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Old 06-06-2012, 07:53 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Hi ladies,

Just curious if anyone else has had a similar experience or any advice/insight!

 

My DD is 2.5 (3 in August) and she has just over the last day or so been acting much more sensitive. She loves to pretend to be Wendy or Tinkerbell from Peter Pan, but today she told me a couple of times that "Wendy/Tinkerbell is not happy". I gave her a hug and asked her why she is not happy - often she will tell you the reason when she is crying. But all I got was a few tears and hug. She's been wanting me to carry her all over the house today (which is just not an option for me - I'm just about 36 weeks pregnant and it's just not comfortable!!) But when I tell her that I can't carry her but we can hold hands or she can come sit down with me, she gets upset like she's going to cry. And the same reaction when we have to reprimand her - which we do not even do harshly.

 

Nothing has changed in our household lately, really. I'm thinking she might be anxious about the new baby coming, but I'm not sure if that is the only thing causing it.

 

I went to a yoga class for an hour and a half tonight and she got to spend the evening with Dad, which she always looks forward to. He said that she had a lot of fun with him, but wanted a lot of extra hugs compared to normal.

 

I hate seeing my little girl seeming so sad! I'm curious if any other families have gone through the same thing around the time of a new sibling's arrival, or if you all have any insight on other causes? Thanks a bunch!


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Old 06-09-2012, 05:40 PM
 
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I think your instincts might be right that this is related to the new baby. She knows you are 'carrying' the baby all the time and can't carry her. Understandable!  The more you say you can't, perhaps the more she wants to be held.

 

Maybe if you did some reading with her about the feelings big sibs have about new babies, and/or do a puppet show or something that is '3rd person', she might get some relief. In other words the idea is to talk about all these BIG feelings she has without kind of putting her on the spot. This might help her to know that you really understand how she is feeling. Then perhaps some snuggling sessions, side by side, instead of in arms (perhaps you'll get a nap out of the deal!!)

 

This sounds like a rough time with 4 weeks to go! Hang in there!
 


 
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Thanks, Lauren!

 

That is a really great suggestion about trying to talk or play through the feelings she's likely going through. I will have to give that a try! I've been trying to give her lots of hugs and cuddles, which sometimes seems to help.

I just feel bad for her since she didn't choose for me to have another baby!! I'm sure it will all be fine in the end, but it's so hard knowing that this is so hard for her.


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