i am actually leaving sunday to fly across the world with my toddler. on my own. still trying to wrap my mind around it.
we havent purchased a seat for him, he is under 2, and will be a lap child, we could not afford an extra seat - it's that simple, and there is no guarantee he will actually sit in it... even asleep, i would hate to spend 2000 and then have that seat empty.
i am bringing my own snacks / food. both homemade and pre packaged. if they take it away from me, so be it, ill figure sth out. most airports now you can find decent stuff. i've flown before on my own a lot internationally, and ive never had a problem with that. they might make you throw away drinks and such, but things like granola bars, nuts, etc, never seemed to bother anyone. im hoping it's still gonna be this way.
i dont think i will bring many toys, he is not into them anyway, and i cant imagine him playing with his toys on the airplane. i will bring several of his favorite books (thin), a bunny he likes to cuddle with sometimes, and a blankie he likes (i read somewhere that items like that make it easier for kids to "transition" from home to a new environment).
i will also be bringing a bag of PAPERCLIPS. my friend said she had it with her when flying with her toddler, and it kept her entertained for hours. they made bracelets, necklaces, etc. and if paperclips get lost, noone cares. i can totally see my toddler playing with something like that.
i will also be downloading sesame street on my iphone. my son is mostly tv-free with the exception when we are in somebody else's home and tv is on, but i think if he decides to throw tantrum in the midst of 12 hr flight, i will be ok with him watching some in order to keep my own sanity and that of other passengers.
when booking your ticket, make sure you allow for adequate layovers that will let your child run around enough. make sure you LET him run around, ive seen many a kid on intl flights that after being confined into a stroller in the airport, go completely wild on the plane.
make sure you have a sippy cup / binky (if he uses one) / your boob ready for take off / landing. swallowing will prevent your child's ears from hurting because of elevation change.
im also taking a stroller which probably is not an option for you since you have the care seat, but last year when we flew to HI, it was a huge help, either the baby was in there or the carry on and the baby in the carrier. there are also these things http://www.amazon.com/Traveling-Todd...7634275&sr=8-2
that help you get the best of both worlds
something like thishttp://www.amazon.com/Plum-Organics-...7634341&sr=8-2
is my favorite when it comes to portable pre packaged snacks. you unscrew them, and your child can just sort of suck on them, no mess!!! the only thing is that you have to watch sugar content in those. some companies relly put a lot in there! but there are some that are just mashed fruit, too.