Mucho privato.. but need help. - Page 8 - Mothering Forums
Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#211 of 234 Old 07-07-2012, 06:00 AM
 
BroodyWoodsgal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 2,453
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by philomom View Post


The standard thinking now is to teach kids all the right names. If the unthinkable were to happen... your children, both girls and boys would have the language to tell a trusted adult what was touched. ..... not just say... "so and so touched my bottom" .




Yeah I kind of see this concept as being somewhat relevant...but I think a kid who says "soandso touched my bottom" and a kid who says "so and so touched my vulva" have about the same chances of getting the help they need...because it all comes down to the parents.

My kid tells me "soandso touched my bottom" I'm not going to be like "Oh, okay...well, if you'd said vulva I would be alarmed...but your bottom, eh, no biggie" - especially not if I know my kid says "bottom" for "vulva". You know?

Actually, now that I really think of it...I cannot imagine that it would make any difference at all what the kid calls it. In this day and age, if a kid says "soandso touched my _________" most adults ears are paying close attention by the time the kid gets to the word "my"...you know? If the word following "my" is in any way a private region or sounds like it could be a euphemism for "vulva"/"vagina" it's not going to be ignored by any sane mandated reporter or parent. If a kid seems uncomfortable and is telling you that someone touched them...you're going to ask follow up questions, you know? It's not going to be like "Oh, he touched your muff-muff? Well I don't know what that is, but is sounds fairly ridiculous and nonsensical! Go play, little girl!" You know?

 

transylvania_mom likes this.

Me and DH ...lovin' DD dust.gif(6/08) and DS kid.gif(11/09) Plus NEW BABY!! DD baby.gif (UC-5/12) We heartbeat.gif Water Birth/Homebirth/No Vax or Circ/BF/BW/Country Livin'! chicken3.gif

BroodyWoodsgal is offline  
#212 of 234 Old 07-07-2012, 06:08 AM
 
tillymonster's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Central Coast California
Posts: 1,020
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
We call it hooha. Yoni is one I've used as well. Not too cutsie and really is obvious what we are talking about. wink1.gif

geek.gif Mama + superhero.gifDaddy +energy.gifDD (12/20/09) = heartbeat.gif

Expecting stork-girl.gif #2 in September!

tillymonster is offline  
#213 of 234 Old 07-07-2012, 10:47 AM
 
tropicana's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 503
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

i think the terms are important for when they talk to a police officer or child protective services or whomever would interview them in the event that they were molested. 

 

we all "touch their bottoms" all the time when we pick them up to boost them up to the top of a slide or whatever innocent touching goes on. WITH CLOTHES ON, of course.

 

very very few people should ever touch their unclothed vulva per se or their vagina or their penis per se. that should only be mom or dad or whomever trusted caregiver guardian, AND only in select circumstances such as putting ointment on a rash, especially as the child gets to preschool age. 

 

that is the difference...

tropicana is offline  
#214 of 234 Old 07-08-2012, 06:35 PM
 
gemasita's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Apex, NC
Posts: 1,500
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Wow, this is *some* thread!  It has me laughing out loud!

 

I was trying to think of a word to use for my 17-month-old son when he sees me use the bathroom and points between my legs.  I don't like vagina because that is the internal part, not what he is pointing at.  FWIW, I like the term the poster on the first page suggested:  crotch.  It's pretty general until he gets older and needs to know more specific parts.  Glad I read this thread because I couldn't think of a word on my own.


Jamie, DW to Jeff, birth and postpartum doula and Hypnobabies instructor.
4 years and 5 IVF cycles in the making, Elliott was born at home in water on 2/2/11.
gemasita is offline  
#215 of 234 Old 07-09-2012, 07:47 AM
 
SweetSilver's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Westfarthing
Posts: 5,010
Mentioned: 5 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 46 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by gemasita View Post

 FWIW, I like the term the poster on the first page suggested:  crotch.  It's pretty general until he gets older and needs to know more specific parts.  Glad I read this thread because I couldn't think of a word on my own.

Yeah, we grew up with "crotch" and my mother still spoke it like the word was being choked out of her.


Give me a few minutes while I caffeinate.
SweetSilver is online now  
#216 of 234 Old 07-09-2012, 11:25 AM
 
zinemama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: from the fire roads to the interstate
Posts: 6,588
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by tillymonster View Post

We call it hooha. Yoni is one I've used as well. Not too cutsie and really is obvious what we are talking about. wink1.gif

I've only heard grown women joking around with friends call it a hooha, which I've always considered kind of vulgar. I had no idea parents seriously taught their kids this term.
zinemama is offline  
#217 of 234 Old 07-09-2012, 11:27 AM
 
Imakcerka's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 4,065
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 6 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by zinemama View Post


I've only heard grown women joking around with friends call it a hooha, which I've always considered kind of vulgar. I had no idea parents seriously taught their kids this term.

 

 

You can find wipes called Hooah's.  But you'd find them on base/post/port.  You take em with you when you're out in the field to wipe your parts.  I always thought they were hilarious!

Imakcerka is online now  
#218 of 234 Old 07-09-2012, 12:17 PM
 
zinemama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: from the fire roads to the interstate
Posts: 6,588
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Imakcerka View Post


You can find wipes called Hooah's.  But you'd find them on base/post/port.  You take em with you when you're out in the field to wipe your parts.  I always thought they were hilarious!

Isn't 'hooah" some military manly-man thing that they say?
zinemama is offline  
#219 of 234 Old 07-09-2012, 12:44 PM
 
Imakcerka's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Posts: 4,065
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 6 Post(s)

I was in the military... I don't think it's all manly.  But whatevs

Imakcerka is online now  
#220 of 234 Old 07-12-2012, 11:34 AM
 
crystal_buffaloe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 821
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
We were already saying vulva/vagina with my 25 month old, but then I read this today:
Quote:
And, here’s another good reason to add to the PANTHEON of reasons to teach your children the anatomically correct names for their genitalia:

There isn’t a child molester on earth who’s going to talk to your daughter about her vagina. Really. But if she suddenly starts calling it a cupcake, you can ask her who taught her that.

So I'm going to step it up and tell the grandparents they need to be saying vulva/vagina, too.

Link to the full article: http://www.checklistmommy.com/2012/02/09/tricky-people-are-the-new-strangers/
Millie Ivy likes this.

  reading.gif, mama to Amelie (May 2010), early loss (October 2011), and James (September 2012) vbac.gif

crystal_buffaloe is offline  
#221 of 234 Old 07-13-2012, 11:11 AM
 
1stTimeMama4-4-10's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Posts: 626
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I hope that since people are so concerned about the potential of child sexual abuse that you are all aware that the VAST majority of sex offenders victimize children who they have intimate access to. These are trusted friends and relatives, not the wired who lives down the street. I am much more concerned about preventing access to, well, pretty much everyone - and I do mean everyone - while my child is unable to communication with complete clarity. So for me, that's not really a factor in the decision of what to call genitals. By the time more people have access to my child, she will have a better handle on the specific anatomically correct language. And this thread was so fun before!

Happy fly-by-nursing1.giffamilybed2.giffemalesling.GIF, delayed/selective vaxxing, WOHM to DD1 4/10 diaper.gif, DD2 8/12 babygirl.gif and partner/wife for thirteen years to SAHD DHsuperhero.gif.  

1stTimeMama4-4-10 is offline  
#222 of 234 Old 07-13-2012, 01:06 PM
 
crystal_buffaloe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 821
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I think that most people are aware that children (and adult women) are most likely to be sexually abused by someone they know. Believe me, you're not teaching me anything new here. My grandmother was abused by her uncle and I was assaulted in junior high (by a family friend, at our house).

If DD all of a sudden bursts out with something about her "private parts" when we've been using anatomically correct terms and I ask her who said that, I seriously doubt she's going to say "oh, the creepy man behind a tree at the park," but she might say "Uncle Joe" or "Father Mike" or even "Cousin Sally" and then I would very much want to know why that person had any business discussing anything about "private parts" with her, since DH, MIL, my mom, my sister, Miss L (our former DCP) and I are the only people who have ever taken her to the bathroom ever. A lot of molesters groom children by laying a lot of groundwork before moving in -- and that might well include "playful" talk about genitals.

In any case, we made the decision to use correct terms long before I read that article yesterday. I think it's a compelling argument not to use a variety of euphemisms, or to feel comfortable talking about it around everyone because you are using a euphemism, or to seek out the most common cutesy euphemism in your area/at your daycare/whatever, and it's something I had not thought of before.

Clearly, you can make whatever choice you feel is appropriate for yourself and your family. This is just part of my experience/reasoning for what we are doing.

  reading.gif, mama to Amelie (May 2010), early loss (October 2011), and James (September 2012) vbac.gif

crystal_buffaloe is offline  
#223 of 234 Old 07-13-2012, 02:20 PM
 
BroodyWoodsgal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 2,453
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by 1stTimeMama4-4-10 View Post

I hope that since people are so concerned about the potential of child sexual abuse that you are all aware that the VAST majority of sex offenders victimize children who they have intimate access to. These are trusted friends and relatives, not the wired who lives down the street. I am much more concerned about preventing access to, well, pretty much everyone - and I do mean everyone - while my child is unable to communication with complete clarity. So for me, that's not really a factor in the decision of what to call genitals. By the time more people have access to my child, she will have a better handle on the specific anatomically correct language. And this thread was so fun before!



Thank you, I was feeling this exact same thing...but didn't know how to say it.

As an adult survivor of childhood SA, I am extremely firm in my "policy" about who is allowed unsupervised time with my LOs. Everyone in the family(both sides) understands that my kids are not allowed unsupervised time with anyone except the one person I trust completely with my kids: my MIL. Everyone is cool with this....and that's a good thing, because I don't tolerate haters when it comes to this kind of thing.

My experience and background being what they are, this policy allows me to kick back, worry free. My mother was a SA survivor...she worried constantly about us being victimized. Ha. My abuser was my stepfather and everyone's "favorite guy". He was the "nice guy"...the handsome, well educated, super helpful neighbor everyone loved.

The person who molests your kid is, statistically speaking, not going to be some hairy dude in an alley or a menacing pervert who breaks in through the basement. It's going to be your husbands brother. The extremely well-liked karate instructor...the teenaged babysitter you've known since he was two, etc. So, in order to prevent my mind from burning itself out with worry, my kids are never, have never, been in the care of anyone but me and DH...except for the rare occasion that my MIL watches them while I hit the store or take a nap. Until such time that I think they are "old enough"...this will remain the policy. In any case, by the time I think they are old enough to be in situations where the unthinkable COULD happen...they will be way beyond the point of

So yeah. My kids know the correct terms for their anatomy...but they can call them whatever they want. I'm not really worried about it. My son has been referring to his penis as "the big hose" (hahaha, it is ADORABLE) and my DD calls her lady parts ma'gina...as in "my vagina" smashed together. Whatever. When she has an itch she knows to say "vulva". My "caring" about what she calls it ends there.


Me and DH ...lovin' DD dust.gif(6/08) and DS kid.gif(11/09) Plus NEW BABY!! DD baby.gif (UC-5/12) We heartbeat.gif Water Birth/Homebirth/No Vax or Circ/BF/BW/Country Livin'! chicken3.gif

BroodyWoodsgal is offline  
#224 of 234 Old 07-14-2012, 11:16 PM
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 150
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by philomom View Post

Vulva or labia is best. The vagina is the inside part that no one sees.
Always, always use the proper words with your kids. make sure they can name their parts with no shame!

I couldn't agree more. Even if you, momma, don't see shame in the word penis or vulva, your child may interpret your choice not to use it as shame. If you call it what it is, I think it will be normal for them to talk about things frankly, just as they are about other topics that might other wise be touch-y subject, like sex. Maybe that seems like a big jump, but it really isn't. If vulva, penis, vagina, and breast are normal words for them, then talking about sex should be much less uncomfortable for everyone.

jewel1288 is offline  
#225 of 234 Old 07-15-2012, 11:12 AM
 
P.J.'s Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 1,538
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by crystal_buffaloe View Post

We were already saying vulva/vagina with my 25 month old, but then I read this today:
Quote:
And, here’s another good reason to add to the PANTHEON of reasons to teach your children the anatomically correct names for their genitalia:
There isn’t a child molester on earth who’s going to talk to your daughter about her vagina. Really. But if she suddenly starts calling it a cupcake, you can ask her who taught her that

 

I just read the article. Good tips. But this part makes NO sense! If my son calls his penis "wee wee", and all of a sudden has a new word, say his "light saber"....well that is a new word no matter what he's been calling it; penis, wee wee, whatever. There is reason to dig deeper  regardless, and having used anatomically correct terms until that point will have had no influence.

 

Same thing for those of you who are saying the kids need to be able to accurately describe anything that has been done to them: as long as you know what they mean does it matter if they are saying wee wee or penis?


Mama since 2010
Multicultural living in Europe
P.J. is online now  
#226 of 234 Old 07-15-2012, 05:04 PM
 
eclipse's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Mexico
Posts: 7,867
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by P.J. View Post

I just read the article. Good tips. But this part makes NO sense! If my son calls his penis "wee wee", and all of a sudden has a new word, say his "light saber"....well that is a new word no matter what he's been calling it; penis, wee wee, whatever. There is reason to dig deeper  regardless, and having used anatomically correct terms until that point will have had no influence.

Same thing for those of you who are saying the kids need to be able to accurately describe anything that has been done to them: as long as you know what they mean does it matter if they are saying wee wee or penis?

I have read studies that suggest that pedophiles are more likely to choose victims who don't use anatomically correct words for their sex organs, because using anatomically correct terms suggest to the pedophile that they have open communications about sex with their parents. Predators capitalize on the taboo nature of so many things surrounding sex. If your child is able to indicate that it isn't a taboo in their family, the predator is more likely to worry about the child disclosing what happened.
Youngfrankenstein likes this.
eclipse is offline  
#227 of 234 Old 07-15-2012, 06:11 PM
 
katelove's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Australia
Posts: 3,785
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 14 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by P.J. View Post

Quote:
Originally Posted by crystal_buffaloe View Post

We were already saying vulva/vagina with my 25 month old, but then I read this today:
Quote:
And, here’s another good reason to add to the PANTHEON of reasons to teach your children the anatomically correct names for their genitalia:

There isn’t a child molester on earth who’s going to talk to your daughter about her vagina. Really. But if she suddenly starts calling it a cupcake, you can ask her who taught her that

I just read the article. Good tips. But this part makes NO sense! If my son calls his penis "wee wee", and all of a sudden has a new word, say his "light saber"....well that is a new word no matter what he's been calling it; penis, wee wee, whatever. There is reason to dig deeper  regardless, and having used anatomically correct terms until that point will have had no influence.

Same thing for those of you who are saying the kids need to be able to accurately describe anything that has been done to them: as long as you know what they mean does it matter if they are saying wee wee or penis?

I don't think it's so much a matter of the parents understanding what the child means but more a matter of being able to present an unambiguous case for prosecution. If the defense can argue that someone, somewhere uses "wee wee" or whatever to describe something other than their genitals then it can cast reasonable doubt on what happened.
AnnaBees Mama likes this.

Mother of two spectacular girls, born mid-2010 and late 2012  mdcblog5.gif

katelove is online now  
#228 of 234 Old 07-17-2012, 10:33 PM
 
thursday2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 120
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

This is unrelated to the original topic, but seemed pertinent to the discussion at hand:

http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/article/2012/06/22/talking-with-your-kids-about-sexual-abuse

 

I myself am not comfortable with referring to female genitalia as vulva, etc. - it has nothing to do with shame, I just think it sounds harsh and clinical, and I do think that the looks and comments my DD would get in the store, etc. if she yelled out "My vulva itches!" would do more to harm/confuse her than calling it something else.  We call it penis for DS, and he has shouted about it in public, but people find it funny...that's societal, I'm sure, and probably where this whole debate stems from...  Anyway, DH and I talked a lot about it after reading this thread, and whoever suggested "nethers," thanks!  We often call DS's stuff 'junk' as well, as in, "Hey, kid, get your hands off your junk!" if he's playing with the whole area because I think it keeps it lighthearted, which is what we'd like.  I feel like nethers is a good female equivalent that doesn't sound so doctor's office...

 

But that musing aside, the above article makes some really interesting points about why it's a good idea to use the proper terminology from the beginning - as groundwork for later discussions about the bad side of sex.  If the first time they learn about sex and sex parts is in the context of "here's bad stuff people might do," it's going to start them with a culture of fear - this is how I was raised, and why I never told anyone about the SA I went through, and why I had/still have a lot of issues.  If they know about the neutral/good stuff already, telling them to watch out for the bad stuff is just the other side of it, like strangers or hot stoves or anything else that they have positive or neutral associations with initially that you add nuance to as they mature.  I hadn't thought of it like that before, and it's definitely going to influence how we talk about things with both our kids.  I thought I'd share for anyone else that found herself eye-rolling through some of the posts - winky.gif

thursday2 is offline  
#229 of 234 Old 07-18-2012, 07:25 AM
 
SweetSilver's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Westfarthing
Posts: 5,010
Mentioned: 5 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 46 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by thursday2 View Post

This is unrelated to the original topic

Everything just about is unrelated to the original topic on this thread, so why not?  orngtongue.gif

 

I don't find "vulva" too clinical.  "Vaginal vestibule"..... now that's too clinical!


Give me a few minutes while I caffeinate.
SweetSilver is online now  
#230 of 234 Old 07-18-2012, 08:25 AM
 
philomom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Pacific Northwest
Posts: 9,430
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by eclipse View Post

I have read studies that suggest that pedophiles are more likely to choose victims who don't use anatomically correct words for their sex organs, because using anatomically correct terms suggest to the pedophile that they have open communications about sex with their parents. Predators capitalize on the taboo nature of so many things surrounding sex. If your child is able to indicate that it isn't a taboo in their family, the predator is more likely to worry about the child disclosing what happened.


Yep, I've read those studies, too. It's so important to be able to call a spade a spade and have the power of language behind your kids.
philomom is offline  
#231 of 234 Old 07-18-2012, 02:01 PM
 
Youngfrankenstein's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 2,273
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by thursday2 View Post

 

I myself am not comfortable with referring to female genitalia as vulva, etc. - it has nothing to do with shame, I just think it sounds harsh and clinical, and I do think that the looks and comments my DD would get in the store, etc. if she yelled out "My vulva itches!" would do more to harm/confuse her than calling it something else.  We call it penis for DS, and he has shouted about it in public, but people find it funny...that's societal, I'm sure, and probably where this whole debate stems from... 

But a lot of us here are asking you to examine whether you should hang on to this discomfort and unpack your feelings towards using the correct terms for the female anatomy.  Why is it easier to say "penis"?


Mama to 4. winner.jpghomebirth.jpg
Youngfrankenstein is offline  
#232 of 234 Old 07-18-2012, 02:55 PM
 
themothership's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Maine (more specifically the Blue Hill Peninsula)
Posts: 148
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

We use anatomical terms (penis/vulva). It may make others uncomfortable, but it is what works for our family. Are there embarrassing moments in public? Of course, like the time my daughter said "Momma has her period, blood on her vulva" (she was 24 months), but I'd rather my daughter know what body parts she carries around instead of having it called a bug, or teedle (both family terms for  the vulva).


Mama to  Hadley (2/10) energy.gif& Sawyer (1/13) babyboy.gif familybed1.gif

 

themothership is offline  
#233 of 234 Old 07-18-2012, 10:08 PM
 
thursday2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 120
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Youngfrankenstein View Post

But a lot of us here are asking you to examine whether you should hang on to this discomfort and unpack your feelings towards using the correct terms for the female anatomy.  Why is it easier to say "penis"?


I don't like cutesy terms either, btw, but I don't think it's necessary for me to work out my issues via my daughter.  *shrugs* Not accusing anyone else of that, it's just how I feel about it.  Some of my issues I know (SA survivor, religious upbringing, mom still won't even say "private parts" despite being married to a doctor - she just gestures and makes horrible faces), some are societal influences having to do with feminism, etc....and the rest I don't really care.  There are lots of things I would like to change about society and it's view/subjugation of women, etc. etc. and a lot of things I think I overblown.  She'll know what it's called, much like my son knows both knee and patella, and she can choose what to call it, I suppose, but if I'm doing a disservice to feminism or my own growth by being uncomfortable referring to it as a vulva on a daily basis, that doesn't bother me in the least.  Better that than her sensing my discomfort and my having to get into a discussion with a 4 year old about issues I hope she never has to face.

thursday2 is offline  
#234 of 234 Old 07-18-2012, 10:14 PM
 
thursday2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 120
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

Oh, meant to add: I think it's easier to say penis because it's not as harsh.  I feel about the word "dick" the same as I do about "vulva."  It's a harsh word; I don't like it.  The OP was mocked for her not liking the sounds, but I agree.  I'm big on words and sounds, and I don't like V words for the most part - when looking at baby names, we skipped the V chapters entirely because I know how much I don't like them, so it's not do completely with anatomy, or gender roles.  I think cunt's a better word than vulva, but has connotations I don't like for a child using it...  For women, there's not a particularly neutral/attractive word out there like penis - and yes, that's to do with society, but it is what it is.

thursday2 is offline  
Reply

Tags
Toddlers

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off