I know background checks and all that are done, but I just wish when I dropped my daughter off in the morning they would have at least let me know. I don't think saying "I have a doctor's appt. today, my husband will watch the kids while I'm gone" is a difficult thing to do.
There's only 3-4 toddlers in the daycare. They are all older than my DD and the one closest in age I think is 19 months. I know she requires a lot of attention now and that whoever is dealing with it is not having fun, but before I signed her up I went over this extensively with her, I wanted to be sure she was ok with it, because I wanted to pick a place and stay there and I didn't want to mislead anyone. What bothered me was her tone, she seemed very frustrated, it was worse the last time she went and I just felt like she was telling me things I already knew. I'm expecting DD to be like that, because it's difficult for both of us, if I had a better financial situation I wouldn't send her to any daycare.
With the being dirty, I don't a problem with DD getting dirty and playing around outside. I just didn't know that kids got so dirty in a daycare, seriously I think 5 times her face has had dirt and food all over it and they have always been all inside and way pass their meal times. I mean DD obviously doesn't care and don't think I'm a germ freak or anything, I guess it's something to get used to.
With the food, the main problem is that we don't eat meat, so I'm always concerned about her diet. I wrote her a list of things she likes per her request, sent her with food the first week. She showed me a sample menu the first time we went, it nowhere said cheerios. I don't mind the cheerios, but I give cheerios and fruits to my daughter as a lazy breakfast and don't think of it as particularly nutritious. I don't think is bad food, but not good either. Maybe that's something she gives to the kids while she makes breakfast though, because she's always upstairs while the kids eat that. Maybe I can ask what did she eat today? I like to know what kind of things she ate to know what to feed her the rest of the day. I could send her with food, but again, I'm extremely broke. I already pay the daycare's full time rate because she doesn't do part-time and I really liked the place, and she's only there 1 full day and 3 half days. I can't buy food to send there and to have here. I just don't have the money. This is all very difficult for me
I know I am very protective and defensive, but I've never said anything to her. I just listen to what she has to say. I like to know, but damn not everytime I come in, at least not now, once she has adapted and she acts crazy I want to know because it would be strange in that case. I'm expecting her not to be herself and right now I want to listen more to the positive, to feel like we can do this.
I actually called today asking if I could pick up her carrier because we had to do errands. She's there with the other kids and said "well we're very busy here, but ok". I thought that was weird too. I just wanted to grab it and go, but once I was there I felt better, she was outside and spoke to me. She said DD only played with 3 of the kids, one her age, but that is away. A 4 year old girl and a tween.
She said the only boy she has a problem with is the one she pushed and when we first came in, he kinda had a problem with her and would grab away everything she grabbed, but it was whatever to me. He's like hey I'm the youngest here, you're stealing my spot haha, but now he's being super nice to her and she doesn't want any of that. Toddler relationships are funny, but I felt better because before she made it sound like she didn't interact with anybody.
So I guess we'll have to keep adapting and seeing how things work out. Thanks for your perspectives
, it's really a weird thing to adjust.