He's been out of diapers at night for almost a year. Previously, he'd occasionally have accidents at night (once a week at the most), but I could usually prevent those by taking him potty after he's been asleep for a couple hours. Lately, he's wetting the bed almost every night, even when I take him potty in the middle of the night. Last night, it was twice. I'm having a hard time not being angry about it, especially because he starts laughing about it when I wake up and find him all soggy, and says things like "I like to pee in the bed mommy!". I'm having a hard enough time sleeping as it is being in my 3rd trimester, getting woken up to clean up a mess just makes me super grouchy.
It's been a rough summer for him. We recently moved several hundred miles, and it was a rough transition with us bouncing back and forth between our new house and my in-laws and vacation with my family. We're still not totally unpacked yet, but we've settled back into our routine for the most part. He weaned (not totally of his own accord) a few months ago as well. Also, he knows something is up with my belly getting large. We talk about the new baby a lot, but of course he doesn't really get what having a new baby will really mean.
He's still in our bed, but I'm planning on transitioning him to his own bed as soon as we buy a mattress for him. He's done fine in a separate bed from us on vacation previously, but I'm afraid it's going to make the bed-wetting worse.
I've been letting him have his sippy of water at bed time (it helped with the weaning), because as long as I took him potty a couple hours later it wasn't a problem. But he didn't have anything to drink past dinner last night, and that didn't seem to make a difference. He doesn't have anything to drink in the middle of the night.
I refuse to put him back in diapers. When he was potty training I was a little too reluctant to let go of the night diaper and he went from being dry all night 80% of the time to wetting every single night, until I bit the bullet and took away the diaper. I do have him sleeping on washable waterproof pads, but sometime he rolls off of them and pees on my sheets anyway. This morning after the second time he wet his pants, I changed him and cleaned up and put him on a wool blanket because all the other pads were dirty, and he got up and shoved it out of the way and laid down on the bare sheet.
He's having random accidents during the day too. Like before dinner last night. I was cooking, and he was purposely half-way "falling" off the couch and calling for my help to get back up. He's perfectly able to get on the couch himself, if he'd just put his feet on the floor instead of launching his torso to the floor and trying to keep his legs on the couch and get back up. I refused to help him with his invented problem as I had dinner on the stove and the next thing I know he's peed all over himself and the couch/floor.
Sometimes (especially when I'm tired and grumpy) I really think he's doing it on purpose for attention. Especially the dinner time one yesterday, dh cleaned him up since I was dealing with dinner, and ds was really mad about it, yelling for me the whole time. I'm trying to give him attention during the day when I can. Yesterday we walked to the park and I played with him there for over an hour. He asks for help for things he can do on his own frequently, and most of the time I go ahead and help him. Like, he's perfectly able to go to the bathroom and wash his hands without any help, but he still wants me to come to the bathroom with him and watch while he does it, and so I do.
I really really really don't want to be dealing with cleaning him up multiple times a night and nursing/changing a newborn. I'm just not sure how to get him to stop the accidents, or how to handle them in the moment when they happen. Have dh do the clean up? Make ds "help" with the clean up? I'm trying not to be so frustrated about it, but I'm still so unprepared for the new baby, and this is just one more thing I'm having to worry about.
First think I'd do is make sure there isn't a medical reason for the peeing, maybe a urinary tract infections. Some kids get them with no other symptoms than peeing. Beyond that, I would have your dh take care of it, since you think he's doing it specifically to get your attention. Then, give him extra snuggle and the extra time outside of that. It does sounds like it's been quite and upheaval for you both. I hope things clear up soon.