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#31 of 56 Old 03-08-2012, 05:19 PM
 
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We did the newborn, 2 week, 8 week and then the 6 month happened to land around when our family was getting over a crappy stomach bug and DS was barfing more than I was comfortable with. Then we did the 12 month for kicks. DS is 19 months now and I have no reason to think to take him in. DD, due any day now will go to a newborn and perhaps the 8 week. Nothing else though assuming she's well. We don't vax, I get nursing and food guidance from an IBCLC and I can't see dragging DS and a newborn out for a 2 minute look-see. 


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right. and exposing my child to sicknesses from other little kids, when she is perfectly healthy.

 

 

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I totally agree, although I don't see how an annual visit to an MD is the right way to be preventative. Although I guess that is a whole 'nother thread orngtongue.gif


 

 

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I do personally take my little ones to all their "well baby" visits.  I actually enjoy our regular trips to the doc so that I can hear how awesome and healthy my kiddos are. i know kinda obnoxious but true.  I still take my girls in once a year even though they are now 7 and 8.  Beyond my need to have people tell me how great my kids are though ; )  i like taking them regularly from the beginning so that they get used to going to the doctor and that way its not a strange and scary situation should the need ever arise to go.  After so many visits and being familiar with the staff  they know nothing bad or scary is going to happen and if they are good they will be out and getting a treat in no time.  I don't count on them actually catching anything thats wrong though.  They are usually pretty quick and only ask basic questions. Either way I would think you would be fine.

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I totally agree, although I don't see how an annual visit to an MD is the right way to be preventative. Although I guess that is a whole 'nother thread orngtongue.gif



Actually I think an annual visit for a physical can be imperative for preventative medicine.

A pap smear can detect problems well before cervical cancer is a problem. Not going to be done by a naturopath.

Getting blood pressure and cholesterol checks at least every two years significantly reduces death by heart desease. The number one killer of both men and women in North America.

 

There are many illnesses that can be treated if detected early or if the underlying cause is detected early.

 

I also see a naturopath, osteopath, etc.

But I do try to get an "annual" done every 12-24 months. 

 


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It was important to me to find a good pediatrician for Little. She was born at a military hospital, which was awesome in some ways, but I didn't much like the "pediatric warehouse" approach to her early well child visits. When DH got out of the military I looked for a pediatrician who was a fit for me. We go to a fantastic pediatric ARNP who has her own practice and is very laid back and supportive of my parenting style. She's extremely gentle w/ Little, looks her in the eye when she talks to her, and doesn't act like she doesn't particularly care about babies (a common trait in the pediatricians I saw at the military hospital). We vaccinate so I plan to go to all the appointments. I also like to hear how perfect Little is :)


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I have always done them, but I had a great Doctor, until we moved this year from Washington to Missouri.  The doctor is great, but I don't think he is up on breastfeeding.  He actually had me go and get infant vitamin drops for my baby because I was breastfeeding.  And is always concerned that he isn't growing enough. So if I have a fourth I will probably skip them.  But like everyone else I like to hear my babies are doing great.  It is nice to have a doctor that is familiar with your child in case you need them.

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minercuter - I'm also in Missouri, and I feel ya on the lack of breastfeeding knowledge by medical professionals. The whole state just has really dismal rates, and in fact, I never once (in my entire 27 years in the state) saw someone else breastfeeding until I had my own baby and stuck her on the boob. Shameful.

We see a family practice doc (who at least breastfed her own kids) and go to all the well-baby visits. I like my doc, she's been DD's doc since before she was born, it's nice to have someone to talk to about her progress. She dropped several percentiles (from 50th at birth through 3 months to 25th at 9 months, to 10th at 12 months, to 5th at 13 months, and then she's held steady at 5th since then). She didn't go to a sick-child visit until she started daycare and got hand, foot, and mouth at 15 months old, so I can see a doctor who we didn't have a relationship with really freaking out about how "small" she is -- but it's something the doctor already was aware of, that we'd talked about, that I'd privately obsessed about, so she even referred us out to a nutritionist, who agreed with my doc that everything was fine and that some kids are just small. She's happy, helathy, meeting milestones, and proportionate with her height, which has always been 5th percentile. I know other kids in similar situations who don't go to the doctor who have been labeled "failure to thrive."

We also chose to have her lead and iron tested, and that bloodwork happened at a well-baby visit. Lead becasue our house was built in 1952 and it most likely does have lead paint (results came back normal) and her iron because she did not eat many solids until 9-12 months (also see above wieght concerns) and I wanted to see if she needed to take a vitamin supplement (results were also normal).

Anyway, I don't think you have to go by any means, I was just explaining my reasoning for opting in to the traditional well-baby schedule. As I type this out, it seems to be mostly for my own reassurance. I definitely do think it's worthwhile to find a good doctor, so if you're avoiding them because your care options are no good, you might use them as an opportunity to shop around for one you like.

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So interesting to see all the different opinions. I never thought about wanting my kis to be used to doctors. We don't stick to the WBV schedule since it is primarily based on the vax schedule which we opt out of. I try to take the older ones in about once a year just to establish a baseline since we have a bit of an alternative lifestyle. The newborns go in a couple of times the first year. I love our pediatrician too. She doesn't give us flack for not vexing. She's a big breast feeding advocate (nursed her two boys for over a year each), never gives me weird looks when I tell her how Ive been using oils/herbs/foods to manage ailments, and is even interested to learn from me in the areas I'm knowledgable. So the visits are pleasent but I still mostly feel they are a waste of time.

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We do well baby / well child visits for a whole bunch of the same reasons that have already been listed. My oldest child is 14 and the youngest is 11 months (5 kids total) so we have a very well established relationship with our pediatrician. On reason to have a good relationship with a pediatrician that hasn't been mentioned is for legal protection. A teacher at my son's elementary school reported us to DFACS because she didn't agree with my parenting but when the pediatrician had my back it was case closed!


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i know of a few people who will have a "non sick" visit in September when school starts again .... so as to get whatever health certificate is necessary to register to do whatever choosen sport for the year & it's a good time to get the weight and height charts completed too ...

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Yes and no. Once upon a time I did no well visits at all, it just wasn't needed for that child at that time in her life. I ended up with 3 out of 4 children that have some special needs so I keep a good relationship with my pedi. I love her though and it is more like visiting with a friend. Some kids go in for well visits regularly, others not on a schedule but here and there. None of the issues were identified by docs without me knowing there was a problem, I knew there were things were off. Some kids are on daily meds that we get scripts for from our pedi. Having a close relationship with my doc has been helpful. She pulls strings for us with specialists, during many hospital stays, etc... I can call her up and tell her I need something, a med for example and she will gladly do it without making us come in because she trusts my judgement and knows when I ask, there truly is a medical issue going on. 

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ziursrm I totally agree with what you said, that's pretty much why I asked because I feel likewise to you.

 

Thank you all for sharing. It has been interesting to hear your opinions.


 

 

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we dont take our children to those baby wellness clinics. 

I have a great pediatrician who is also my family doctor. we take the kids for their vaccines when they are due and if our children ever got really sick (knock on wood it hasn't happened yet) we would take them in then too. My son is done his vaccines for now so unless something is wrong or I am concerned about something he will be seen once a year. My daughter is almost 6 months so she still has a lil way to go before she is over the hump with the doctors visits. 

 

I chose not to go to the clinics as I find strangers who know it all will NEVER know my individual children. So I skip the judgment all together. 

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We have not taken our daughter to a ped since she was one week. My husband is a chiro and does regular "check-ups" with her just like they do at doc's office, plus she gets adjusted regularly (great preventative care AND treatment). If we feel she needs to see someone for any kind of illness, ailment, etc, we have a few naturopaths we plan on going to. 

 

I was a little worried at first about not taking her, but I hear soooo many stories about "your son is not gaining enough," "your daughter is gaining too much," "here's an antibiotic," "supplement with formula," etc. I weigh her every once in a while on a scale at my mom's house, and she's wearing 12 months clothes at 12 months, so I know she's growing (though if we had been going to ped, she would have been "underweight" at her 6 month visit). And when she has teething/ear/nose stuff happening, we treat her herbally/homeopathically anyway. I know there are a few circumstances where a pediatrician or md would be necessary and appreciated, but we trust ourselves as parents and want to instill the trust in our children to know their bodies and that when given the opportunity, the body knows what to do.

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We don't do them anymore, but we do chiropractic wellness maintenance with a pediatric chiro. We basically do the same things at the chiro (weight, height, etc) but without the worries of the germy pedi's office. Between myself and the chiro, we'll easily catch anything that might need a MD or DO to check out. 


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We go to all the doctor visits for these reasons:

- we trust the doctor and evidence-based medicine in general

- we know that we are capable of making good decisions even if a doctor pressures us to consent to treatments we don't want

- our son has good medical insurance so cost for well-visits is never an issue

- I like the documentation that our son is growing well and developing normally (since we're vegan, some people criticize us - it's nice to be able to just tell them "our doctor says we're doing everything right")

- we don't want our son to fear doctors so we go there so he doesn't associate medical care with "something is wrong" or "I feel sick"

- we want to model proactive behavior by demonstrating that it's OK to ask a doctor lots of questions, get second opinions, do research, etc.

 

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My kids are both older, and well past the immunizations-at-every-visit stage, but I always did well checks, even if we weren't doing a vax at that time, either by schedule or bc we were delaying one. I figured it was good to keep on track in terms of medical record, and we like our doc (family practitioner). I always find something to ask about before the next visit, that doesn't warrant a visit all on its own, but I make a note to ask next time we're there. Unless the relationship with the doc is a strained one, I think it's a good idea. 


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We did the well baby/child checkups for the first 2 years, but haven't since then.


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We don't do them here, in fact my daughter (2 in June) has only been to a doctor's office once, when my husband thought maybe she should have a check up (around 1 yr or so old). He agreed that it probably wasn't necessary but made him feel better. That being said, we have a close family friend who is a great family dr (and our dr even though we don't use him much) and when he came by to meet her around 4 months he did a check up (also gave one to me, my husband and my mother) and I have called him once when she had croup (he gave me a bit of telephone advice) and once when she got her first barfing flu a few days after we returned from Mexico and I was terrified.

The cost is not an issue here, since we are in Canada. I just don't like waiting in germy waiting rooms (I have a number of friends who complain about how sick their LOs get after every dr or health clinic visit) or wasting my time waiting to see a doctor for no reason or to hear really basic info. I pay attention and am informed, and look things up if I am worried. I watch for milestones or problems. I also call our local health link where nurses will answer questions if I do have any (I usually don't know why I bother other than some sense of reassurance as I am actually a total hypochondriac!)

If a child had a known health issue, vaccinated on schedule (or at all) or I had any real concerns, I think it would be a different answer.

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I went until I got reamed over the coals for "wasting their time" since I didn't vax. So I didn't go until we moved. Now I'm taking all three in shortly for check ups, it will be the first time in over a year that any of them went to the docs (except my youngest who ended up in the ER because he was vomiting blood). I know my middle has a lazy eye and told the doctor last time she had a checkup (so over a year ago) that she had it and was told "they just grow out of it".. She hasn't, she needs to see a optometrist but our insurance requires a referral from their primary care physician to see one otherwise its not covered.


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I am out in left field on this one.  I haven't had my 19 month old in since her 4 month visit.  This is judgmental, but I don't really need someone to tell me to not shake my baby and remind me to not leave her in the bath alone, etc.  I don't really need the hand holding.  I don't vaccinate yet.  Don't plan on starting until at least 2 or maybe three and don't want the lectures anymore.  I have actually had 2 doctor's offices decline to see me because of my vaccine stance.  But anyways.  I will take her in if something seem amiss or she gets injured.  

 

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Just curious, wanna make sure my kiddo will live if I don't take her to her well-child appts. winky.gif

 

No, but really. Sometimes I get a little nervous when we don't go. We haven't been since she was a newborn and then once at a year.

 

Do you go? Why or why not?


Nope.  I don't take any of my kids.  We started off on the perfect schedule with my oldest, but by 15 months I realized there was no point.  *I* knew he was doing well, so why go and risk exposure to the germs?  We don't vax, so no need for regular appts.  We make an annual physical visit, but other than that, I treat most issues at home and what can't be usually ends up in a local urgent care clinic we love (our family doc is about an hour and a half away), and we are just fine.  I keep up on their progress and knew what the doc was going to say long before anyways.  I already knew trouble areas if we had any and was already working on them.  Why spend the time and risk the germs?  Doctors and hospitals are for sick people, in my opinion, not the well.

 

I've successfully raised my oldest to 7 years old with 2 sibs right behind and another on the way with this, so I think whatever you choose, you'll be fine!


 

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Thanks everyone for all of your great responses. 

I feel pretty good about our decision to not go at this point, as I don't have that warm, fuzzy feeling about going to the doctor, nor have I found one that I even "trust". 

 

Anyways, best wishes to you all, and may our babes thrive in health!


 

 

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