luck!!!
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