I know chances are she'll just surprise us and go on her own, no prompting from us...when she is ready. I guess I'm just really thrown by this because she wants to do so many things on her own. And she was using the potty at one time. What happened?
So first I would love to hear others tell me this is all normal and either help with tips or what I can do to just relax about it.
Thanks so much.
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I'm glad you posted because it's nice to know I'm not alone. Sometimes I feel like every toddler on MDC is dry before 2 except mine.
Corrieoseal, it does wonders hearing someone else going through the same thing esp. with our LOs near the same age. This morning I did hide her diapers and told her we had to buy more at the store. She looked befuddled because the little rascal has a great memory asking where the diapes went. But it worked, I mean at least she wore a pair of underwear for almost 3 hours dry. Then we were going out and I was like "oh look what I found . She sat on the potty twice and for quite a while each time but nothing. She asked me to read to her while on the potty...so hey, baby steps, right?
I made the mistake of checking facebook during DD's naptime and saw playgroup friends post that their DD's who are 3-5 months younger are almost diaper-free and one actually went 3 night dry! I might sound snarky when I say that I live in a university town so many of these moms could afford to stay at home longer than I could so maybe they just had more time to devote to potty training? Though many parents went back to work sooner than I did, I'm sure, and aced the potty training thing. Sigh. So, anyway, it was good that I got on this website ASAP for confirmation that DH and I aren't alone!~
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I keep reminding myself that she will eventually use the potty... she may be 8 years old, but she will eventually she will figure out that diapers are not forever!
I did decide to switch back to cloth so she feels wetter. And there are times, out of the blue, that she will go and use the potty completely on her own. And a few times she has even told me that she needs to go when we are out and about (for some reason it has been when we are at a gas station and she suddenly has a fit to go potty inside where the bathrooms are usually really gross, but hey at least she went!) So I think that there will be progress at some point. It will have to be her choice to get excited about it, I just can't force it. But it is hard feeling like it is out of my control.
Forget about the potty for a week or so, have it available but don't mention it or offer it. Then reintroduce it.
Has she ever peed/pooped on it?
I think it is better if they have a success you can make a big deal out of. First thing on waking or when filling the bath tub are good times to try peeing and increase the chance of success. If/when she does go on it clap/cheer/sing/dance/give a reward, whatever you think she'll respond positively too.
Try having her sit on the potty while you're peeing on the toilet. My DS likes to do this. If you're sure she's got to go, give her something to play with/read/watch while she's on the potty so she doesn't give up too soon.
Don't worry about accidents or how long it takes. That will only make it unenjoyable for both of you. If you're relaxed it will be no big deal to potty train her even if it takes a year. If you need to put it off for your (& her) sanity no big deal. She'll eventually figure it out.
I added fun stickers to DS's potty to make it more appealing to him. Plus an open door policy to the bathroom let's them know that everybody goes - I even get cheers for going in the toilet. LOL
Of course with ds I was also much more relaxed about the whole process. He really led the whole thing but staying dry through naps and then taking off his own pullup to pee afterwards. After that, I realized it was probably time to buy him some underwear and attach the potty seat.
Just like yours, she was very interested at 18 months and even peed in the potty several times.
Then she turned 2 and just lost interest.
She's interested in watching me sit in the big potty but she wants nothing to do with the potty, big or small.
She's recently asked to sit in the potty in the middle of her bath. I think this came from me saying we don't pee or poop in the bathtub.
She's peed once on the potty during one of these middle of bath potty breaks but that's about it.
I'm not stressing it though. From this board and from some friends, I realize that it's one of those things that's going to click and I just have to be patient.
Plus, I figure I'll have enough to worry about when she's ready to go potty outside. I've heard enough stories of having to find a potty asap for a underpants wearing child. I'll just bank my worries for that time.
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