My 2 month old will go down for naps just fine sometimes, but many times she needs rocking, patting, humming, etc before she can really get into the right space for drifting off to sleep. The problem is, she'll just about be "there" and then my almost 2yr old dd runs in talking loudly, shrieking, banging something, closing and opening the door, etc and then baby wakes right up. She leaves and baby drifts off again...then toddler is back. It happens over and over and I spend HOURS trying to put the baby down. If I could just get a solid 10 minutes, I could get her down and then be totally free to play with almost 2yr old dd! I wish she understood this!
I've tried giving her a snack and some TV time, but she still just wanders in after me. TV doesn't hold her attention. I've tried giving her special toys that are only brought out when I go in to put baby down but with a frequently napping newborn sometimes the special toy was never put away from the first nap and it isn't special anymore. (messy logistics of a chaotic household of 2 under 2 I guess). I've thought about putting her in her crib for a few minutes to keep her safe and out of trouble, but I think she'll throw a tantrum and feel isolated and left out. I don't want her to think of her bed as punishment.
I would wear the baby for her naps but she doesn't nap very long in the carrier, spits up on me (excessive spitter-upper) and it just kills my back to try to do household things with her in the wrap or Ergo. It's very uncomfortable for both of us unfortunately. Not to mention it's 110 degrees outside (literally) and we get really sweaty.
Any ideas to keep toddler quiet while putting baby down? I'm losing my mind and dd's behavior is starting to deteriorate.